Conflicted about potential relocation for job

[Anonymous]

The benefit to your kids of having a parents in a fulfilling job, plus the opportunities that the $$ will afford, outweighs having to move. Go and don’t look back!

[Anonymous]

How generous is the relocation? I am currently being offered moving costs but that’s it. What else are companies offering these days to be competitive? We have been in our current house for a while so it would cost almost double to buy a comparable house in a new location. On top of that we have a sub 3 percent interest rate and obviously will not get anything close to that these days.

Anonymous wrote:I’m 40F, recently laid off, married with three kids (11, 8, and 2). We live in an area I really dislike - moved here for DH’s job several years ago but he has been fully remote since Covid - but have a gorgeous house here. I’ve had a very hard time finding any community and it’s a place where you’re inside half the year due to cold and snow, and it gets harder on me every year.

I’ve been interviewing with a company for a role that read as tailor-made for me, and they’ve moved me through the process very quickly: I would be making more than I made in my previous role and it’s a great opportunity for my career. DH is senior in his company and there’s no indication they will go back to in person: maybe a meeting every few months.

This new role has required on-site presence several days a week in a state I would *love* to live in, with a comparable cost of living to what we pay now. The company I’m interviewing with offers generous relocation; they’re flying me out for the final round next week. But I recognize that uprooting and relocating will be a huge change for all of us. How do you go about making such a big decision?

TIA.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a no-brainer.

[Anonymous]

It depends…what state? Florida where most books are banned and vaccinations for kids not covered?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends…what state? Florida where most books are banned and vaccinations for kids not covered?

Yes, Florida. We currently live in West Virginia so you do the math.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How generous is the relocation? I am currently being offered moving costs but that’s it. What else are companies offering these days to be competitive? We have been in our current house for a while so it would cost almost double to buy a comparable house in a new location. On top of that we have a sub 3 percent interest rate and obviously will not get anything close to that these days.

Anonymous wrote:I’m 40F, recently laid off, married with three kids (11, 8, and 2). We live in an area I really dislike - moved here for DH’s job several years ago but he has been fully remote since Covid - but have a gorgeous house here. I’ve had a very hard time finding any community and it’s a place where you’re inside half the year due to cold and snow, and it gets harder on me every year.

I’ve been interviewing with a company for a role that read as tailor-made for me, and they’ve moved me through the process very quickly: I would be making more than I made in my previous role and it’s a great opportunity for my career. DH is senior in his company and there’s no indication they will go back to in person: maybe a meeting every few months.

This new role has required on-site presence several days a week in a state I would *love* to live in, with a comparable cost of living to what we pay now. The company I’m interviewing with offers generous relocation; they’re flying me out for the final round next week. But I recognize that uprooting and relocating will be a huge change for all of us. How do you go about making such a big decision?

TIA.

Our rate is higher and that’s a consideration, because we bought our house very recently (I was laid off two weeks after we purchased). Definitely a potential snag, but not sure it is a non-starter.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a good move. Go for it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It depends…what state? Florida where most books are banned and vaccinations for kids not covered?

Yes, Florida. We currently live in West Virginia so you do the math.

I wouldn't live in FL, but if you are willing (sounds like you are), make sure that with this job you can afford private school and college for all 3 of your kids, because FL public schools mostly suck. Add the book bans, attitude toward vaccines, and politics in general, and you get a place I wouldn't want to live or raise kids no matter what the job

[Anonymous]

We moved for DH’s job when our kids were 9, 4, and 1. Move was so easy for the younger ones and tougher on the oldest, but he adapted. It sounds like mostly pros to your move. I would do it in a heartbeat as long as DH was on board.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 40F, recently laid off, married with three kids (11, 8, and 2). We live in an area I really dislike - moved here for DH’s job several years ago but he has been fully remote since Covid - but have a gorgeous house here. I’ve had a very hard time finding any community and it’s a place where you’re inside half the year due to cold and snow, and it gets harder on me every year.

I’ve been interviewing with a company for a role that read as tailor-made for me, and they’ve moved me through the process very quickly: I would be making more than I made in my previous role and it’s a great opportunity for my career. DH is senior in his company and there’s no indication they will go back to in person: maybe a meeting every few months.

This new role has required on-site presence several days a week in a state I would *love* to live in, with a comparable cost of living to what we pay now. The company I’m interviewing with offers generous relocation; they’re flying me out for the final round next week. But I recognize that uprooting and relocating will be a huge change for all of us. How do you go about making such a big decision?

TIA.

It’s a no brainer

[Anonymous]

Get the job first.
come back to discuss later
good luck with final round.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends…what state? Florida where most books are banned and vaccinations for kids not covered?

Such ignorance. Schools do not have time to teach all books, therefore they must choose. In Florida, books with content potentially offensive to parents are not chosen. These potentially offensive books are not banned and are available for purchase and in libraries (or you could start a non profit to distribute sexual content to kids and see how it goes.)

Same with childhood vaccines. If you want to protect your kids, you get them vaccinated. No problem unless you put your newborn in daycare in an area with many unvaccinated people (Mennonite daycare?) while they are too young for the vaccines. Oh, but wait, areas with lots of developing world immigrants have the same problem.

The best thing about these policies is that they keep PP and others with similar bigoted attitudes from moving south.

[Anonymous]

Seems like a very easy decision. Good luck on your interview!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is DH on board or no?
If he is I think the decision is made.
If not, what does he see as the reasons for staying?
Ideally I’d move at the beginning of summer so not as disruptive on the older 2 kids schooling.

DH is on board - he loves the place I’m interviewing (it’s coastal and southern). But I do think I’d have to rent a place for the first half of the year to get all of the logistics together (including school for the kids).

Coastal and Southern you are a dam fool,,

What do you not understand about Project 2025
What do you not understand about how this new job will exist only til 2028

Listen when they spew. Shame on you for thinking this is ok for your kids.

I’m as liberal as they come and you sound unhinged.

+1. OP, ignore this poster, they tie every post whether political or not back to trump and project 2025 and can hardly write a complete sentence.

[Anonymous]

I would never live in WV or FL because of the terrible educations for kids so I can't advise you there except that WV is MUCH less expensive than pretty much all areas of Florida.