When getting to know someone do you ask them if they own a house or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always ask if they own or rent. It’s important to know what kind of man they are. Ain’t no shame in being careful.

It’s largely irrelevant measure of a financial security

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a valid question to ask.
If she owns a house, she won't be flexible. She'll need to sell the house for you both to move in together. A lot of single women who own their homes are very reluctant to do that. So, it's important to find out early on.

Untrue actually have much more financial flexibility to live anywhere they want you can always rent lit out

You don’t know what you are talking about. Most homeowners can’t just move to live anywhere they want. It’s the opposite.
Being homeowner isn’t the same as being wealthy. Homeownership rate in the US is over 60%. That doesn’t mean 60% of Americans are wealthy.

[Anonymous]

No, it actually would not occur to me because for me that's not a sign of anything. I grew up living in various countries because of my father's work, and we kept renting everywhere we went: nice places too. Only once did we rent a house, and it was less comfy than the apartments. My parents finally bought a condo in their favorite capital city when they retired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one I know or who I've ever met has asked about owning a house

Same

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No. I have never asked that and have never been asked. Very weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not in the dating market but I think it’s a fair question. I wouldn’t want to date someone who wasn’t fincially secure.

Lol. Ever heard the term house poor? You can be a homeowner and not be financially secure. Renters can rent and still be financially secure.

You need to grow up. And get a clue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It’s largely irrelevant measure of a financial security

Women aren't very bright

[Anonymous]

People who don't own a house by 30 are probably not financially intelligent and a big red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are trying to gauge your finances. There are a lot of men and women in the dating pool that are floundering in very large debt.

I've had the dates follow me out to the parking lot to get a look at the car I am driving (again...trying to gauge your finances.)

A woman I dated for a couple months gauged my finances. I had an apartment in DC, and not a cheap one, that I rented with the intention of staying in during the week. She wanted to "talk" where she stated that she couldn't be in a relationship with someone my age ( 34 at the time) who did own a condo or home. What she didn't know was that I had a $6 million beach house, a 2.5 million dollar house I owned that I let my parents use rent free, and a $1.5 million condo on the Med in Nice. I looked at her in disbelief, smiled and laughed out loud, said thanks got up, dropped $50 on the table for our drinks and walked out of cafe without saying another word.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are trying to gauge your finances. There are a lot of men and women in the dating pool that are floundering in very large debt.

I've had the dates follow me out to the parking lot to get a look at the car I am driving (again...trying to gauge your finances.)

A woman I dated for a couple months gauged my finances. I had an apartment in DC, and not a cheap one, that I rented with the intention of staying in during the week. She wanted to "talk" where she stated that she couldn't be in a relationship with someone my age ( 34 at the time) who did own a condo or home. What she didn't know was that I had a $6 million beach house, a 2.5 million dollar house I owned that I let my parents use rent free, and a $1.5 million condo on the Med in Nice. I looked at her in disbelief, smiled and laughed out loud, said thanks got up, dropped $50 on the table for our drinks and walked out of cafe without saying another word.

You are definitely lying. And if not, you are terrible with finances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It’s largely irrelevant measure of a financial security

Women aren't very bright

I wrote that and I’m a woman

[Anonymous]

No, would never occur to me to ask that question. When meeting new people (different from dating), I don’t ask about their jobs either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes OP I was asked that and also if I had a US citizenship (on video intrusive). Immediate unmatch . The men themselves had beaten up apartments in the background. I own 50+ rentals

In this area they probably are asking because of their clearance. You don’t sound very knowledgeable.

[Anonymous]

No, please don’t. Lots of people have complex reasons why the rent vs. own.

Before we bought our current home, we rented in a better community so that my kids could go to good public schools. We were there almost three decades (big gap in kids) and very active in the community. We just couldn’t afford to buy there. Last kids graduated and we bought in a community with struggling schools.

Meanwhile, a friend and her DH bought what they thought would be starter home a couple months after they married. For complex reasons, they’ve been stuck and as a result have just one child who they have had to send to private school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who don't own a house by 30 are probably not financially intelligent and a big red flag.

Or they served in the military and had to move every couple years.

Or they have had obstacles you didn’t and didn’t have advantages you did.