When getting to know someone do you ask them if they own a house or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because of where I live, I have been known to ask them if they have a job. But nothing having to do with finances beyond that.

Truly well off people don’t need a 9-5 job

This is true. 👍

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is very weird and would automatically turn me off.

+1

[Anonymous]

I was asked where my son attends elementary school (we were discussing our kids) and when I mentioned the independent school he attended, my date asked me if we were using financial aid.

1. I'm a full time practicing physician and he knew this. 2. There's obviously no shame in using financial aid if you need it. 3. It was none of his business.

The impression I got was that he couldn't figure out what he had to offer me as I didn't need and wasn't interested in his money, which was sad. But I didn't go out with him again.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it is that weird of a follow up question in conversation when you meet someone. Especially if you are 30s and up. Talking about home ownership just comes up in conversation. I don't really remember if I have been asked that or asked others but it wouldn't really stand out for me.

[Anonymous]

I’m not in the dating market but I think it’s a fair question. I wouldn’t want to date someone who wasn’t fincially secure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not in the dating market but I think it’s a fair question. I wouldn’t want to date someone who wasn’t fincially secure.

This is confusing because obviously single homeowners are priced out of the DMV housing market even for the 600k priced housed in my neighborhood only people in threes come to see the homes. So it's unlikely a single can own a home now.

[Anonymous]

It's a valid question to ask.
If she owns a house, she won't be flexible. She'll need to sell the house for you both to move in together. A lot of single women who own their homes are very reluctant to do that. So, it's important to find out early on.

[Anonymous]

I don't care what you own. That would strike me as a strange and intrusive question without some kind of context where it makes sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a valid question to ask.
If she owns a house, she won't be flexible. She'll need to sell the house for you both to move in together. A lot of single women who own their homes are very reluctant to do that. So, it's important to find out early on.

Don’t be dense. They want the house. If a woman has a house she has $ vs a woman in an apartment living paycheck to paycheck with no retirement after a divorce.

[Anonymous]

How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a valid question to ask.
If she owns a house, she won't be flexible. She'll need to sell the house for you both to move in together. A lot of single women who own their homes are very reluctant to do that. So, it's important to find out early on.

Untrue actually have much more financial flexibility to live anywhere they want you can always rent lit out

[Anonymous]

I always ask if they own or rent. It’s important to know what kind of man they are. Ain’t no shame in being careful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a valid question to ask.
If she owns a house, she won't be flexible. She'll need to sell the house for you both to move in together. A lot of single women who own their homes are very reluctant to do that. So, it's important to find out early on.

Don’t be dense. They want the house. If a woman has a house she has $ vs a woman in an apartment living paycheck to paycheck with no retirement after a divorce.

Not always true. I don't have a house and I won't have a house in this country.
I'm renting an apartment in the building I love. I don't have to work for money ever again after selling my three properties and putting the money into market in 2020.
I'm renting because there is no condo I want to own. I have never felt safe in a house even with a partner.
OP, I don't know why they asked. I was not there when they asked. I'm surprised you are kind of clueless. I would have some idea why they asked.
My ex was pissed forever that I didn't sell my first property. He failed to tell me that it would bother him if I kept it.

[Anonymous]

Is this in the dating pool? They might try to assess your money situation.

If immediately and just casually dating, maybe they just want to gage if you live nearby and whether they want to try to hook up at your place or theirs.

[Anonymous]

No. It would never occur to me to ask that.