Is your son a performative male?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If so, do they make you cringe?

He what is he performing OP?

To be highly educated and well read? But he’s not
To be very athletic? But he’s not.
To care about women? But he does not.
He loves you and the holidays? But never really does anything.
That he’s good at his job? But about to be fired.

What’s he being so performative about?

[Anonymous]

I have a feeling my sons would not even understand what this thread is about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what you mean. Do you mean performative like the PP above? Or like “visibly into male things” like sports? Gaming? Or things like theatre?

My boys like male-oriented things but really like them so there is no performing involved. I would cringe if I thought they were adopting a persona to be cool, but they are not.

It's kind of the opposite, a "performative male" performs progressive or traditionally female coded things to signal that they're sensitive or something. They read books by women, they drink matcha, that kind of thing. The whole idea seems kind of silly to me and some of is just laughing at me for reading books. As a man, I'm glad I'm too old to care about this.

This is not a thing. Sorry if you’re trying to make it a thing and hijack the word “performative,” but what you’re describing is just some liberal fringe subset of males somewhere.

Here at work I’m about to fire a performative worker. He doesn’t do his work, talks in circles, sends stuff out last minute (to appear so busy and important), and talks a big game externally.

[Anonymous]

Performative means poseur.

So what’s he pretending and posing about OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what you mean. Do you mean performative like the PP above? Or like “visibly into male things” like sports? Gaming? Or things like theatre?

My boys like male-oriented things but really like them so there is no performing involved. I would cringe if I thought they were adopting a persona to be cool, but they are not.

It's kind of the opposite, a "performative male" performs progressive or traditionally female coded things to signal that they're sensitive or something. They read books by women, they drink matcha, that kind of thing. The whole idea seems kind of silly to me and some of is just laughing at me for reading books. As a man, I'm glad I'm too old to care about this.

Do you really think reading a book written by a woman makes someone performative or feminist? Women make up over 50% of the world, why shouldn't you interact with them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what you mean. Do you mean performative like the PP above? Or like “visibly into male things” like sports? Gaming? Or things like theatre?

My boys like male-oriented things but really like them so there is no performing involved. I would cringe if I thought they were adopting a persona to be cool, but they are not.

It's kind of the opposite, a "performative male" performs progressive or traditionally female coded things to signal that they're sensitive or something. They read books by women, they drink matcha, that kind of thing. The whole idea seems kind of silly to me and some of is just laughing at me for reading books. As a man, I'm glad I'm too old to care about this.

Do you really think reading a book written by a woman makes someone performative or feminist? Women make up over 50% of the world, why shouldn't you interact with them?

+1

Is a woman reading a book by Fitzgerald or Dostoevsky or Richard Powers performative? So why can’t everyone just read great writers? So stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling my sons would not even understand what this thread is about.

mid-40s guy here who stumbled on this thread, and I have to admit that I have no idea what it's about either!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poseur.

Like another poster, I think what people perceive to be performative people are actually drawn to these things, even if they don't walk the walk or talk the talk entirely, and are therefore seen as hypocritical sometimes. I can't fathom someone going to all the trouble of buying stuff, wearing it and acting a certain way, if they don't have a shred of shared feelings about that particular group.

I think the "performative" insult is largely made-up.

It is someone who does not possess those traits being judgemental, because if they acted that way it would be performative .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what you mean. Do you mean performative like the PP above? Or like “visibly into male things” like sports? Gaming? Or things like theatre?

My boys like male-oriented things but really like them so there is no performing involved. I would cringe if I thought they were adopting a persona to be cool, but they are not.

It's kind of the opposite, a "performative male" performs progressive or traditionally female coded things to signal that they're sensitive or something. They read books by women, they drink matcha, that kind of thing. The whole idea seems kind of silly to me and some of is just laughing at me for reading books. As a man, I'm glad I'm too old to care about this.

So drinking matcha and reading a book written by a woman is now performative? You sound like an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Neighbor's kid was a performative male. He was always strutting around and made a production of being BIG MAD when Charlie Kirk got killed. He's always prattling on about pickup lines and tradwives. Talks a big game, but the kid is a fat loser working at Chipotle and still living in his childhood bedroom at the age of 26 after flunking out of ODU. But, he is definitely performative. Out there in his MAGA hat, virtue signaling and thinks he going to join ICE (he wants that $50,000 bonus).