Old High School Friends

[Anonymous]

Yes, both my kids have remained close friends with their best friends from HS (who mostly had also been close friends since elementary school).

DS, recently graduated from college, lives back in our city and mostly hangs out with the guys he's known since elementary school. There are a couple friends added to the group from college.

[Anonymous]

There's nothing wrong with keeping in touch with high school friends and reconvening over breaks, but clinging too tightly to people from back home is usually a sign that one hasn't moved on and fully embraced the college experience. I've noticed this is rarely an issue for kids who join Greek life. When my own freshman came home and met up with his high school buds, the difference was stark. The fraternity men were telling story after story about their first semester of college, the crazy fun they were having, the girls they were getting, etc. The GDIs were reminiscing about the good old days of high school and didn't have much to say about college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's nothing wrong with keeping in touch with high school friends and reconvening over breaks, but clinging too tightly to people from back home is usually a sign that one hasn't moved on and fully embraced the college experience. I've noticed this is rarely an issue for kids who join Greek life. When my own freshman came home and met up with his high school buds, the difference was stark. The fraternity men were telling story after story about their first semester of college, the crazy fun they were having, the girls they were getting, etc. The GDIs were reminiscing about the good old days of high school and didn't have much to say about college.

Greek gods don't have time for old friends!

[Anonymous]

Both have made new friends as close or closer than the old ones; both keep up with 2-3 high school besties. Private K-12, both attend ivies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:like most of us, I went to the same HS as my siblings. And my kids went to the same HS.

Whether you keep in touch with your friends is just about the friend group. Some classes are kinda duds. And some kids are not their best themselves during HS.

My siblings range from going to Europe with friends to never going to a reunion. My kids are mostly tight but one has a much larger group than the other who has a small circle of 3 guys.

I dont think any of this has anything to do with 'these days' etc

This is the difference maker. People very tied to one place, either through going back themselves to live there or parents who they visit often, will maybe stay close to HS friends. Other people move on. Social media and texting are great but proximity is still the driving factor for who you will remain close friends with.

I do have a couple college friends who I have kept up relationships with for 30+ years at this point despite never living in the same place after college. But it takes work on both parts and I don't see them more than once a year. So it's valued friendships, but not either my day to day community.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's nothing wrong with keeping in touch with high school friends and reconvening over breaks, but clinging too tightly to people from back home is usually a sign that one hasn't moved on and fully embraced the college experience. I've noticed this is rarely an issue for kids who join Greek life. When my own freshman came home and met up with his high school buds, the difference was stark. The fraternity men were telling story after story about their first semester of college, the crazy fun they were having, the girls they were getting, etc. The GDIs were reminiscing about the good old days of high school and didn't have much to say about college.

greek life mom make it sound like a cult! forget your old fiends. burn grandma's number.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's nothing wrong with keeping in touch with high school friends and reconvening over breaks, but clinging too tightly to people from back home is usually a sign that one hasn't moved on and fully embraced the college experience. I've noticed this is rarely an issue for kids who join Greek life. When my own freshman came home and met up with his high school buds, the difference was stark. The fraternity men were telling story after story about their first semester of college, the crazy fun they were having, the girls they were getting, etc. The GDIs were reminiscing about the good old days of high school and didn't have much to say about college.

Its 60yo frat dad again with his 1980s frat memories coloring his worldview 45 years later

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's nothing wrong with keeping in touch with high school friends and reconvening over breaks, but clinging too tightly to people from back home is usually a sign that one hasn't moved on and fully embraced the college experience. I've noticed this is rarely an issue for kids who join Greek life. When my own freshman came home and met up with his high school buds, the difference was stark. The fraternity men were telling story after story about their first semester of college, the crazy fun they were having, the girls they were getting, etc. The GDIs were reminiscing about the good old days of high school and didn't have much to say about college.

greek life mom make it sound like a cult! forget your old fiends. burn grandma's number.

Only a dad would say the part about getting girls. He says the same thing on almost every thread

[Anonymous]

Yes but they aren’t all here all the time or at the same time like when I went to college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's nothing wrong with keeping in touch with high school friends and reconvening over breaks, but clinging too tightly to people from back home is usually a sign that one hasn't moved on and fully embraced the college experience. I've noticed this is rarely an issue for kids who join Greek life. When my own freshman came home and met up with his high school buds, the difference was stark. The fraternity men were telling story after story about their first semester of college, the crazy fun they were having, the girls they were getting, etc. The GDIs were reminiscing about the good old days of high school and didn't have much to say about college.

Its 60yo frat dad again with his 1980s frat memories coloring his worldview 45 years later

LOL

[Anonymous]

Yes. They’re college juniors now and still a very tight group (boys).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very much.
Small private - these kids from home are the forever friends.

Same with my son.

[Anonymous]

Yes, old middle school freinds too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm still friends with my crew from HS.

This question is weird to me.

It's not weird. Lots of kids drift away from their HS friends when they go to college, and when they come back during the summer, the relationship isn't the same.

As they get older, they also get busier in the summer with internships. My kid was home all of two weeks during the summer. Next summer, they'll be here for a week. They may see their old friends maybe once for dinner or something, but that's about it now. They prefer to also hang out more with their college friends.

Nah, I think some kids never really made close friends in HS. That happens. And those kids don't stay close to these not-great-friends. Why would they?

Same 40 years ago. Probably same 400 years ago.

They could've been close friends.. while in HS, but drifted apart as they got older. That happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's nothing wrong with keeping in touch with high school friends and reconvening over breaks, but clinging too tightly to people from back home is usually a sign that one hasn't moved on and fully embraced the college experience. I've noticed this is rarely an issue for kids who join Greek life. When my own freshman came home and met up with his high school buds, the difference was stark. The fraternity men were telling story after story about their first semester of college, the crazy fun they were having, the girls they were getting, etc. The GDIs were reminiscing about the good old days of high school and didn't have much to say about college.

Greek gods don't have time for old friends!

Even when they are home for holiday break and the Greek friends are not there -- they must just pine way in the house instead of meeting up with those loser, non-Greek, old high school friends.