For parents who don't post pictures of their kids on social media

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about your kids. Who do you think you are, a celebrity?

What if I am? Then what?

Then maybe you’d have good reason. But we both know you’re not a celebrity.

I'm sorry you find the need to hawk your kid's childhood out for validation from strangers. Some of us don't have endless pits of neediness that need to be filled with likes at the expense of out children's privacy.

Lol I see we have yet another shrilling extremist on DCUM. There’s such a thing as a happy medium you know.

It depends on what you are worried about. One of the reasons I don't post photos of my kids on social media is that I realized when my first was a toddler that I was doing it, almost compulsively, because it always resulted in a lot of positive feedback. So without being fully aware of it, I would sometimes post a cute photo of my kid as like a pick me up for myself, because I'd immediately get a bunch of likes and compliments and it would make me feel good.

When this dawned on me, I realized I was exploiting my own kid for not great reasons, and I stopped. I have no idea if this is why other people post photos of their kids -- that is other people's business. For me it was a factor, so I stopped. Maybe when my kids are older, if they are interested in posting photos (to private accounts only friends and family can see), I'll start doing it again with their consent. If they are involved and enjoy it, I don't feel so weird about it. But I don't want to use my kids to make myself look better or attract positive attention to myself. That's not what kids are for.

This is one of the most important reasons to me. When I was pregnant with my first a friend told me that she posted a picture of her newborn and would frantically check to see how many likes it got. The idea of putting a number on my baby and tracking this metric turned my stomach. My kids are their own people who don't exist to garner me attention and validation. I don't like comodifying their existence.

Well, sure, but you’re assuming that everyone has the same weird motivations that you and your friends do when they actually don’t.

Honest question then, why do you post pictures of your kids online? Genuinely curious.

Well, for starters, as I said I have a limited/private social media presence and I’m not flooding the world with the posts. We are a close extended family—yes,
I know, a foreign concept for DCUM—and we like seeing each other’s pictures. It’s not like I’m posting a baby book on line. The vast majority of my pics aren’t kids.
But I’m not going to shy away completely from ever posting any pictures of any of my kids out of paranoia.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about your kids. Who do you think you are, a celebrity?

What if I am? Then what?

Then maybe you’d have good reason. But we both know you’re not a celebrity.

I'm sorry you find the need to hawk your kid's childhood out for validation from strangers. Some of us don't have endless pits of neediness that need to be filled with likes at the expense of out children's privacy.

Lol I see we have yet another shrilling extremist on DCUM. There’s such a thing as a happy medium you know.

It depends on what you are worried about. One of the reasons I don't post photos of my kids on social media is that I realized when my first was a toddler that I was doing it, almost compulsively, because it always resulted in a lot of positive feedback. So without being fully aware of it, I would sometimes post a cute photo of my kid as like a pick me up for myself, because I'd immediately get a bunch of likes and compliments and it would make me feel good.

When this dawned on me, I realized I was exploiting my own kid for not great reasons, and I stopped. I have no idea if this is why other people post photos of their kids -- that is other people's business. For me it was a factor, so I stopped. Maybe when my kids are older, if they are interested in posting photos (to private accounts only friends and family can see), I'll start doing it again with their consent. If they are involved and enjoy it, I don't feel so weird about it. But I don't want to use my kids to make myself look better or attract positive attention to myself. That's not what kids are for.

This is one of the most important reasons to me. When I was pregnant with my first a friend told me that she posted a picture of her newborn and would frantically check to see how many likes it got. The idea of putting a number on my baby and tracking this metric turned my stomach. My kids are their own people who don't exist to garner me attention and validation. I don't like comodifying their existence.

Well, sure, but you’re assuming that everyone has the same weird motivations that you and your friends do when they actually don’t.

Honest question then, why do you post pictures of your kids online? Genuinely curious.

Well, for starters, as I said I have a limited/private social media presence and I’m not flooding the world with the posts. We are a close extended family—yes,
I know, a foreign concept for DCUM—and we like seeing each other’s pictures. It’s not like I’m posting a baby book on line. The vast majority of my pics aren’t kids.
But I’m not going to shy away completely from ever posting any pictures of any of my kids out of paranoia.

You are a close extended family that doesn't text each other pictures? Doesn't sound that close.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about your kids. Who do you think you are, a celebrity?

What if I am? Then what?

Then maybe you’d have good reason. But we both know you’re not a celebrity.

I'm sorry you find the need to hawk your kid's childhood out for validation from strangers. Some of us don't have endless pits of neediness that need to be filled with likes at the expense of out children's privacy.

Lol I see we have yet another shrilling extremist on DCUM. There’s such a thing as a happy medium you know.

It depends on what you are worried about. One of the reasons I don't post photos of my kids on social media is that I realized when my first was a toddler that I was doing it, almost compulsively, because it always resulted in a lot of positive feedback. So without being fully aware of it, I would sometimes post a cute photo of my kid as like a pick me up for myself, because I'd immediately get a bunch of likes and compliments and it would make me feel good.

When this dawned on me, I realized I was exploiting my own kid for not great reasons, and I stopped. I have no idea if this is why other people post photos of their kids -- that is other people's business. For me it was a factor, so I stopped. Maybe when my kids are older, if they are interested in posting photos (to private accounts only friends and family can see), I'll start doing it again with their consent. If they are involved and enjoy it, I don't feel so weird about it. But I don't want to use my kids to make myself look better or attract positive attention to myself. That's not what kids are for.

This is one of the most important reasons to me. When I was pregnant with my first a friend told me that she posted a picture of her newborn and would frantically check to see how many likes it got. The idea of putting a number on my baby and tracking this metric turned my stomach. My kids are their own people who don't exist to garner me attention and validation. I don't like comodifying their existence.

Well, sure, but you’re assuming that everyone has the same weird motivations that you and your friends do when they actually don’t.

Honest question then, why do you post pictures of your kids online? Genuinely curious.

Well, for starters, as I said I have a limited/private social media presence and I’m not flooding the world with the posts. We are a close extended family—yes,
I know, a foreign concept for DCUM—and we like seeing each other’s pictures. It’s not like I’m posting a baby book on line. The vast majority of my pics aren’t kids.
But I’m not going to shy away completely from ever posting any pictures of any of my kids out of paranoia.

You are a close extended family that doesn't text each other pictures? Doesn't sound that close.

That’s right. I forgot for a second that everyone on this forum is a hateful skeptic with miserable family lives who hate their in laws and boomer parents and are
always looking for a fight.


We are a large family and yes it’s easier sometimes to post pics on social media than to text individually every single time. But yes, since you asked, we do that too. Quite often in fact.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about your kids. Who do you think you are, a celebrity?

What if I am? Then what?

Then maybe you’d have good reason. But we both know you’re not a celebrity.

I'm sorry you find the need to hawk your kid's childhood out for validation from strangers. Some of us don't have endless pits of neediness that need to be filled with likes at the expense of out children's privacy.

Lol I see we have yet another shrilling extremist on DCUM. There’s such a thing as a happy medium you know.

It depends on what you are worried about. One of the reasons I don't post photos of my kids on social media is that I realized when my first was a toddler that I was doing it, almost compulsively, because it always resulted in a lot of positive feedback. So without being fully aware of it, I would sometimes post a cute photo of my kid as like a pick me up for myself, because I'd immediately get a bunch of likes and compliments and it would make me feel good.

When this dawned on me, I realized I was exploiting my own kid for not great reasons, and I stopped. I have no idea if this is why other people post photos of their kids -- that is other people's business. For me it was a factor, so I stopped. Maybe when my kids are older, if they are interested in posting photos (to private accounts only friends and family can see), I'll start doing it again with their consent. If they are involved and enjoy it, I don't feel so weird about it. But I don't want to use my kids to make myself look better or attract positive attention to myself. That's not what kids are for.

This is one of the most important reasons to me. When I was pregnant with my first a friend told me that she posted a picture of her newborn and would frantically check to see how many likes it got. The idea of putting a number on my baby and tracking this metric turned my stomach. My kids are their own people who don't exist to garner me attention and validation. I don't like comodifying their existence.

Well, sure, but you’re assuming that everyone has the same weird motivations that you and your friends do when they actually don’t.

Honest question then, why do you post pictures of your kids online? Genuinely curious.

Well, for starters, as I said I have a limited/private social media presence and I’m not flooding the world with the posts. We are a close extended family—yes,
I know, a foreign concept for DCUM—and we like seeing each other’s pictures. It’s not like I’m posting a baby book on line. The vast majority of my pics aren’t kids.
But I’m not going to shy away completely from ever posting any pictures of any of my kids out of paranoia.

You are a close extended family that doesn't text each other pictures? Doesn't sound that close.

That’s right. I forgot for a second that everyone on this forum is a hateful skeptic with miserable family lives who hate their in laws and boomer parents and are
always looking for a fight.


We are a large family and yes it’s easier sometimes to post pics on social media than to text individually every single time. But yes, since you asked, we do that too. Quite often in fact.

I think it's really interesting that you popped into a thread that doesn't apply to you just to defend your choices. I would meditate on that.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about your kids. Who do you think you are, a celebrity?

What if I am? Then what?

Then maybe you’d have good reason. But we both know you’re not a celebrity.

I'm sorry you find the need to hawk your kid's childhood out for validation from strangers. Some of us don't have endless pits of neediness that need to be filled with likes at the expense of out children's privacy.

Lol I see we have yet another shrilling extremist on DCUM. There’s such a thing as a happy medium you know.

It depends on what you are worried about. One of the reasons I don't post photos of my kids on social media is that I realized when my first was a toddler that I was doing it, almost compulsively, because it always resulted in a lot of positive feedback. So without being fully aware of it, I would sometimes post a cute photo of my kid as like a pick me up for myself, because I'd immediately get a bunch of likes and compliments and it would make me feel good.

When this dawned on me, I realized I was exploiting my own kid for not great reasons, and I stopped. I have no idea if this is why other people post photos of their kids -- that is other people's business. For me it was a factor, so I stopped. Maybe when my kids are older, if they are interested in posting photos (to private accounts only friends and family can see), I'll start doing it again with their consent. If they are involved and enjoy it, I don't feel so weird about it. But I don't want to use my kids to make myself look better or attract positive attention to myself. That's not what kids are for.

This is one of the most important reasons to me. When I was pregnant with my first a friend told me that she posted a picture of her newborn and would frantically check to see how many likes it got. The idea of putting a number on my baby and tracking this metric turned my stomach. My kids are their own people who don't exist to garner me attention and validation. I don't like comodifying their existence.

Well, sure, but you’re assuming that everyone has the same weird motivations that you and your friends do when they actually don’t.

Honest question then, why do you post pictures of your kids online? Genuinely curious.

Well, for starters, as I said I have a limited/private social media presence and I’m not flooding the world with the posts. We are a close extended family—yes,
I know, a foreign concept for DCUM—and we like seeing each other’s pictures. It’s not like I’m posting a baby book on line. The vast majority of my pics aren’t kids.
But I’m not going to shy away completely from ever posting any pictures of any of my kids out of paranoia.

You are a close extended family that doesn't text each other pictures? Doesn't sound that close.

That’s right. I forgot for a second that everyone on this forum is a hateful skeptic with miserable family lives who hate their in laws and boomer parents and are
always looking for a fight.


We are a large family and yes it’s easier sometimes to post pics on social media than to text individually every single time. But yes, since you asked, we do that too. Quite often in fact.

Someone is incredibly defensive and angry on this Monday! Whoa!

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about your kids. Who do you think you are, a celebrity?

What if I am? Then what?

Then maybe you’d have good reason. But we both know you’re not a celebrity.

I'm sorry you find the need to hawk your kid's childhood out for validation from strangers. Some of us don't have endless pits of neediness that need to be filled with likes at the expense of out children's privacy.

Lol I see we have yet another shrilling extremist on DCUM. There’s such a thing as a happy medium you know.

It depends on what you are worried about. One of the reasons I don't post photos of my kids on social media is that I realized when my first was a toddler that I was doing it, almost compulsively, because it always resulted in a lot of positive feedback. So without being fully aware of it, I would sometimes post a cute photo of my kid as like a pick me up for myself, because I'd immediately get a bunch of likes and compliments and it would make me feel good.

When this dawned on me, I realized I was exploiting my own kid for not great reasons, and I stopped. I have no idea if this is why other people post photos of their kids -- that is other people's business. For me it was a factor, so I stopped. Maybe when my kids are older, if they are interested in posting photos (to private accounts only friends and family can see), I'll start doing it again with their consent. If they are involved and enjoy it, I don't feel so weird about it. But I don't want to use my kids to make myself look better or attract positive attention to myself. That's not what kids are for.

This is one of the most important reasons to me. When I was pregnant with my first a friend told me that she posted a picture of her newborn and would frantically check to see how many likes it got. The idea of putting a number on my baby and tracking this metric turned my stomach. My kids are their own people who don't exist to garner me attention and validation. I don't like comodifying their existence.

Well, sure, but you’re assuming that everyone has the same weird motivations that you and your friends do when they actually don’t.

Honest question then, why do you post pictures of your kids online? Genuinely curious.

Well, for starters, as I said I have a limited/private social media presence and I’m not flooding the world with the posts. We are a close extended family—yes,
I know, a foreign concept for DCUM—and we like seeing each other’s pictures. It’s not like I’m posting a baby book on line. The vast majority of my pics aren’t kids.
But I’m not going to shy away completely from ever posting any pictures of any of my kids out of paranoia.

You are a close extended family that doesn't text each other pictures? Doesn't sound that close.

That’s right. I forgot for a second that everyone on this forum is a hateful skeptic with miserable family lives who hate their in laws and boomer parents and are
always looking for a fight.


We are a large family and yes it’s easier sometimes to post pics on social media than to text individually every single time. But yes, since you asked, we do that too. Quite often in fact.

I think it's really interesting that you popped into a thread that doesn't apply to you just to defend your choices. I would meditate on that.

Ha ha ok. And I would meditate over your compulsion to be contrary.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about your kids. Who do you think you are, a celebrity?

What if I am? Then what?

Then maybe you’d have good reason. But we both know you’re not a celebrity.

I'm sorry you find the need to hawk your kid's childhood out for validation from strangers. Some of us don't have endless pits of neediness that need to be filled with likes at the expense of out children's privacy.

You do seem to have an endless pit of judgement that needs to be excavated constantly. With a sanctimommy like you, the kid would have plenty of issues with or without social media.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about your kids. Who do you think you are, a celebrity?

What if I am? Then what?

Then maybe you’d have good reason. But we both know you’re not a celebrity.

I'm sorry you find the need to hawk your kid's childhood out for validation from strangers. Some of us don't have endless pits of neediness that need to be filled with likes at the expense of out children's privacy.

Lol I see we have yet another shrilling extremist on DCUM. There’s such a thing as a happy medium you know.

It depends on what you are worried about. One of the reasons I don't post photos of my kids on social media is that I realized when my first was a toddler that I was doing it, almost compulsively, because it always resulted in a lot of positive feedback. So without being fully aware of it, I would sometimes post a cute photo of my kid as like a pick me up for myself, because I'd immediately get a bunch of likes and compliments and it would make me feel good.

When this dawned on me, I realized I was exploiting my own kid for not great reasons, and I stopped. I have no idea if this is why other people post photos of their kids -- that is other people's business. For me it was a factor, so I stopped. Maybe when my kids are older, if they are interested in posting photos (to private accounts only friends and family can see), I'll start doing it again with their consent. If they are involved and enjoy it, I don't feel so weird about it. But I don't want to use my kids to make myself look better or attract positive attention to myself. That's not what kids are for.

This is one of the most important reasons to me. When I was pregnant with my first a friend told me that she posted a picture of her newborn and would frantically check to see how many likes it got. The idea of putting a number on my baby and tracking this metric turned my stomach. My kids are their own people who don't exist to garner me attention and validation. I don't like comodifying their existence.

Well, sure, but you’re assuming that everyone has the same weird motivations that you and your friends do when they actually don’t.

Honest question then, why do you post pictures of your kids online? Genuinely curious.

Well, for starters, as I said I have a limited/private social media presence and I’m not flooding the world with the posts. We are a close extended family—yes,
I know, a foreign concept for DCUM—and we like seeing each other’s pictures. It’s not like I’m posting a baby book on line. The vast majority of my pics aren’t kids.
But I’m not going to shy away completely from ever posting any pictures of any of my kids out of paranoia.

You are a close extended family that doesn't text each other pictures? Doesn't sound that close.

That’s right. I forgot for a second that everyone on this forum is a hateful skeptic with miserable family lives who hate their in laws and boomer parents and are
always looking for a fight.


We are a large family and yes it’s easier sometimes to post pics on social media than to text individually every single time. But yes, since you asked, we do that too. Quite often in fact.

I think it's really interesting that you popped into a thread that doesn't apply to you just to defend your choices. I would meditate on that.

+1

And defending her choices by attacking and making fun of people who made different choices. Seems super healthy and well-adjusted!

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about your kids. Who do you think you are, a celebrity?

What if I am? Then what?

Then maybe you’d have good reason. But we both know you’re not a celebrity.

I'm sorry you find the need to hawk your kid's childhood out for validation from strangers. Some of us don't have endless pits of neediness that need to be filled with likes at the expense of out children's privacy.

Lol I see we have yet another shrilling extremist on DCUM. There’s such a thing as a happy medium you know.

It depends on what you are worried about. One of the reasons I don't post photos of my kids on social media is that I realized when my first was a toddler that I was doing it, almost compulsively, because it always resulted in a lot of positive feedback. So without being fully aware of it, I would sometimes post a cute photo of my kid as like a pick me up for myself, because I'd immediately get a bunch of likes and compliments and it would make me feel good.

When this dawned on me, I realized I was exploiting my own kid for not great reasons, and I stopped. I have no idea if this is why other people post photos of their kids -- that is other people's business. For me it was a factor, so I stopped. Maybe when my kids are older, if they are interested in posting photos (to private accounts only friends and family can see), I'll start doing it again with their consent. If they are involved and enjoy it, I don't feel so weird about it. But I don't want to use my kids to make myself look better or attract positive attention to myself. That's not what kids are for.

This is one of the most important reasons to me. When I was pregnant with my first a friend told me that she posted a picture of her newborn and would frantically check to see how many likes it got. The idea of putting a number on my baby and tracking this metric turned my stomach. My kids are their own people who don't exist to garner me attention and validation. I don't like comodifying their existence.

Well, sure, but you’re assuming that everyone has the same weird motivations that you and your friends do when they actually don’t.

Honest question then, why do you post pictures of your kids online? Genuinely curious.

Well, for starters, as I said I have a limited/private social media presence and I’m not flooding the world with the posts. We are a close extended family—yes,
I know, a foreign concept for DCUM—and we like seeing each other’s pictures. It’s not like I’m posting a baby book on line. The vast majority of my pics aren’t kids.
But I’m not going to shy away completely from ever posting any pictures of any of my kids out of paranoia.

You are a close extended family that doesn't text each other pictures? Doesn't sound that close.

That’s right. I forgot for a second that everyone on this forum is a hateful skeptic with miserable family lives who hate their in laws and boomer parents and are
always looking for a fight.


We are a large family and yes it’s easier sometimes to post pics on social media than to text individually every single time. But yes, since you asked, we do that too. Quite often in fact.

I think it's really interesting that you popped into a thread that doesn't apply to you just to defend your choices. I would meditate on that.

Ha ha ok. And I would meditate over your compulsion to be contrary.

Contrary is the person coming into a thread that has nothing to do with them just to talk about how they're right and everyone else is wrong. Seriously don't you have anything better to do today? If the topic doesn't apply to you you can just...not respond. I do it every day. The fact that you are clearly so triggered by other peoples' choices that you need to defend your own says a lot about you.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about your kids. Who do you think you are, a celebrity?

What if I am? Then what?

Then maybe you’d have good reason. But we both know you’re not a celebrity.

I'm sorry you find the need to hawk your kid's childhood out for validation from strangers. Some of us don't have endless pits of neediness that need to be filled with likes at the expense of out children's privacy.

You do seem to have an endless pit of judgement that needs to be excavated constantly. With a sanctimommy like you, the kid would have plenty of issues with or without social media.

Ooh we really struck a nerve with this one huh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about your kids. Who do you think you are, a celebrity?

What if I am? Then what?

Then maybe you’d have good reason. But we both know you’re not a celebrity.

I'm sorry you find the need to hawk your kid's childhood out for validation from strangers. Some of us don't have endless pits of neediness that need to be filled with likes at the expense of out children's privacy.

You do seem to have an endless pit of judgement that needs to be excavated constantly. With a sanctimommy like you, the kid would have plenty of issues with or without social media.

Ooh we really struck a nerve with this one huh.

Me thinks you’re under the misimpression that there’s only one.

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I sign the releases but don't post pictures (or use names) on my own social media. I can't exactly explain why that balance makes sense, but I'm fine with it.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about your kids. Who do you think you are, a celebrity?

What if I am? Then what?

Then maybe you’d have good reason. But we both know you’re not a celebrity.

I'm sorry you find the need to hawk your kid's childhood out for validation from strangers. Some of us don't have endless pits of neediness that need to be filled with likes at the expense of out children's privacy.

Lol I see we have yet another shrilling extremist on DCUM. There’s such a thing as a happy medium you know.

It depends on what you are worried about. One of the reasons I don't post photos of my kids on social media is that I realized when my first was a toddler that I was doing it, almost compulsively, because it always resulted in a lot of positive feedback. So without being fully aware of it, I would sometimes post a cute photo of my kid as like a pick me up for myself, because I'd immediately get a bunch of likes and compliments and it would make me feel good.

When this dawned on me, I realized I was exploiting my own kid for not great reasons, and I stopped. I have no idea if this is why other people post photos of their kids -- that is other people's business. For me it was a factor, so I stopped. Maybe when my kids are older, if they are interested in posting photos (to private accounts only friends and family can see), I'll start doing it again with their consent. If they are involved and enjoy it, I don't feel so weird about it. But I don't want to use my kids to make myself look better or attract positive attention to myself. That's not what kids are for.

This is one of the most important reasons to me. When I was pregnant with my first a friend told me that she posted a picture of her newborn and would frantically check to see how many likes it got. The idea of putting a number on my baby and tracking this metric turned my stomach. My kids are their own people who don't exist to garner me attention and validation. I don't like comodifying their existence.

Well, sure, but you’re assuming that everyone has the same weird motivations that you and your friends do when they actually don’t.

Honest question then, why do you post pictures of your kids online? Genuinely curious.

Well, for starters, as I said I have a limited/private social media presence and I’m not flooding the world with the posts. We are a close extended family—yes,
I know, a foreign concept for DCUM—and we like seeing each other’s pictures. It’s not like I’m posting a baby book on line. The vast majority of my pics aren’t kids.
But I’m not going to shy away completely from ever posting any pictures of any of my kids out of paranoia.

You are a close extended family that doesn't text each other pictures? Doesn't sound that close.

That’s right. I forgot for a second that everyone on this forum is a hateful skeptic with miserable family lives who hate their in laws and boomer parents and are
always looking for a fight.


We are a large family and yes it’s easier sometimes to post pics on social media than to text individually every single time. But yes, since you asked, we do that too. Quite often in fact.

I think it's really interesting that you popped into a thread that doesn't apply to you just to defend your choices. I would meditate on that.

Ha ha ok. And I would meditate over your compulsion to be contrary.

Contrary is the person coming into a thread that has nothing to do with them just to talk about how they're right and everyone else is wrong. Seriously don't you have anything better to do today? If the topic doesn't apply to you you can just...not respond. I do it every day. The fact that you are clearly so triggered by other peoples' choices that you need to defend your own says a lot about you.

You’re always free to ignore me. And if you were so confident in your own choices then that’s exactly what you’d be doing.

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Anonymous wrote:I sign the releases but don't post pictures (or use names) on my own social media. I can't exactly explain why that balance makes sense, but I'm fine with it.

I understand the reasoning fwiw.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about your kids. Who do you think you are, a celebrity?

What if I am? Then what?

Then maybe you’d have good reason. But we both know you’re not a celebrity.

I'm sorry you find the need to hawk your kid's childhood out for validation from strangers. Some of us don't have endless pits of neediness that need to be filled with likes at the expense of out children's privacy.

Lol I see we have yet another shrilling extremist on DCUM. There’s such a thing as a happy medium you know.

It depends on what you are worried about. One of the reasons I don't post photos of my kids on social media is that I realized when my first was a toddler that I was doing it, almost compulsively, because it always resulted in a lot of positive feedback. So without being fully aware of it, I would sometimes post a cute photo of my kid as like a pick me up for myself, because I'd immediately get a bunch of likes and compliments and it would make me feel good.

When this dawned on me, I realized I was exploiting my own kid for not great reasons, and I stopped. I have no idea if this is why other people post photos of their kids -- that is other people's business. For me it was a factor, so I stopped. Maybe when my kids are older, if they are interested in posting photos (to private accounts only friends and family can see), I'll start doing it again with their consent. If they are involved and enjoy it, I don't feel so weird about it. But I don't want to use my kids to make myself look better or attract positive attention to myself. That's not what kids are for.

This is one of the most important reasons to me. When I was pregnant with my first a friend told me that she posted a picture of her newborn and would frantically check to see how many likes it got. The idea of putting a number on my baby and tracking this metric turned my stomach. My kids are their own people who don't exist to garner me attention and validation. I don't like comodifying their existence.

Well, sure, but you’re assuming that everyone has the same weird motivations that you and your friends do when they actually don’t.

Honest question then, why do you post pictures of your kids online? Genuinely curious.

Well, for starters, as I said I have a limited/private social media presence and I’m not flooding the world with the posts. We are a close extended family—yes,
I know, a foreign concept for DCUM—and we like seeing each other’s pictures. It’s not like I’m posting a baby book on line. The vast majority of my pics aren’t kids.
But I’m not going to shy away completely from ever posting any pictures of any of my kids out of paranoia.

You are a close extended family that doesn't text each other pictures? Doesn't sound that close.

That’s right. I forgot for a second that everyone on this forum is a hateful skeptic with miserable family lives who hate their in laws and boomer parents and are
always looking for a fight.


We are a large family and yes it’s easier sometimes to post pics on social media than to text individually every single time. But yes, since you asked, we do that too. Quite often in fact.

I think it's really interesting that you popped into a thread that doesn't apply to you just to defend your choices. I would meditate on that.

Ha ha ok. And I would meditate over your compulsion to be contrary.

Contrary is the person coming into a thread that has nothing to do with them just to talk about how they're right and everyone else is wrong. Seriously don't you have anything better to do today? If the topic doesn't apply to you you can just...not respond. I do it every day. The fact that you are clearly so triggered by other peoples' choices that you need to defend your own says a lot about you.

You’re always free to ignore me. And if you were so confident in your own choices then that’s exactly what you’d be doing.

Saying someone is a bad mom for not putting a picture of their kid on the internet is quite the take. But again, whatever makes you feel good! It's all about you right?!