HS seniors - whose kid's friend group is imploding?

[Anonymous]

Were these true friends who she truly liked or a friend group formed out of necessity (eg yoi “need to be in a friend group)?

If any are true friends perhaps she should work on repairing with them, but mainly focus on the other friends you mention in other groups or as individuals.

I have a 10th grader who is going through friend group drama, her being excluded — when she stepped away girls freaked out asked “are you leaving out friend group”. In her case this was largely a group formed like picking teams in elementary school (eg we need 5th)

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of the friend groups that are carryovers from elementary school were actually created by parents. Once the kids decide they want to lead their own lives, the friend groups split up. Sometimes this happens in middle school, sometimes it takes until high school.

But there are definitely girls deciding who is in and who is out, including boys.

[Anonymous]

The worst thing you can do is push your kid to be popular, to hang out with the popular group. They can get really hurt emotionally by those groups.

[Anonymous]

This happened to my niece. It was painful at the time. She’s now in her late 20s, had great college experiences, and is still friendly with a handful of the imploded group. But, at the time, it was bad.

[Anonymous]

Kids need to have friends in school but never ONLY friends from school. The best thing you can do for your kids when you have the influence is to let them have a wide friend (and family if age-appropriate cousins) network.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can bet that some boy is involved in this drama.

OP here. Yes, partly. Maybe you're a parent of one of the girls involved in this drama. lol

I think it's so sad that a boy is coming between what was once good friendships.

[Anonymous]

So sorry this happening. You and your daughter are not alone. I don’t know how it ends but hoping there is a light at the end of tunnel soon.