How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You just choose to see them as they were 20 years ago.

Yep, but I wouldn’t even call it choosing. It’s like I have beer goggles on or something - I look at my husband and still see his wavy hair even though it’s been a bald spot for a while now.

One of the hardest parts about getting divorced at 61 (not my choice) is that I could still see the young woman I fell in love with when i looked at my wife. Sadly, I do not have that power when I look at divorcees my age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You haven’t mentioned love??!! The bond created by building a family together?

Why only the concern about women as a body??

You are scarily one dimensional.

Interesting. I assumed the OP was a woman talking about staying attracted to a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You just choose to see them as they were 20 years ago.

Yep, but I wouldn’t even call it choosing. It’s like I have beer goggles on or something - I look at my husband and still see his wavy hair even though it’s been a bald spot for a while now.

One of the hardest parts about getting divorced at 61 (not my choice) is that I could still see the young woman I fell in love with when i looked at my wife. Sadly, I do not have that power when I look at divorcees my age.

I'm happily married, but I feel this. I have loved DH for over 35 years and that makes me ok with his aging body. I almost never encounter a man my age who I find genuinely attractive and so if something happened to DH, I'm pretty sure I would stay single. The idea of rubbing up against another 60-year-old man....blah. (Sorry.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good question. I don’t. DH has gained weight and doesn’t put effort into his appearance other than regular haircuts. It’s sad.

Same. But I love him dearly, and I rely on memories of fitter times when physical attraction is required.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You just choose to see them as they were 20 years ago.

Yep, but I wouldn’t even call it choosing. It’s like I have beer goggles on or something - I look at my husband and still see his wavy hair even though it’s been a bald spot for a while now.

One of the hardest parts about getting divorced at 61 (not my choice) is that I could still see the young woman I fell in love with when i looked at my wife. Sadly, I do not have that power when I look at divorcees my age.

Which is why divorced men your age date at least 20 years younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your view of what’s attractive just shift as you age? Do you look in the mirror and recognize that you’re in the same boat?

This, if you are honest.

Nobody is ever getting younger.