How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
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Anonymous
| Does your view of what’s attractive just shift as you age? Do you look in the mirror and recognize that you’re in the same boat? |
Anonymous
| ExH never shifted… still chasing 20 yr olds. He’s 50. |
Anonymous
20 year olds? Does he catch any? Thats a big gap. |
Anonymous
| Yes, you realize that you're both aging and that in their eyes you're getting just as old. Honestly, I feel so much more comfortable with my body and who I am at this stage in my life (47F) that I don't think someone younger would appreciate it no matter how good looking they were. I also love my DH very much and it isn't just about sex or the way we look any more. |
Anonymous
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You don't look as old to each other as you do to others.
I am stunned when I see a photo of DH. So much older than the man I photographed! |
Anonymous
| You just choose to see them as they were 20 years ago. |
Anonymous
No. He’s just a gross old man |
Anonymous
| We’re both in better physical shape than when we got married, which helps. But I do think what I’m attracted to has changed with age. I was looking at a video the other day of some kid (25 yo) taking his shirt off and it just didn’t do anything for me. Not sure which direction the casualty flows, but I have become more attracted to older men as my DH has aged. |
Anonymous
Same - I think I also respect how hard it is to stay in shape as you age and I respect it more than a young person being in shape. |
Anonymous
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I think you generally click like you did when you were 25. It's one of the good things about marriage.
But if you divorce and go on to new partners, now you are really seeing a 50 year old body. And you didn't know them when they were 25. So that's different. There's no long term context. I can see why a lot of divorced men and women go young as they move on. |
Anonymous
| Good question. I don’t. DH has gained weight and doesn’t put effort into his appearance other than regular haircuts. It’s sad. |
Anonymous
| I don’t think it’s easy tbh and my dh is in good shape. Yes, there’s love, but it’s not quite the same thing. |
Anonymous
| Yes, attraction also ages up. Especially as your kids get to be in their late teens and 20s (except for creepy old guys I guess). |
Anonymous
I've always heard that this is the benefit of a very long relationship. Your spouse is the only one on earth who can still see the decades younger version of you. |
Anonymous
| We’ve both stayed in excellent physical shape. And I’m not averse to some nip n’ tuck. I got a mommy makeover at 45 and a lower bleph at 50. |