How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve both stayed in excellent physical shape. And I’m not averse to some nip n’ tuck. I got a mommy makeover at 45 and a lower bleph at 50.

Are you happy with the results?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't look as old to each other as you do to others.
I am stunned when I see a photo of DH. So much older than the man I photographed!

I've always heard that this is the benefit of a very long relationship. Your spouse is the only one on earth who can still see the decades younger version of you.

I still see the younger version of DH but he still has qualities that I fell in love with- his eyes, his smile

[Anonymous]

The visual never mattered to me.

[Anonymous]

Wanting to have sex with me has always been the most attractive thing a woman can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’ve both stayed in excellent physical shape. And I’m not averse to some nip n’ tuck. I got a mommy makeover at 45 and a lower bleph at 50.

Are you happy with the results?

Very happy.

[Anonymous]

We’re aging together and it’s amazing.
We work out eat well & take care of ourselves

[Anonymous]

You haven’t mentioned love??!! The bond created by building a family together?

Why only the concern about women as a body??

You are scarily one dimensional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you generally click like you did when you were 25. It's one of the good things about marriage.

But if you divorce and go on to new partners, now you are really seeing a 50 year old body. And you didn't know them when they were 25. So that's different. There's no long term context. I can see why a lot of divorced men and women go young as they move on.

I have never married, and am therefore expected to be sexually attracted to old men—-in all of their glory.

The physical attraction is virtually non-existent. Therefore, I see little reason to favor men’s company over women.

(They just seem needy and overconfident, when the physical attraction leaves the room.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You just choose to see them as they were 20 years ago.

Yep, but I wouldn’t even call it choosing. It’s like I have beer goggles on or something - I look at my husband and still see his wavy hair even though it’s been a bald spot for a while now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You haven’t mentioned love??!! The bond created by building a family together?

Why only the concern about women as a body??

You are scarily one dimensional.

Who says we’re just talking about women’s bodies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't look as old to each other as you do to others.
I am stunned when I see a photo of DH. So much older than the man I photographed!

I've always heard that this is the benefit of a very long relationship. Your spouse is the only one on earth who can still see the decades younger version of you.

I still see the younger version of DH but he still has qualities that I fell in love with- his eyes, his smile

NP. When we were younger, I could see the older version of him in there too. Overall, I don't really see him as "aged version of DH" the same way that I don't see my teenager as "aged version of baby DD" - they're just these people I love.

[Anonymous]

Sexual attraction isn't purely physical attraction. Maybe when you're a teen, but more mature people are capable of more mature connections. If you're a porn addict or you have a fetish/kink, well, you have a separate issue to deal with. If you have a working brain, you can teach yourself to deepen your attraction and sexual experience(s) by consciously focusing your attention beyond the simple physicality of your partner and/or the sex act.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You haven’t mentioned love??!! The bond created by building a family together?

Why only the concern about women as a body??

You are scarily one dimensional.

Yeah, that. Lot of people on here like to have sex with objects, not whole humans.

[Anonymous]

My wife got too fat and then she lost 100 lbs. She does not look good naked. I do want to be turn on, but when I need to lift layers of fat to get to what I'm looking for it's hard to stay horny. I don't drink alcohol and she does and alcohol ages you even faster.

[Anonymous]

The best sex I ever heard was with my wife when we were in our twenties. She still looks great 35 years later. I really admire how well she takes care of herself.

However the thought of having sex with her is not appealing at all. We are divorced. A lot of sexual attraction is emotional.

Since my divorce, I have been very attracted to women twenty years younger and five years older. And yes, I still appeal to some women twenty years younger. They're not dumb. They're not poor. They're not ugly. They're just into older men.