I disclosed info re: another student

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is dumb. Your child was a witness to an event and you told the school. There’s nothing to sue about.

OP is dramatic and attention seeking.

[Anonymous]

Did the incident involve parent demanding that child wear white after Labor Day ? If so, no need to report this matter as it should be obvious to all.

[Anonymous]

Wealthy and litigious family means the school will do nothing based on the additional info you provided.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:WTF how would that even begin to come up in conversation? Sounds like have a perverse desire for spreading gossip and drama. Yes you should be worried.

My child was there and hair is falling out from stress.
I want my kid separated. That’s how the ball got rolling.

Your child was “there” meaning in the meeting, or when the other child hurt someone?

Not the meeting. Meeting was one on one. My child is stressed because they were at the house at time of incident.

Well, you clearly should have informed the school that you wanted your child separated from the other child for reasons you'd rather not get in to. BUT if the school didn't respect your request, then I would have given more details to explain. You're not responsible for being the secret keeper for this other family's drama, and it sounds like you didn't divulge the information to be a gossip or to seek revenge.

I am a lawyer but not that kind, but if what you said was TRUE then you should be ok. Doesn't mean they can't sue you, though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:WTF how would that even begin to come up in conversation? Sounds like have a perverse desire for spreading gossip and drama. Yes you should be worried.

My child was there and hair is falling out from stress.
I want my kid separated. That’s how the ball got rolling.

You have done nothing wrong. It sounds like something terrible happened and you should not feel the least bit bad about not participating in the cover-up.

This. You said what you heard. There's no lawsuit in that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Consider for a moment that you may have done the right thing even if it has potential blowback.

I reported one of my best friends husbands to CPS. I pretended HARD that it wasn’t me because I thought she’d be angry and feel betrayed. I thought my pretending worked…

Long story but like 2 years later she wrote me a letter that said I know it was you and you were right to do it. She knew all along. There WAS serious abuse happening in the home - more than I even knew.
(she has now left the husband thank goodness. in large part because she knew authorities were now tipped off to what was happening)

Anyway so reconnect with your core and consider that your instincts maybe were right.

For some reason this makes me tear up. Life sucks some times.

[Anonymous]

This is ringing some faint bells of a prior post with a group of people who all knew something bad was going one with one family, but everyone was keeping it quiet because wealthy and litigious (and I think every other family didn't want to rock the boat, so to speak). That OP wanted the kids to be separated but didn't want the other family to know the OP was the one informing the school.

Anyone else remember that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is ringing some faint bells of a prior post with a group of people who all knew something bad was going one with one family, but everyone was keeping it quiet because wealthy and litigious (and I think every other family didn't want to rock the boat, so to speak). That OP wanted the kids to be separated but didn't want the other family to know the OP was the one informing the school.

Anyone else remember that?

I do, but wasn't that years ago?

[Anonymous]

What would they sue you for? You did nothing that they could bring charges for. Don’t worry about that.

It’s not your job to protect other family’s ugly secrets when you are trying to protect your own child. You are being a good parent do not worry about this anymore, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is ringing some faint bells of a prior post with a group of people who all knew something bad was going one with one family, but everyone was keeping it quiet because wealthy and litigious (and I think every other family didn't want to rock the boat, so to speak). That OP wanted the kids to be separated but didn't want the other family to know the OP was the one informing the school.

Anyone else remember that?

I do, but wasn't that years ago?

Yes, I remember that too but it was a long time ago.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is ringing some faint bells of a prior post with a group of people who all knew something bad was going one with one family, but everyone was keeping it quiet because wealthy and litigious (and I think every other family didn't want to rock the boat, so to speak). That OP wanted the kids to be separated but didn't want the other family to know the OP was the one informing the school.

Anyone else remember that?

I do, but wasn't that years ago?

Is there only one wealthy and litigious family with problematic schoolchildren?

[Anonymous]

OP—You did the right thing. The school needed to understand the severity of the situation.

The kids didn't have an casual argument.

Your child witnessed a parent abusing their friend. That is horrifying.

Frankly, I think you need to do whatever you can to support the child and this information getting to CPS.

[Anonymous]

11:57 again. This child needs your protection.

I can understand if their family is wealthy and litigious; that can be a scary thing to be up against. Even a frivolous lawsuit can be expensive and time-consuming.

I hope you have the ability to help protect their child from abuse. And I hope your child gets the support they need to heal from seeing a parent hurt another child. That is scary and damaging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I made a huge mistake. I am in knots about it, and honestly wondering if I need to seek legal counsel.
A student in my son’s class has hurt their family member, and I disclosed this info to head of school. I can’t go into details, but I had info that could only have been known by the family and myself. I didn’t realize the family had kept important details from the school. I talk too much, and said to much, and blurted out something the school was previously unaware of.
The school has said they will not betray my confidence, but I am panicking. The family is very wealthy and litigious. Not to mention it wasn’t my story to tell.
I couldn’t feel more terrible. Of course that’s not entirely true. I am going to feel a million times worse if my screw up makes its way back to the family.
This is a prestigious independent school. Not DC.
Can I trust the school? Do I need a lawyer?

Similar situation happened in our small private (in a different state). The child (John) sexually assaulted his cousin and John told his classmate (Larlo) when we said something to the effect of “i want to do this (sexual thing) with you and I do it with my cousin”. Larlo’s mom overheard and said something to John’s cousin’s parents. (Everyone knows eachother in the community). Then John’s grandfather shows up at Larlo’s father’s workplace with and NDA and tons of threats. Get a lawyer is the bottom line. In this case the school was not a part of the discussion because everything happened off campus. However, John’s family are huge donors to the school and buy their way in (and out) of everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you know this info bc your child witnessed the incident? If so, I can’t see why there would be any legal repercussions to sharing that info with the school

+1

This isn’t blabbing - its protecting your child