I disclosed info re: another student

[Anonymous]

If it makes you feel better, pay for a consult with a lawyer but pick one who can address the issue of whether your kid can be separated from the troublemaker. As well as interpret the responsibilities of various parties who know about whatever happened. I don't know what kind of specialist lawyer that would be. Someone who deals with education? Crime? Libel?

Did your child witness a crime? Or something that should be reported to Child Protective Services? You don't have to say but I think you need to analyze the core nature of the problem better to calm down.

If there's something really bad going on in this household, going after you is more likely to expose it. I think it might be a dumb move for them to go after you. It would publicize whatever the issue is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:WTF how would that even begin to come up in conversation? Sounds like have a perverse desire for spreading gossip and drama. Yes you should be worried.

My child was there and hair is falling out from stress.
I want my kid separated. That’s how the ball got rolling.

You have done nothing wrong. It sounds like something terrible happened and you should not feel the least bit bad about not participating in the cover-up.

So you only mentioned it to protect your kid. I don’t think you did anything wrong. Sounds like a messed up kid!

[Anonymous]

Consider for a moment that you may have done the right thing even if it has potential blowback.

I reported one of my best friends husbands to CPS. I pretended HARD that it wasn’t me because I thought she’d be angry and feel betrayed. I thought my pretending worked…

Long story but like 2 years later she wrote me a letter that said I know it was you and you were right to do it. She knew all along. There WAS serious abuse happening in the home - more than I even knew.
(she has now left the husband thank goodness. in large part because she knew authorities were now tipped off to what was happening)

Anyway so reconnect with your core and consider that your instincts maybe were right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I made a huge mistake. I am in knots about it, and honestly wondering if I need to seek legal counsel.
A student in my son’s class has hurt their family member, and I disclosed this info to head of school. I can’t go into details, but I had info that could only have been known by the family and myself. I didn’t realize the family had kept important details from the school. I talk too much, and said to much, and blurted out something the school was previously unaware of.
The school has said they will not betray my confidence, but I am panicking. The family is very wealthy and litigious. Not to mention it wasn’t my story to tell.
I couldn’t feel more terrible. Of course that’s not entirely true. I am going to feel a million times worse if my screw up makes its way back to the family.
This is a prestigious independent school. Not DC.
Can I trust the school? Do I need a lawyer?

I don't think posting in this forum is helping your cause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Consider for a moment that you may have done the right thing even if it has potential blowback.

I reported one of my best friends husbands to CPS. I pretended HARD that it wasn’t me because I thought she’d be angry and feel betrayed. I thought my pretending worked…

Long story but like 2 years later she wrote me a letter that said I know it was you and you were right to do it. She knew all along. There WAS serious abuse happening in the home - more than I even knew.
(she has now left the husband thank goodness. in large part because she knew authorities were now tipped off to what was happening)

Anyway so reconnect with your core and consider that your instincts maybe were right.

Excellent post!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WTF how would that even begin to come up in conversation? Sounds like have a perverse desire for spreading gossip and drama. Yes you should be worried.

My child was there and hair is falling out from stress.
I want my kid separated. That’s how the ball got rolling.

Your child was “there” meaning in the meeting, or when the other child hurt someone?

Not the meeting. Meeting was one on one. My child is stressed because they were at the house at time of incident.

That’s entirely different than your initial post sounded like. You were disclosing an incident that involved your child (even if only as a bystander/witness) with the goal of protecting your child. That is your right and obligation.

[Anonymous]

I think you're fine, OP. Consider that your child could have talked to his teacher, and that family would not go after a child, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you know this info bc your child witnessed the incident? If so, I can’t see why there would be any legal repercussions to sharing that info with the school

She’s probably worried about the wealthy family suing her. Not saying they can- but sounded like it was OPs concern. Retaliation.

[Anonymous]

OPs story sounds fake and this thread seems suspicious for trolling.

[Anonymous]

If you're asking about defamation, truth is an absolute defense thereto.

[Anonymous]

They won’t sue you. First, if what you told the school was the truth, they don’t have a valid claim. More importantly for this family, a lawsuit will make the incident more public and they risk open the floodgates for other incidents like the one your child witnessed to come out in the open. I would guess they would prefer to sweep this under the rug and keep it as quiet as possible. Suing you does the opposite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They won’t sue you. First, if what you told the school was the truth, they don’t have a valid claim. More importantly for this family, a lawsuit will make the incident more public and they risk open the floodgates for other incidents like the one your child witnessed to come out in the open. I would guess they would prefer to sweep this under the rug and keep it as quiet as possible. Suing you does the opposite.

+1

Assuming the whole thing isn’t a troll post.

[Anonymous]

Assuming you aren't a troll, I don't see an actionable breach of duty here.

[Anonymous]

This is dumb. Your child was a witness to an event and you told the school. There’s nothing to sue about.

[Anonymous]

Are you just another parent? You have no duty of confidentiality to the other family. There is no need for a lawyer.