Do you discuss your sex life with friends?

[Anonymous]

I try to but most are too prude.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Yes. I didn’t when I was married and I suffered alone! I’m in my early 50s and divorced as are many but not all of my friends. Many of us are in new relationships. Most of us had less than ideal sex lives in our marriages (probably strongly correlated with divorce) so we know how important it is to keep that aspect strong in new relationships. We aren’t dishing about it the way we might have in college, but we definitely talk about challenges and expectations. I’m grateful for it and I’m probably a better and more appreciative partner too.

[Anonymous]

Nope

[Anonymous]

I have two or three friends I can but I don’t see them often.

[Anonymous]

No, I'm an adult.

[Anonymous]

Not in any kind of detail, but we’re all around the same age and pretty open about peri symptoms, so occasionally someone mentions libido or lack thereof.

[Anonymous]

I wrote a song about it, so now everyone knows. It’s track 9.

[Anonymous]

My BFF told me her BF was "small" 25 years ago and they are married now and I can't not think about it whenever I see him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It entirely depends on the friend. I have one who is warm, gregarious, and tends to overshare, and with her I find myself talking about ANY subject. It's quite freeing for me, who grew up in the most uptight, conservative family full of taboos! My other friends don't veer in to such territory

It's all fine.

Does your spouse know and is onboard? I would consider it a betrayal if my spouse was openly talking about our sex life with other people. For me that is private and not something to be shared with others. Once it is out there, you lose all control. Your oversharing friend could be now oversharing about your sex life with everyone else too.

If your spouse is consenting to you talking about them and you are also fine with them talking about you with their friends and whoever else they want to, then go for it.

PP you replied to. We don't go into heavy details, and yes, we're all friends together. We have never shared anything unflattering to our husbands in that specific department, BUT, we have vented to each other about marital problems. My husband knows that when he's blows up for no reason, one of the consequences is that I will seek support from two of my close friends, the friend I mentioned plus another one. These two friends have also vented to me about their husbands, one who has similar anger issues as mine, and the other who has inattentive ADHD and gets into all kinds of trouble because of that (he forgets money, crashes his car, etc). It's a big reason we're close, actually: that we support each other in difficult situations. We've also helped each other out during serious illnesses, such as my friend's chemo. All the husbands have to be OK with this. I drove one of them to his chemo too!

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or anyone that’s not your partner?

No. It should remain between you and your partner or your OBGYN or therapist if needed.

[Anonymous]

No. SATC is a TV show, not real life.
I mean, I guess some skanks talk about the gory details with their friends.

[Anonymous]

Never. But for some reason it doesn't stop them from discussing it with me.