There's an elementary-school aged transgendered kid in my neighborhood

[Anonymous]

Stay away if it bothers you. People have shunned others forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apparently it is a big enough deal for you that you felt the need to make a post here.

She is paying attention to the harm being done in some of the kookiest corners of our country (who are cutting counter intelligence and cybersecurity efforts…while increasing bathroom enforcement! 🙄$

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A couple of things come to mind with this thread:

- what do you mean the child is transgendered? What makes the child transgendered versus being a tomboy?

- when it comes to social norms, it is more acceptable for a female to dress like a boy than a boy to dress like a girl.

-a poster said they are a teacher and that the kids do not care. This varies within communities. I work in PG county as a teacher within PGCPS and being transgendered is not accepted by students or staff. It is still frowned upon greatly within the African American community

I hate that term because it assumes that girls/women have to all like the same thing ( ie traditional feminine things) and if they don't they must be a TOMBOY! No, they are girls who like playing sports and not getting dressed up.

Ok, so call them that. But I'd still rather call them tomboy than trans boy. Because girls are all different and can like different things. It doesn't change your biology.

I don’t like the term tomboy because it implies certain activities/ clothing/ hairstyles/ colors/etc are for boys. We need to stop gendering every single thing and let kids just do what they enjoy.
There also isn’t a return name for boys tbat like “ girly” things tbat isn’t derogatory.

Check out the greeting card section of stores:from a gender perspective, it might as well be 1950!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:A couple of things come to mind with this thread:

- what do you mean the child is transgendered? What makes the child transgendered versus being a tomboy?

- when it comes to social norms, it is more acceptable for a female to dress like a boy than a boy to dress like a girl.

-a poster said they are a teacher and that the kids do not care. This varies within communities. I work in PG county as a teacher within PGCPS and being transgendered is not accepted by students or staff. It is still frowned upon greatly within the African American community

I hate that term because it assumes that girls/women have to all like the same thing ( ie traditional feminine things) and if they don't they must be a TOMBOY! No, they are girls who like playing sports and not getting dressed up.

Ok, so call them that. But I'd still rather call them tomboy than trans boy. Because girls are all different and can like different things. It doesn't change your biology.

Your comfort level is not what we are going for here.

The goal is to help children grow up with self esteem and a solid sense of who they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We used to simply call the person a “tomboy,” and move on with life.

It was an extremely common phase for so many girls, and we grew out of it.

What the hell has happened to our society?

Trans kids don’t just like hobbies or outfits that were traditionally associated with the other gender.

They feel as if they ARE the other gender, and want their bodies to match that internal identity. Medical intervention to make that happen is a difficult family decision, and those faced with it should be supported.

The world has changed since you were a child and you should feel some obligation to evolve with it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My teen DD has neurodivergent and gender-fluid or transitioning friends in her high school (studies show that transgender people are more likely to be neurodivergent than the general population). To her they are her friends. It's all so simple and beautiful. In our wealthy liberal bubble, youths are innocent and sheltered and don't know how truly monstrous the world can get. It's my job to explain to her that some of her friends are at high risk of being discriminated against over the course of their lives; that physical transitioning has real medical consequences; and that she needs to keep all this at the back of her mind. "Living one's truth" is all very well, but my job as a parent is to instill a more nuanced and mature outlook. She needs to understand the full measure of what some of her friends are facing. And she is capable of that: she herself has a serious chronic auto-immune disease, and she knows her quality of life will diminish much earlier than her healthy peers. Perhaps she gravitated towards these friends because she feels some sort of kinship.

This action ensures that the discrimination continues. Don't fool yourself into thinking you are helping. You are spreading hate.

Sorry you live in a bubble. This is the reality in 99.99% of the world and kids need to be warned.

[Anonymous]

I actually think most adults used to be nonchalant about this too. I've worked with several transgendered people as an adult and none of the workplaces (which have ranged from a corporate law firm to an university academic department to a retail store) had any real issue with it. I am sure there were some coworkers who thought it was weird or didn't understand, but people were always polite and welcoming on the surface at least. I viewed it similarly to having out gay coworkers -- most people don't care or are genuinely supportive, and the minority who may be bothered by it due to personal prejudices/belief systems are at least controlled enough about it not to vocalize it.

It's been surprising to me out vocal people have become about trans people in the last few years after having those experiences. It truly seemed like no big deal. I think I misjudged how much the people who were secretly bothered by it by holding their tongue because it was expected of them, would embrace the chance to be vocally opposed to trans people.

I also think most people used to transition as adults, if at all, so the idea of transitioning children is really freaky to even people who were previously fairly okay with it. This group I understand a bit more because I do think this group covers a broader range of kids than just trans kids -- it includes kids who might be freaked out by puberty, struggling with personal identity that is not necessarily about gender, etc. I understand the worry about making permanent changes to a child's body at a time when they are still figuring things out. But I don't get the anger or hate about it -- there have always been kids who experimented with or expressed an interest in becoming the opposite gender. It's nothing new, it's just talked about more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A couple of things come to mind with this thread:

- what do you mean the child is transgendered? What makes the child transgendered versus being a tomboy?

- when it comes to social norms, it is more acceptable for a female to dress like a boy than a boy to dress like a girl.

-a poster said they are a teacher and that the kids do not care. This varies within communities. I work in PG county as a teacher within PGCPS and being transgendered is not accepted by students or staff. It is still frowned upon greatly within the African American community

I hate that term because it assumes that girls/women have to all like the same thing ( ie traditional feminine things) and if they don't they must be a TOMBOY! No, they are girls who like playing sports and not getting dressed up.

Ok, so call them that. But I'd still rather call them tomboy than trans boy. Because girls are all different and can like different things. It doesn't change your biology.

Your comfort level is not what we are going for here.

The goal is to help children grow up with self esteem and a solid sense of who they are.

Amen, amen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A couple of things come to mind with this thread:

- what do you mean the child is transgendered? What makes the child transgendered versus being a tomboy?

- when it comes to social norms, it is more acceptable for a female to dress like a boy than a boy to dress like a girl.

-a poster said they are a teacher and that the kids do not care. This varies within communities. I work in PG county as a teacher within PGCPS and being transgendered is not accepted by students or staff. It is still frowned upon greatly within the African American community

I hate that term because it assumes that girls/women have to all like the same thing ( ie traditional feminine things) and if they don't they must be a TOMBOY! No, they are girls who like playing sports and not getting dressed up.

Ok, so call them that. But I'd still rather call them tomboy than trans boy. Because girls are all different and can like different things. It doesn't change your biology.

Your comfort level is not what we are going for here.

The goal is to help children grow up with self esteem and a solid sense of who they are.

Who said anything about my comfort level?
The female child should absolutely have self esteem and a sense of who she is! She does not need to medicate her body because she likes "boyish" things!
The vast majority of the country agrees with me and not you.

[Anonymous]

We have them in our neighborhood and schools too. I could not care less.