There's an elementary-school aged transgendered kid in my neighborhood

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. When we tell our kids that 10 years ago, gay people couldn’t get married, they were like what??

My kids reaction to Sixteen Candles and realizing we thought date rape was normal was wild. Oh dang! Yea you are right.

I didn't think it was normal when it was in theatrical release. Very disappointed in that and the treatment of the Chinese character. It was a crap movie.

[Anonymous]

A couple of things come to mind with this thread:

- what do you mean the child is transgendered? What makes the child transgendered versus being a tomboy?

- when it comes to social norms, it is more acceptable for a female to dress like a boy than a boy to dress like a girl.

-a poster said they are a teacher and that the kids do not care. This varies within communities. I work in PG county as a teacher within PGCPS and being transgendered is not accepted by students or staff. It is still frowned upon greatly within the African American community

[Anonymous]

No there’s not OP. There’s a kid in your neighborhood who trying to figure out who he/she is. That kid is a long way off from a final decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apparently it is a big enough deal for you that you felt the need to make a post here.

np
why pp did you feel the need to be mean? You knew what they meant: It is a big deal to adults but, not to most of the kids! It is worthy of a thread and if YOU want to contribute great but, what you wrote wasn't it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A couple of things come to mind with this thread:

- what do you mean the child is transgendered? What makes the child transgendered versus being a tomboy?

- when it comes to social norms, it is more acceptable for a female to dress like a boy than a boy to dress like a girl.

-a poster said they are a teacher and that the kids do not care. This varies within communities. I work in PG county as a teacher within PGCPS and being transgendered is not accepted by students or staff. It is still frowned upon greatly within the African American community

I hate that term because it assumes that girls/women have to all like the same thing ( ie traditional feminine things) and if they don't they must be a TOMBOY! No, they are girls who like playing sports and not getting dressed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I honestly don’t know what the right calls are here, but one thing I do think would make things easier logistically is if all school public bathrooms had floor to ceiling individual toilet stalls which open directly off hallways and open sink areas. This would solve problems with vaping, consensual and non consensual sexual behavior, bullying, fights, etc. and as a byproduct the sex identity issue is less concerning.

Oh my God the first thought you go to is the friggin' bathroom?

[Anonymous]

Why is this even a post. Kids don't become bigoted until they learn from their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes our kids will grow up with trans kids and it will seem normal to them but will always stand out to us... since we were indoctrinated to see them as "others".

Just like we (some of us) grew up with Black kids and our parents would refer to them as the 'black friend" and our normal friendship with them stood out to our parents because when they grew up black families were always "othered".

What century did you grow up in? Or was it just that your parents were racist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A couple of things come to mind with this thread:

- what do you mean the child is transgendered? What makes the child transgendered versus being a tomboy?

- when it comes to social norms, it is more acceptable for a female to dress like a boy than a boy to dress like a girl.

-a poster said they are a teacher and that the kids do not care. This varies within communities. I work in PG county as a teacher within PGCPS and being transgendered is not accepted by students or staff. It is still frowned upon greatly within the African American community

I hate that term because it assumes that girls/women have to all like the same thing ( ie traditional feminine things) and if they don't they must be a TOMBOY! No, they are girls who like playing sports and not getting dressed up.

Ok, so call them that. But I'd still rather call them tomboy than trans boy. Because girls are all different and can like different things. It doesn't change your biology.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My teen DD has neurodivergent and gender-fluid or transitioning friends in her high school (studies show that transgender people are more likely to be neurodivergent than the general population). To her they are her friends. It's all so simple and beautiful. In our wealthy liberal bubble, youths are innocent and sheltered and don't know how truly monstrous the world can get. It's my job to explain to her that some of her friends are at high risk of being discriminated against over the course of their lives; that physical transitioning has real medical consequences; and that she needs to keep all this at the back of her mind. "Living one's truth" is all very well, but my job as a parent is to instill a more nuanced and mature outlook. She needs to understand the full measure of what some of her friends are facing. And she is capable of that: she herself has a serious chronic auto-immune disease, and she knows her quality of life will diminish much earlier than her healthy peers. Perhaps she gravitated towards these friends because she feels some sort of kinship.

This action ensures that the discrimination continues. Don't fool yourself into thinking you are helping. You are spreading hate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A couple of things come to mind with this thread:

- what do you mean the child is transgendered? What makes the child transgendered versus being a tomboy?

- when it comes to social norms, it is more acceptable for a female to dress like a boy than a boy to dress like a girl.

-a poster said they are a teacher and that the kids do not care. This varies within communities. I work in PG county as a teacher within PGCPS and being transgendered is not accepted by students or staff. It is still frowned upon greatly within the African American community

I hate that term because it assumes that girls/women have to all like the same thing ( ie traditional feminine things) and if they don't they must be a TOMBOY! No, they are girls who like playing sports and not getting dressed up.

Ok, so call them that. But I'd still rather call them tomboy than trans boy. Because girls are all different and can like different things. It doesn't change your biology.

Or just call them "John" FFS. Why do they have to be anything.
And the idiot spouting about medical transistioning, I can't even with your two brain cells. If that happens, in the future of this child, when the child is 18, it will be an adult and that adult will decide.

[Anonymous]

My kid has 2 friends that are trans.
One has always been trans to us. The other one switched officially around 4-5. DD was very nonchalant when told. She was also 4-5.
They’re teens now, still friends and it’s NBD.
Doesnt affect my life or my kids in any way.
It’s up to that child and their parents to make what they think are the right choices for their child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A couple of things come to mind with this thread:

- what do you mean the child is transgendered? What makes the child transgendered versus being a tomboy?

- when it comes to social norms, it is more acceptable for a female to dress like a boy than a boy to dress like a girl.

-a poster said they are a teacher and that the kids do not care. This varies within communities. I work in PG county as a teacher within PGCPS and being transgendered is not accepted by students or staff. It is still frowned upon greatly within the African American community

I hate that term because it assumes that girls/women have to all like the same thing ( ie traditional feminine things) and if they don't they must be a TOMBOY! No, they are girls who like playing sports and not getting dressed up.

Ok, so call them that. But I'd still rather call them tomboy than trans boy. Because girls are all different and can like different things. It doesn't change your biology.

I don’t like the term tomboy because it implies certain activities/ clothing/ hairstyles/ colors/etc are for boys. We need to stop gendering every single thing and let kids just do what they enjoy.
There also isn’t a return name for boys tbat like “ girly” things tbat isn’t derogatory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this even a post. Kids don't become bigoted until they learn from their parents.

They also don’t contemplate gender confirming surgery

[Anonymous]

I feel almost everyone missed the point.