No red flags in the first person I met dating post divorce?

[Anonymous]

I was the first date my husband went on after his divorce. We’ve been together for 18 years, married for 14.

[Anonymous]

If he is so great you would not be posting on here? Why not just enjoy what you have. Unless you just came here to brag.

[Anonymous]

You sound like you hit the lottery in dating!
This guy sounds great❣️

Just keep in mind that as you get to know him more there will be certain things about him that you may not like or that may annoy you.

And that is completely normal since none of us are ever truly perfect.

But this guy sounds like a great catch and I hope everything works out between you two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he is so great you would not be posting on here? Why not just enjoy what you have. Unless you just came here to brag.

You sound a little green.
Completely normal.

I admit…. I feel a bit envious myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he’s so great, why did his wife throw him back in the sea?

What a stupid comment. Just as many women ruin marriages as men (if not more). And, according to OP, her boyfriend had a perfectly valid reason for ending his marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here..

My ex cheated often on business trips. I did 3 years of weekly therapy processing and grieving the marriage while the separation divorce was ongoing.

His ex came out as asexual homoromantic (?) which my understanding is she has no sexual attraction to anyone but romantic attraction to women. He did 2 years of weekly therapy during the unraveling.

He has a bad picker. Like how do men end up with these asexual women when people in our society have sex before marriage? Which may be indicative of something else. But most of the time people are what they appear to be, especially after a year.

[Anonymous]

How old are you both? Kids? Are you still together-it sounds so good that I hope you are!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you both? Kids? Are you still together-it sounds so good that I hope you are!

Ha, so random. Op here and I just came to browse dcum and saw this bumped.

A very happy yes- we are still together and I feel more lucky every day.

We are 38/41.

[Anonymous]

Op, I say go with your gut feeling if you know him for a year. There could be some red flags but you need to judge how bad they are. Everyone got red flags and you probably have some too but can you live with it. Stop thinking about other things and looking for faults.

[Anonymous]

What is up with guys sending women to spa days? I read that often on here. I mean, it’s a wonderful thing, don’t get me wrong. But I dated a lot before marriage, and that was never in the mix. Or was it a birthday present?

[Anonymous]

Oh, meant to add - sounds like a great relationship! Enjoy it!

[Anonymous]

^snd just know that you’ll be okay no matter what happens. Don’t put him on a pedestal - he’s lucky to have you, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Right now you are the red flag. Take time to work on yourself and heal.

All of this!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is up with guys sending women to spa days? I read that often on here. I mean, it’s a wonderful thing, don’t get me wrong. But I dated a lot before marriage, and that was never in the mix. Or was it a birthday present?

Nothing up . Very common.

[Anonymous]

"Right now you are the red flag. Take time to work on yourself and heal."

Such a good line, and we don't mean this meanly.