No red flags in the first person I met dating post divorce?

[Anonymous]

Op here..

My ex cheated often on business trips. I did 3 years of weekly therapy processing and grieving the marriage while the separation divorce was ongoing.

His ex came out as asexual homoromantic (?) which my understanding is she has no sexual attraction to anyone but romantic attraction to women. He did 2 years of weekly therapy during the unraveling.

[Anonymous]

So… what’s the issue? Something must have prompted you to write the post, but I can’t tell what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So… what’s the issue? Something must have prompted you to write the post, but I can’t tell what it is.

I guess its just the constant posts on dcum, reddit, etc about how theres no good people left after divorce, how the dating scene is a sh-t show. Ive had a very trying last several years and it feels like how could something so wonderful happen to me?

[Anonymous]

You have the classic "Is he good enough? Can I do better?" mentality going on that many women, and often men now, have when re-entering the dating field.

It will ruin your relationships. You are not special, you are not a beautiful snowflake. You have many annoying features as well. Stop being so picky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have the classic "Is he good enough? Can I do better?" mentality going on that many women, and often men now, have when re-entering the dating field.

It will ruin your relationships. You are not special, you are not a beautiful snowflake. You have many annoying features as well. Stop being so picky.

I couldn't feel more opposite! It feels too good to be true that such an amazing person would be so interested in me and steadily show increasing affection, care, thoughtfulness, initiative. There's no way in any lifetime I could ever do better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So… what’s the issue? Something must have prompted you to write the post, but I can’t tell what it is.

I guess its just the constant posts on dcum, reddit, etc about how theres no good people left after divorce, how the dating scene is a sh-t show. Ive had a very trying last several years and it feels like how could something so wonderful happen to me?

Why are you doubting your experience in favor of internet posts by strangers? Something isn’t adding up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need some dcum thoughts here.

I met someone a few weeks after my divorce. We met organically before I was even thinking of dating. They were also recently divorced (same day oddly). We connected as friends for 2 months before he asked me on a date and we've been together for a year now. He has been absolutely wonderful- communicative, thoughtful, very smart, emotionally intelligent, funny, reliable, attentive, interesting, a true friend, absolutely mindblowing sex. He's also a very high earner [/[b]b]and has treated me to fun events, spas, long weekends away. But you'd never know and he's super handy, down to earth, loves to thrift for second hand treasures to upcycle. He's a great cook, gardens, is close with his extended family, has nice, interesting, stable long term friends. His friends wives have all been kind and welcoming. His mom and I really hit it off.

There's some minor annoyances at times- he leaves the toilet seat up often, leaves kitchen cabinets open, is usually 5-15 min late for things. Obviously those are nothing in the grand scheme.

I just keep thinking something has to go wrong. I was mentally preparing to enter the dating app world some day and have to go through the gauntlet for years to find someone decent.

Am I crazy? Can this happen?

Why don't divorced men seek such women? Or is it harder for divorced men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need some dcum thoughts here.

I met someone a few weeks after my divorce. We met organically before I was even thinking of dating. They were also recently divorced (same day oddly). We connected as friends for 2 months before he asked me on a date and we've been together for a year now. He has been absolutely wonderful- communicative, thoughtful, very smart, emotionally intelligent, funny, reliable, attentive, interesting, a true friend, absolutely mindblowing sex. He's also a very high earner and has treated me to fun events, spas, long weekends away. But you'd never know and he's super handy, down to earth, loves to thrift for second hand treasures to upcycle. He's a great cook, gardens, is close with his extended family, has nice, interesting, stable long term friends. His friends wives have all been kind and welcoming. His mom and I really hit it off.

There's some minor annoyances at times- he leaves the toilet seat up often, leaves kitchen cabinets open, is usually 5-15 min late for things. Obviously those are nothing in the grand scheme.

I just keep thinking something has to go wrong. I was mentally preparing to enter the dating app world some day and have to go through the gauntlet for years to find someone decent.

Am I crazy? Can this happen?

Ok OP what are you looking for post divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here..

My ex cheated often on business trips. I did 3 years of weekly therapy processing and grieving the marriage while the separation divorce was ongoing.

His ex came out as asexual homoromantic (?) which my understanding is she has no sexual attraction to anyone but romantic attraction to women. He did 2 years of weekly therapy during the unraveling.

If true I am impressed. Men like this dont do therapy. They are often so sure of themselves and don't see any value in therapy.

[Anonymous]

How old is he? How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Right now you are the red flag. Take time to work on yourself and heal.

Yes! 😩

[Anonymous]

Sounds great. The best part of divorce is you know you can leave if you have to. If you dont though dont sweat it. Just take it day by day.

[Anonymous]

Women's love language is money. Why is that a shocker lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here..

My ex cheated often on business trips. I did 3 years of weekly therapy processing and grieving the marriage while the separation divorce was ongoing.

His ex came out as asexual homoromantic (?) which my understanding is she has no sexual attraction to anyone but romantic attraction to women. He did 2 years of weekly therapy during the unraveling.

Are you still married to this person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here..

My ex cheated often on business trips. I did 3 years of weekly therapy processing and grieving the marriage while the separation divorce was ongoing.

His ex came out as asexual homoromantic (?) which my understanding is she has no sexual attraction to anyone but romantic attraction to women. He did 2 years of weekly therapy during the unraveling.

Are you still married to this person?

Oops - you said ex NVM