Secret Depression

[Anonymous]

You might be like me - I need externally imposed places to be and things to do. If it were in my hands, I'd stay in bed all day. I could never be a SAHM or WFH or do well with a lot of free time, but as a working mom involved in a lot of community activities, I do pretty well most of the time. I have a job where people are depending on me, live in front of me, and that keeps me focused. Maybe it's ADHD or depression, who knows? The best thing to do is to craft a life that works for your personality.

[Anonymous]

I was depressed with a very busy job so its not about your employment status, its about you needing therapy and fun activities.

[Anonymous]

Employment can be an option to try but its not a cure for depression. Its bound to lead to anxiety though if you have to do all or most of your existing duties on top of it.

[Anonymous]

Are you actually upset about laying around all day or just feeling guilty? Cause if you’re busy and active 6-8 and 3-11 and view that as your work, than that’s a 10 hour work day and you’re just spending the hours others spend sitting around in the evenings sitting around during the day.

Also, if you’re only sleeping 11-6, maybe you’re legitimately tired! I would be - that’s not enough sleep for me.

But if you are depressed than I agree with signing up for something. Maybe a class at a rec center or volunteering (NOT for school or kid stuff).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you actually upset about laying around all day or just feeling guilty? Cause if you’re busy and active 6-8 and 3-11 and view that as your work, than that’s a 10 hour work day and you’re just spending the hours others spend sitting around in the evenings sitting around during the day.

Also, if you’re only sleeping 11-6, maybe you’re legitimately tired! I would be - that’s not enough sleep for me.

But if you are depressed than I agree with signing up for something. Maybe a class at a rec center or volunteering (NOT for school or kid stuff).

Yeah that’s a good point, and maybe it’s more like 10-6:30 that I sleep so I do get enough. I have needy children with learning stuff so I do a lot of homework and sports with them and driving, so I literally never relax or watch tv at night, when the kids go to bed so do I so maybe I need that time during the day… but I think it’s a bit of both; depression too.

[Anonymous]

You sound pampered since you have the leisure to lie in bed all day. You don't have toddlers anymore and you have too much time on your hands. I would suggest a part time job. A full time job might be a bit of a shock from your life of leisure. Part time and then you'll still have plenty of hours in the week to watch Netflix, exercise, cook, read etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound pampered since you have the leisure to lie in bed all day. You don't have toddlers anymore and you have too much time on your hands. I would suggest a part time job. A full time job might be a bit of a shock from your life of leisure. Part time and then you'll still have plenty of hours in the week to watch Netflix, exercise, cook, read etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need some structure to your day - not necessarily a job or a volunteer position.

My only input would be to just invest in your health. Do a bunch of activities - walking, aqua fitness, dance class - but with a bunch of different friends. Piece all of this in a way that you can have the routine of an hour's worth of activity, but also socialize.

Other than that...putting nap time and netflix time in your schedule is also very valid.

There is nothing wrong with you. Your adrenal fatigue of many years caught up with you. You can get away with being a slug - so you are behaving like a slug. That's all there is to it.

This is so true. Maybe I'm not depressed I am just so. dang. TIRED. Adrenal fatigue for sure

Maybe the quality of your sleep is poor? Have you done a sleep study?