Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do women really struggle attracting men? Or do they struggle attracting the men they can't have?

Nearly all of the men 20 to low 30# where I work have the social skills of a toaster or are complete dbags. There's not even a spectrum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 24 and two years out of college. OLD is depressing me. Tips?

Date older, mid 30s to late 40s. Men your age will be still in the immature phase and "hit it and quit it".
Unless that's what you want for now. Then Tinder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with dating men in their 40's if she likes him?

Or their 50s, 60s or possibly early 70s. The "not more than three times your age" rule would extend up to 72 for OP.

[Anonymous]

I would also suggest coed co-rec sports in the area through local community centers. (Running groups, volleyball indoor and outdoor, pickle ball or golf lessons, etc). Locals may have specific ideas.The idea of going to Smithsonian or other museum programs is also a good one. Also looking for community events that need one time volunteers for a charity of interest.

[Anonymous]

DC odds are reportedly not very good. Moving, if an option, or looking outside of DC, might improve the odds.

[Anonymous]

Are social sports still a thing? Bocce etc were great, you meet other young people on your team and everyone goes out for drinks after each game. Everyone is basically doing it to socialize and you see the same people multiple times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the key to OLD is volume and not investing too much.

Don’t message back and forth more than a few times. Schedule a convenient meet for coffee or a drink with any matches broadly within your parameters. If they don’t want to meet up, let them go.

Figure one out of 20 of those drinks or coffees will lead to a real date. And one of 20 of those to a second date. Etc.

It’s like slow motion speed dating. Don’t get invested in anyone until after a second date. Enjoy meeting and talking to them. It’s fun! People are so different. And you will get better at making conversation.

+1

This is how I met my husband but I had a lot of rules for it. I didn't waste my time on anyone who didn't clearly meet my criteria (i.e. I refused to date a nonsmoker or someone with kids and I stuck to that). I didn't waste time on people who sent likes or one-word messages, I wanted to talk to people who were actually interested in dating, not just sleeping with me. I'd message a few times and then do a date. If there was no spark I'd move on. I'd do different things for second dates, not just dinner or drinks, to see how they were in the "real" world. I dated one guy for three months and then he wanted to move a lot faster than I did so we broke up. I probably went on 12 dates total before I met my husband. Just be discerning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the key to OLD is volume and not investing too much.

Don’t message back and forth more than a few times. Schedule a convenient meet for coffee or a drink with any matches broadly within your parameters. If they don’t want to meet up, let them go.

Figure one out of 20 of those drinks or coffees will lead to a real date. And one of 20 of those to a second date. Etc.

It’s like slow motion speed dating. Don’t get invested in anyone until after a second date. Enjoy meeting and talking to them. It’s fun! People are so different. And you will get better at making conversation.

+1

This is how I met my husband but I had a lot of rules for it. I didn't waste my time on anyone who didn't clearly meet my criteria (i.e. I refused to date a nonsmoker or someone with kids and I stuck to that). I didn't waste time on people who sent likes or one-word messages, I wanted to talk to people who were actually interested in dating, not just sleeping with me. I'd message a few times and then do a date. If there was no spark I'd move on. I'd do different things for second dates, not just dinner or drinks, to see how they were in the "real" world. I dated one guy for three months and then he wanted to move a lot faster than I did so we broke up. I probably went on 12 dates total before I met my husband. Just be discerning.

^^^I meant to say I refused to date a smoker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the key to OLD is volume and not investing too much.

Don’t message back and forth more than a few times. Schedule a convenient meet for coffee or a drink with any matches broadly within your parameters. If they don’t want to meet up, let them go.

Figure one out of 20 of those drinks or coffees will lead to a real date. And one of 20 of those to a second date. Etc.

It’s like slow motion speed dating. Don’t get invested in anyone until after a second date. Enjoy meeting and talking to them. It’s fun! People are so different. And you will get better at making conversation.

+1

This is how I met my husband but I had a lot of rules for it. I didn't waste my time on anyone who didn't clearly meet my criteria (i.e. I refused to date a nonsmoker or someone with kids and I stuck to that). I didn't waste time on people who sent likes or one-word messages, I wanted to talk to people who were actually interested in dating, not just sleeping with me. I'd message a few times and then do a date. If there was no spark I'd move on. I'd do different things for second dates, not just dinner or drinks, to see how they were in the "real" world. I dated one guy for three months and then he wanted to move a lot faster than I did so we broke up. I probably went on 12 dates total before I met my husband. Just be discerning.

^^^I meant to say I refused to date a smoker

Yep. That typo was attention grabbing!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the key to OLD is volume and not investing too much.

Don’t message back and forth more than a few times. Schedule a convenient meet for coffee or a drink with any matches broadly within your parameters. If they don’t want to meet up, let them go.

Figure one out of 20 of those drinks or coffees will lead to a real date. And one of 20 of those to a second date. Etc.

It’s like slow motion speed dating. Don’t get invested in anyone until after a second date. Enjoy meeting and talking to them. It’s fun! People are so different. And you will get better at making conversation.

+1

This is how I met my husband but I had a lot of rules for it. I didn't waste my time on anyone who didn't clearly meet my criteria (i.e. I refused to date a nonsmoker or someone with kids and I stuck to that). I didn't waste time on people who sent likes or one-word messages, I wanted to talk to people who were actually interested in dating, not just sleeping with me. I'd message a few times and then do a date. If there was no spark I'd move on. I'd do different things for second dates, not just dinner or drinks, to see how they were in the "real" world. I dated one guy for three months and then he wanted to move a lot faster than I did so we broke up. I probably went on 12 dates total before I met my husband. Just be discerning.

^^^I meant to say I refused to date a smoker

Yep. That typo was attention grabbing!!!

Sorry about that!

[Anonymous]

I don’t have any idea how people have so much trouble. Back in the 2000s when I was single, you just knew a lot of people through work, hobbies, and going out. You couldn’t throw a stone without hitting a guy you wanted to date. What is the problem?