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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I think the key to OLD is volume and not investing too much. [/b]

Don’t message back and forth more than a few times. Schedule a convenient meet for coffee or a drink with any matches broadly within your parameters. If they don’t want to meet up, let them go.

Figure one out of 20 of those drinks or coffees will lead to a real date. And one of 20 of those to a second date. Etc.

It’s like slow motion speed dating. Don’t get invested in anyone until after a second date. Enjoy meeting and talking to them. It’s fun! People are so different. And you will get better at making conversation. [/quote]

This is how I met my husband but I had a lot of rules for it. I didn't waste my time on anyone who didn't clearly meet my criteria (i.e. I refused to date a nonsmoker or someone with kids and I stuck to that). I didn't waste time on people who sent likes or one-word messages, I wanted to talk to people who were actually interested in dating, not just sleeping with me. I'd message a few times and then do a date. If there was no spark I'd move on. I'd do different things for second dates, not just dinner or drinks, to see how they were in the "real" world. I dated one guy for three months and then he wanted to move a lot faster than I did so we broke up. I probably went on 12 dates total before I met my husband. Just be discerning.[/quote]

^^^I meant to say I refused to date a smoker[/quote]

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