Does Greek life scare you? Is it better off in a greek-free college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's just so funny. DCUM is all in favor of exclusivity until it comes to going Greek, then it's opposed. And we know why. It's the one club that neither money nor academics can get their kids in. Instead, looks and personality are required, and that's something their kids can't compete with.

“I am incapable of imagining a thought process different from my own, so I will decide that it is the exact same thought process, and that I am just braver.”

There's yet to appear on this or any of the other "Greek" threads any reason to be so damned anti except for reasons based on stereotypes.

[Anonymous]

I’m not totally opposed to it but anyone says it’s all charity work and bonding and no hazing or sexual assault is hopelessly naive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not totally opposed to it but anyone says it’s all charity work and bonding and no hazing or sexual assault is hopelessly naive

Nope. You're hopelessly paranoid. For my kid it really was all charity work and bonding. And I ain't naive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's just so funny. DCUM is all in favor of exclusivity until it comes to going Greek, then it's opposed. And we know why. It's the one club that neither money nor academics can get their kids in. Instead, looks and personality are required, and that's something their kids can't compete with.

“I am incapable of imagining a thought process different from my own, so I will decide that it is the exact same thought process, and that I am just braver.”

There's yet to appear on this or any of the other "Greek" threads any reason to be so damned anti except for reasons based on stereotypes.

Why isn’t “different people are different” enough? Why isn’t you loving it enough for you? Just let your own happiness be enough. Other people don’t have to like the same things you like.

I love coffee and chocolate and big goofy dogs. Other people prefer tea and tutti frutti and cats, or no-pets. Should I try to pound them into submission that my tastes are the only valid ones? I like Dostoevsky more than Tolstoy, even though lots of people insist that Tolstoy is the greater writer. It would be weird to insist the world respond exactly the way I do. It would be super-weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For us it’s not a case of scared, it’s a case of social fit. DD isn’t interested (fairly introverted, in HS is in the artsy, theater, music, geeky crowd). So she always checks percentages of students in Greek life and asks questions about how big it is at any school she looks at, and no Greek at all is a bonus.

Semantics.

It's not that she won't fit in, she's "scared" she won't fit in. She's scared of Greek life.

No, it’s that she’s not interested. Just like she’s not interested in sports, so she doesn’t hang out with the jocks in high school. She’s not scared she won’t fit in - she’ll fit in with the artsy theater people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For us it’s not a case of scared, it’s a case of social fit. DD isn’t interested (fairly introverted, in HS is in the artsy, theater, music, geeky crowd). So she always checks percentages of students in Greek life and asks questions about how big it is at any school she looks at, and no Greek at all is a bonus.

Semantics.

It's not that she won't fit in, she's "scared" she won't fit in. She's scared of Greek life.

No, it’s that she’s not interested. Just like she’s not interested in sports, so she doesn’t hang out with the jocks in high school. She’s not scared she won’t fit in - she’ll fit in with the artsy theater people.

So why can’t she go to school with kids who are in the Greek system? Colleges are large enough for everyone to find their people. The only ones being closed-minded on this thread are those who refuse to consider schools with strong Greek networks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not totally opposed to it but anyone says it’s all charity work and bonding and no hazing or sexual assault is hopelessly naive

I was in a sorority. I wasn’t hazed, nor was I sexually assaulted. I’m comfortable saying the same is true for ALL of my friends in Greek life.

My DD is in a sorority at a different university. She hasn’t been hazed or sexually assaulted. She did wake up at 6am today to volunteer at an event raising money for pediatric cancer research. She went with 4-5 of her sisters.

(Also, do you really think sexual assault exclusive to Greek life?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's just so funny. DCUM is all in favor of exclusivity until it comes to going Greek, then it's opposed. And we know why. It's the one club that neither money nor academics can get their kids in. Instead, looks and personality are required, and that's something their kids can't compete with.

“I am incapable of imagining a thought process different from my own, so I will decide that it is the exact same thought process, and that I am just braver.”

There's yet to appear on this or any of the other "Greek" threads any reason to be so damned anti except for reasons based on stereotypes.

Is that why you keep posting threads about Greek life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For us it’s not a case of scared, it’s a case of social fit. DD isn’t interested (fairly introverted, in HS is in the artsy, theater, music, geeky crowd). So she always checks percentages of students in Greek life and asks questions about how big it is at any school she looks at, and no Greek at all is a bonus.

Semantics.

It's not that she won't fit in, she's "scared" she won't fit in. She's scared of Greek life.

No, it’s that she’s not interested. Just like she’s not interested in sports, so she doesn’t hang out with the jocks in high school. She’s not scared she won’t fit in - she’ll fit in with the artsy theater people.

So why can’t she go to school with kids who are in the Greek system? Colleges are large enough for everyone to find their people. The only ones being closed-minded on this thread are those who refuse to consider schools with strong Greek networks.

And the people who can’t expand their view to include people who are not interested in schools with strong Greek life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not totally opposed to it but anyone says it’s all charity work and bonding and no hazing or sexual assault is hopelessly naive

I was in a sorority. I wasn’t hazed, nor was I sexually assaulted. I’m comfortable saying the same is true for ALL of my friends in Greek life.

My DD is in a sorority at a different university. She hasn’t been hazed or sexually assaulted. She did wake up at 6am today to volunteer at an event raising money for pediatric cancer research. She went with 4-5 of her sisters.

(Also, do you really think sexual assault exclusive to Greek life?)

That’s great for you and your DD. I’m happy for you, and fwiw I’m not OP. My DD is the one at a school with light Greek life, who likes the girls she knows who are rushing, and who still isn’t interested in rushing herself.

Someone (you?) is insisting that she actually really truly does want to rush — wants it more than she wants anything else in fact — and would absolutely definitely 100% do it if she weren’t scared. You don’t see that this is a weird thing to insist? Is it not the equivalent of my saying to my neighbor with cats, “actually you DO like dogs better than cats, you’re just too scared of dogs to have one.” That would be weird of me, right?

I am glad that you had a great experience. I hope all the girls who rush have a similarly great experience! Go forth with god, my friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For us it’s not a case of scared, it’s a case of social fit. DD isn’t interested (fairly introverted, in HS is in the artsy, theater, music, geeky crowd). So she always checks percentages of students in Greek life and asks questions about how big it is at any school she looks at, and no Greek at all is a bonus.

Semantics.

It's not that she won't fit in, she's "scared" she won't fit in. She's scared of Greek life.

No, it’s that she’s not interested. Just like she’s not interested in sports, so she doesn’t hang out with the jocks in high school. She’s not scared she won’t fit in - she’ll fit in with the artsy theater people.

So why can’t she go to school with kids who are in the Greek system? Colleges are large enough for everyone to find their people. The only ones being closed-minded on this thread are those who refuse to consider schools with strong Greek networks.

She can. Did you read? I said no Greek is a bonus, but it’s not the goal. But she doesn’t want a school where everything revolves around Greek life, that would be a bad fit. Do you tell future English majors that they are scared and close-minded if they don’t consider attending RPI?

[Anonymous]

Greek haters are jealous. I'm sorry, they just are. This forum is full of posters who are jealous of things they can't have. This is just another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For us it’s not a case of scared, it’s a case of social fit. DD isn’t interested (fairly introverted, in HS is in the artsy, theater, music, geeky crowd). So she always checks percentages of students in Greek life and asks questions about how big it is at any school she looks at, and no Greek at all is a bonus.

Semantics.

It's not that she won't fit in, she's "scared" she won't fit in. She's scared of Greek life.

No, it’s that she’s not interested. Just like she’s not interested in sports, so she doesn’t hang out with the jocks in high school. She’s not scared she won’t fit in - she’ll fit in with the artsy theater people.

So why can’t she go to school with kids who are in the Greek system? Colleges are large enough for everyone to find their people. The only ones being closed-minded on this thread are those who refuse to consider schools with strong Greek networks.

She can. Did you read? I said no Greek is a bonus, but it’s not the goal. But she doesn’t want a school where everything revolves around Greek life, that would be a bad fit. Do you tell future English majors that they are scared and close-minded if they don’t consider attending RPI?

Silly analogy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For us it’s not a case of scared, it’s a case of social fit. DD isn’t interested (fairly introverted, in HS is in the artsy, theater, music, geeky crowd). So she always checks percentages of students in Greek life and asks questions about how big it is at any school she looks at, and no Greek at all is a bonus.

Semantics.

It's not that she won't fit in, she's "scared" she won't fit in. She's scared of Greek life.

No, it’s that she’s not interested. Just like she’s not interested in sports, so she doesn’t hang out with the jocks in high school. She’s not scared she won’t fit in - she’ll fit in with the artsy theater people.

So why can’t she go to school with kids who are in the Greek system? Colleges are large enough for everyone to find their people. The only ones being closed-minded on this thread are those who refuse to consider schools with strong Greek networks.

She can. Did you read? I said no Greek is a bonus, but it’s not the goal. But she doesn’t want a school where everything revolves around Greek life, that would be a bad fit. Do you tell future English majors that they are scared and close-minded if they don’t consider attending RPI?

Silly analogy.

Why? Sounds pretty good to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Greek haters are jealous. I'm sorry, they just are. This forum is full of posters who are jealous of things they can't have. This is just another.

Are you secretly trying to turn people off Greek life? It’s working