Were you a very attractive child or young adult, How to handle weird looks based attention

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are lucky, you have the looks that makes you look beautiful when you do makeup, hair, clothing etc. - but - you look like a normal, healthy, attractive, kind, regular person otherwise.

If you are lucky, you are well proportioned and healthy so that you don't look sexy until you dress sexy.

Totally this. I learned at a young age that if I wanted to have female friends, I had to dress like a tomboy and wear no makeup. I still got attention (and to be clear I’m attractive but nothing special) but girls were nicer to me when I didn’t put any effort into my appearance. It’s like they could forgive me for being naturally attractive as long as it didn’t look like I tried AT ALL. As I got older I learned to dress for my audience: if I wanted to put effort into looking good I could do that with close friends or on dates, but for interactions with new women or professionally I just couldn’t do the things other women did.

Why’s that fool

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All young women get attention from men and boys.

This. It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents never prioritized looks for their three girls. It was all about education and being a good person. I didn't even realize I was attractive until college when I received a lot of attention and comments from women and men. I'm glad because I wasn't ready to handle it until then.

That’s ridiculous. If you had a mirror you certainly knew you weren’t ugly. And it doesn’t matter that parents don’t prioritize looks because people do. You would have gotten attention in childhood if you were uniquely attractive. I bet you bloomed and grew into your looks in college.

[Anonymous]

Make sure your child isn't afraid to speak up. They will learn people will touch them without consent. It is ok to physically or verbally shut that down. Put them in a martial arts class to gain body awareness and confidence.

Beauty is a blessing and a curse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait til puberty hits. Awkward years are coming soon.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Through some unlikely distant genetics, my children (ages 6, 9, 10) all turned out much more attractive than myself or DH. I am sure this post will be flamed for being unrealistic, but people are constantly amazed how much more attractive my kids are than us, some don’t even bother to hide it “wow! Those are your kids?! They are so cute”.

Of course we don’t prioritize their looks and praise them for being kind and working hard. But I notice people gaze at them and soon my daughter will facing attention from men and boys. It was hard enough as an average looking person and my pretty friends faced A LOT more creepy predatory behavior.

Wondering from the beautiful and genetically gifted here (men and women) what things you would have benefited from your parents while growing up.

this is too young to be so certain about their adult appearance.

[Anonymous]

You make sure your attractive kids know there is more to them than just their exterior and looks.

Place value elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents never prioritized looks for their three girls. It was all about education and being a good person. I didn't even realize I was attractive until college when I received a lot of attention and comments from women and men. I'm glad because I wasn't ready to handle it until then.

That’s ridiculous. If you had a mirror you certainly knew you weren’t ugly. And it doesn’t matter that parents don’t prioritize looks because people do. You would have gotten attention in childhood if you were uniquely attractive. I bet you bloomed and grew into your looks in college.

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[Anonymous]

Honestly, I was an introvert and hated all the extra attention. I developed bad posture from trying to look smaller. Also stopped looking people in the eyes. It wasn’t as strange when other kids my age looked at me, but adults doing it made me really uncomfortable. Sorry I don’t have an answer but it’s good to recognize the potential issues. Also know they may look very different in a few years, so this could be short lived.