Were you a very attractive child or young adult, How to handle weird looks based attention
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Through some unlikely distant genetics, my children (ages 6, 9, 10) all turned out much more attractive than myself or DH. I am sure this post will be flamed for being unrealistic, but people are constantly amazed how much more attractive my kids are than us, some don’t even bother to hide it “wow! Those are your kids?! They are so cute”.
Of course we don’t prioritize their looks and praise them for being kind and working hard. But I notice people gaze at them and soon my daughter will facing attention from men and boys. It was hard enough as an average looking person and my pretty friends faced A LOT more creepy predatory behavior. Wondering from the beautiful and genetically gifted here (men and women) what things you would have benefited from your parents while growing up. |
Anonymous
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People will exaggerate compliments to be nice. Don't read too much into it.
Also yes your kids will become attractive to adults, at least you better hope they do. Teach them to smile and learn to take compliments from people of all ages, without being all Karen "omuhgherd a predator! Get away creepos!" attitude that is stuckup acting. |
Anonymous
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Keep them away from churches
GOP White Christian men |
Anonymous
| If they haven’t started to come up to you with stupid statements like, is she a model? (At 5 years old) Or are her eyelashes real? Or they tell you that they can’t stop looking at her! Then you have average good looking kids. Don’t worry. |
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As a small child, people were always coming up to me/my parents to say how striking I was— specifically uniquely intense eyes. I remember being a tot and saying “I know” when someone said I was pretty, and my mom saying welllll that’s not what you’re supposed to say. It felt awkward.
As an older kid, I grew into it and am just regular attractive, and it is a non-issue. (I do even in my 40s feel like I have some degree of pretty privilege, but so do a lot of people) My daughter inherited the same features that I grew into, that are striking on a toddler/small child— very very pale green eyes that are huge plus she got her father’s olive complexion. People will come up to us at restaurants to comment on her being beautiful, and this started around 4 months. At whole foods the other day, someone followed us across the store to tell me she was gorgeous (they told me they saw her across the store and had to come say hello to such a pretty girl). It is awkward, but not truly annoying, and I usually just say thanks and say something about her overall being an awesome kid and I’m lucky to be her mom (bc of some drive to balance out the pretty comments? idk). My kid is not quite 2, so I haven’t thought much about what to say to her about this attn. I think being pretty is mostly a net-positive, and that creeps are creeps and any kid is gonna have to be raised to trust their gut etc. I think folks are more apt to be commenting on, and surprised by, a younger kid being super attractive. I don’t think adults will randomly come up to my daughter at 12, or at least, random age inappropriate ppl didn’t come up to me at that age. |
Anonymous
Good general advice here, really. |
Anonymous
| My Mom tried to put me into modeling. Don't do that...! |
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Anonymous
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Keep them away from public schools
Dems Black Muslims or Jewish men |
Anonymous
Good general advice here, really. |
Anonymous
Why not? It usually doesn't pan out, but sometimes a kid gets lucky and noticed by an agent who has connections. |
Anonymous
I feel like Amanda Bynes is a cautionary tale on this one. |
Anonymous
Think something happened to her around the time she was working on the movie "Hall Pass" and had to drop out |
Anonymous
Google what happened to all the girls that were “recruited” to John Casablanca‘s modeling firm in the 90s… |
Anonymous
Same. And pageants |