Were you a very attractive child or young adult, How to handle weird looks based attention

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Mom tried to put me into modeling. Don't do that...!

Same. And pageants

Pageants are 100 times worse. Mini actresses and models have to go on a lot of last minute auditions and then call backs. And if you get a job it’s during the day time. Not worth it.

[Anonymous]

Woman here. I became extremely attractive in my teens and it lasted into my twenties. It was weird though because as a child the other kids in school always told me I was ugly so I didn’t quite know how to deal with the change in looks and new attention. My parents didn’t focus much on looks so it really didn’t come up very much at home. They did make sure I was always dressed appropriately so I wouldn’t attract the wrong kind of attention, which I also didn’t fully understand. I think the thing to understand is that kids don’t understand just how many sick, predatory people (more men than women, but women are not exempt) are out there just waiting take advantage and they will if given the slightest chance. I think it’s also important to remind your kids that they didn’t do anything to achieve their looks. It was, a happy accident, so to speak and should not be lorded over anyone else. And also what is a blessing is also a curse. Many many female friends tried to ruin my life in various ways due to jealousy. It was very difficult at times.

[Anonymous]

I got harassed by men back at home, but nothing like in US.
Hopefully your daughter won't be hanging out the losers, but they are very sneaky.

[Anonymous]

Make sure your kids know that there are bad people and predators in the world (and our town.) Make sure they are never out alone walking and know how to run or otherwise get out of Dodge. Prepare your daughter for how to handle street harassment and explicit comments (they started at 9 for me.) NEVEr let your daughter ride the bus or train alone. Make sure she has make friends, who will secretly love her, but who will minimize the harassment she is subject to by the mere presence. Tell her that any adult trying to befriend her is most certainly a predator. I wish my parents would've taught me these things...I learned the hard (and scary) way.

[Anonymous]

Don't let Elon or Hegseth near them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Mom tried to put me into modeling. Don't do that...!

Why not? It usually doesn't pan out, but sometimes a kid gets lucky and noticed by an agent who has connections.

Because it's an exploitive industry infiltrated by predators.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Mom tried to put me into modeling. Don't do that...!

Why not? It usually doesn't pan out, but sometimes a kid gets lucky and noticed by an agent who has connections.

Because it's an exploitive industry infiltrated by predators.

Name one field or industry that isn't.

[Anonymous]

If you are lucky, you have the looks that makes you look beautiful when you do makeup, hair, clothing etc. - but - you look like a normal, healthy, attractive, kind, regular person otherwise.

If you are lucky, you are well proportioned and healthy so that you don't look sexy until you dress sexy.

[Anonymous]

All young women get attention from men and boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Mom tried to put me into modeling. Don't do that...!

Why not? It usually doesn't pan out, but sometimes a kid gets lucky and noticed by an agent who has connections.

Because it's an exploitive industry infiltrated by predators.

Name one field or industry that isn't.

Yes, but that one is particularly bad about serving up young people for abuse.

[Anonymous]

Getting your kids into modeling, child acting or pageants is morally indefensible given what we know about those industries at this point.

—Fomer child model and mother of an adorable 6 yo who is getting to be a regular kid

[Anonymous]

Wait til puberty hits. Awkward years are coming soon.

[Anonymous]

I ignore extremely rude people like the ones you mention.

[Anonymous]

My parents never prioritized looks for their three girls. It was all about education and being a good person. I didn't even realize I was attractive until college when I received a lot of attention and comments from women and men. I'm glad because I wasn't ready to handle it until then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are lucky, you have the looks that makes you look beautiful when you do makeup, hair, clothing etc. - but - you look like a normal, healthy, attractive, kind, regular person otherwise.

If you are lucky, you are well proportioned and healthy so that you don't look sexy until you dress sexy.

Totally this. I learned at a young age that if I wanted to have female friends, I had to dress like a tomboy and wear no makeup. I still got attention (and to be clear I’m attractive but nothing special) but girls were nicer to me when I didn’t put any effort into my appearance. It’s like they could forgive me for being naturally attractive as long as it didn’t look like I tried AT ALL. As I got older I learned to dress for my audience: if I wanted to put effort into looking good I could do that with close friends or on dates, but for interactions with new women or professionally I just couldn’t do the things other women did.