Why do so many young males see themselves as alphas, gladiators, lions etc.?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to need more context here.

NP.

No, it really does not.

Everybody on DCUM knows it.

Unless you’re new here or something, we’ve seen the bro dads IRL. We have all seen or learned to see our world through a lens exposing pervasive toxic masculinity.

And the sad rise of all these incel boys is a real thing, even if some of you don’t know it yet.

DP here. These are random words that form sentences but don’t convey information. Enjoy your lens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The funny thing is anyone who refers to themselves as "alpha" has outed themselves as being really insecure and kind of pathetic.

People who are actually tough don't go around talking about how tough they are.

+1
It's also a dead giveaway for red pilled manosphere obsessed losers. Good cue on who to avoid honestly.

[Anonymous]

They all are jacked and have big d*cks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The funny thing is anyone who refers to themselves as "alpha" has outed themselves as being really insecure and kind of pathetic.

People who are actually tough don't go around talking about how tough they are.

+1
It's also a dead giveaway for red pilled manosphere obsessed losers. Good cue on who to avoid honestly.

Sure. When is the last time you interacted with a real person who identified as such?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The funny thing is anyone who refers to themselves as "alpha" has outed themselves as being really insecure and kind of pathetic.

People who are actually tough don't go around talking about how tough they are.

I’ve heard about it from the TV show Survivor. Maybe it means a person who dominates and back stabs to dominate j til the end?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They all are jacked and have teeny d*cks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The funny thing is anyone who refers to themselves as "alpha" has outed themselves as being really insecure and kind of pathetic.

People who are actually tough don't go around talking about how tough they are.

+1
It's also a dead giveaway for red pilled manosphere obsessed losers. Good cue on who to avoid honestly.

Sure. When is the last time you interacted with a real person who identified as such?

Not much anymore, but there are a few in my gym group. No surprise they are all single and only hang out with other men.

[Anonymous]

I used to work for an agency that managed many of the alpha male influencers and I actually dated one about 20 years ago (long before he was an influencer, obviously).

The interesting thing is most of them actually start off wanting to help people. Many of them started as fitness trainers. But the way algorithms work now, content that gets the most engagement gets shown to more people. And what we figured out is that if you say controversial things, people argue in the comments, and it goes viral.

As far as why boys and young men get sucked in - most boys today don’t have good male role models. Of all the men I have ever known throughout my 40+ years, I have only met one who said that he believed it was his responsibility to demonstrate to his children how men should treat women, and he took that responsibility very seriously. Most men see their wives as a ball and chain, someone to cook and clean and provide sex, not someone they are to cherish and respect and care for. Most men see children as little more than pets and don’t do much beyond providing a paycheck. They don’t teach their sons how to care for themselves, care for other people, be a functioning adult.

So boys grow up without a good role model, and these alpha males step in and offer that. They *do* teach boys about women, finance, fitness, etc - all things they should have learned from real men in real life, but those men all dropped the ball.

As an example, one of the most viral posts I ever did for an alpha male influencer was him breaking down his bank account and autopay system - basically what percentage of his money goes where, how he pays bills, etc. And guys loved it! Because nobody ever taught them these very basic things, like how to set up bank accounts, pay taxes, how much to save and invest, etc.

Before modern times, boys and young men had all of the men of the tribe to mentor them, teach them, set an example for them. We had rituals and ceremonies that brought them from boyhood to manhood. We don’t have those things anymore, but boys still need them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because they're listening to trash podcasts who want to sell them "workout supplements".

The secret to all of this is there's always an angle to make money. To be "alpha" you have to buy their classes and protein powder and gym equipment. Oldest trick in the book, make someone feel inadequate but then offer to sell them something to "fix" it.

This right here.

Growing up pre-internet you "found your tribe" organically among your real-life peers. Even if you were bullied and made fun of for what you liked you usually had at least some peers or mentors supporting you.

I was a total nerd as a kid. I loved reading sci-fi and using computers (back when that was actually something that got you labeled as uncool). I was not invited to parties, I was called names at school. I didn't have a lot of friends but I had a core group of 3 or 4 kids where we could be nerds together and have the time of our lives when we were together regardless of what else was happening in our lives and social circles. I knew I wasn't an "alpha" (not that anyone used that term back then) but it didn't matter because when I was with my friends it was OK to not like sports and to not be good at talking to girls, and I got affirmation and positive reinforcement for being good at the things I was good at - setting up a LAN so we could all play Doom together or memorizing all the quotes from Monty Python movies.

Nowadays kids who feel alone or who don't feel like their skills and interests are valued have a box in their pocket constantly sending them surgically targeted messages that what they like and what they're good at and how they act isn't good or normal, and that only by being an "alpha" will they ever feel good about themselves or achieve acceptance and recognition. And what's worse, that box sending them powerful negative messages is absolutely required to be used for them to function in society even if they have a supportive and nurturing friend group, so the danger never ever goes away.

It's an incredibly dangerous and insidious phenomenon that isn't getting nearly enough attention.

[Anonymous]

Because they're terminally online and think they're being cool and edgy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The funny thing is anyone who refers to themselves as "alpha" has outed themselves as being really insecure and kind of pathetic.

People who are actually tough don't go around talking about how tough they are.

I’ve heard about it from the TV show Survivor. Maybe it means a person who dominates and back stabs to dominate j til the end?

The television series you (and everyone) really needs to watch to learn about boys in 2025 is “Adolescence” on netflix.

It shows how boys are being turned into incels; violent incels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally I wish we still had Roman Gladiator fights to the death. Maybe Trump can end some restrictions on that or something. UFC is pretty lame.

You realize those people were slaves, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The funny thing is anyone who refers to themselves as "alpha" has outed themselves as being really insecure and kind of pathetic.

People who are actually tough don't go around talking about how tough they are.

I’ve heard about it from the TV show Survivor. Maybe it means a person who dominates and back stabs to dominate j til the end?

The television series you (and everyone) really needs to watch to learn about boys in 2025 is “Adolescence” on netflix.

It shows how boys are being turned into incels; violent incels.

Yep, also that show Squid Games! So terrible. Such a destructive society.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems very common these days. They don't want to actually work hard and make a societal contribution, they just fantasize about getting wealthy by being lions, alphas, gladiators etc.

What's behind this?

Who are you and why are you filling this site with such stupid, meaningless posts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The funny thing is anyone who refers to themselves as "alpha" has outed themselves as being really insecure and kind of pathetic.

People who are actually tough don't go around talking about how tough they are.

I’ve heard about it from the TV show Survivor. Maybe it means a person who dominates and back stabs to dominate j til the end?

The television series you (and everyone) really needs to watch to learn about boys in 2025 is “Adolescence” on netflix.

It shows how boys are being turned into incels; violent incels.

You are nuts. That show doesn't show anything. This is such a one off. Kids from good homes with parents who give them attention are not being turned in to incels. You need therapy.