Dress code enforcement?

[Anonymous]

I’m ok with school uniforms, they’re universally applied, but dress codes are unevenly enforced. They’re disproportionately used to punish girls and minorities.

My HS daughter wore a baby tee yesterday, you could see a 1 inch line of her belly between the hem and her jeans. I didn’t have any problem with that. I am pretty confident when I was in HS in the 90s no one wore knee length shorts and was fully covered up. The only knee length short I remember were my mom’s 80s coulottes and no one under 40 was wearing those. And considering the amount of flannel we wore on top, why are you complaining when kids wear flannel bottoms?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is always pointing and chanting "hussy" at girls wearing crop tops.

Exposed bellies aren’t okay for school, neither male nor female.

Same holds true for pajamas. The lack of a bare minimum of standards is ridiculous.

So would you ban pajamas days in elementary school?

What’s the difference between flannel pants and pajama pants?

You think that having a “pajama day” for kindergarteners is the same thing as having high schoolers show up at school in their pj’s every day? Come back when you’re capable of an actual discussion on the topic.

No, I actually don’t think they are the same thing. Pajama day in elementary school was hugely distracting to one of my kids. The little kid pajamas that are tight fitting and thinner materials to be compliant with fire safety rules were distracting throughout the day. But now in high school wearing flannel pants that are viewed as pajamas and a hoodie is very comfortable for him and allows him to concentrate on his schoolwork.

[Anonymous]

This thread makes me sad. The standard these days is no standard.

Young kids with their stomachs out and grown adults who are just like "who cares?" Yet throws a fit when.... I'd keep going but you get the gist of it! These parents who send their kids half dressed to school need to do better and have some better expectations and standards for their kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is always pointing and chanting "hussy" at girls wearing crop tops.

Exposed bellies aren’t okay for school, neither male nor female.

Same holds true for pajamas. The lack of a bare minimum of standards is ridiculous.

So would you ban pajamas days in elementary school?

What’s the difference between flannel pants and pajama pants?

You think that having a “pajama day” for kindergarteners is the same thing as having high schoolers show up at school in their pj’s every day? Come back when you’re capable of an actual discussion on the topic.

+1000
I can't, it's like their brain can't go any further!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes me sad. The standard these days is no standard.

Young kids with their stomachs out and grown adults who are just like "who cares?" Yet throws a fit when.... I'd keep going but you get the gist of it! These parents who send their kids half dressed to school need to do better and have some better expectations and standards for their kids.

I think everyone can agree a standard is good. Any kid (or adult) showing up nude to school would undoubtedly be a distraction in this and most cultures.

But is the standard "don't show midriff?" Is it "no visible undergarments?" Is it "straps at least an inch thick?" Is it "shorts to your fingertip" or "shorts to your knees?" That we can't agree on.

My kids are at a uniform private school with official length standards for shorts and skirts. No one follows them and no teacher enforces them.

[Anonymous]

We are in APS, but tbeu are so liberal bare midriff, butt cheeks, l ok. Can’t imagine they would care about flip flops.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. These are not private schools, it's up to you to parent and advise your kids too.

I went to public school. They used to have much higher standards in the 90s.

1890s? I was in high school in the 1990s, and the style was to wear your pants low so everyone could see your boxers.

this x100000!!! Our 90's "fashion" is making its retro return now too; baby doll tees, mini skirts, baggy pants, gah! I'm so much happier with my kids wearing flannel pj pants and a tshirt/hoodie to school than what I put my parents through As long as they keep their grades up, I could give a flying fig what they wear to school.

[Anonymous]

I genuinely think the lack of enforcement for dress code is hurting these kids. I've spoken to recruiters who talk about people showing up to interviews in sweats, flannel PJs etc because they've never been taught that how they present themselves matters. A lot of us learned that in middle and high school from the dress code rules that we experienced. I agree that dress codes unfairly target girls but I don't understand why there isn't some base level of dress code.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I genuinely think the lack of enforcement for dress code is hurting these kids. I've spoken to recruiters who talk about people showing up to interviews in sweats, flannel PJs etc because they've never been taught that how they present themselves matters. A lot of us learned that in middle and high school from the dress code rules that we experienced. I agree that dress codes unfairly target girls but I don't understand why there isn't some base level of dress code.

None of these kids are prepared for a professional future. We're all doomed.

[Anonymous]

FCPS basically got rid of the dress code a few years ago. Because apparently dress codes “sexualize” and “body shame.” Nobody should be showing their butts, boobs, or bellies at school, regardless of gender.

I’m thankful the dress code mentions no buttocks hanging out. However, this is NOT enforced. The girls shorts are intentionally showing their butts.

FCPS please enforce the dress code! Or do school uniforms. School is a place for learning and safety, not showing everybody your tail and nipples.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FCPS basically got rid of the dress code a few years ago. Because apparently dress codes “sexualize” and “body shame.” Nobody should be showing their butts, boobs, or bellies at school, regardless of gender.

I’m thankful the dress code mentions no buttocks hanging out. However, this is NOT enforced. The girls shorts are intentionally showing their butts.

FCPS please enforce the dress code! Or do school uniforms. School is a place for learning and safety, not showing everybody your tail and nipples.

Oh shut up MAGA.

The girls are emulating the women of your party like Bobo.

Fake boobs, big lips, tight clothing etc....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FCPS basically got rid of the dress code a few years ago. Because apparently dress codes “sexualize” and “body shame.” Nobody should be showing their butts, boobs, or bellies at school, regardless of gender.

I’m thankful the dress code mentions no buttocks hanging out. However, this is NOT enforced. The girls shorts are intentionally showing their butts.

FCPS please enforce the dress code! Or do school uniforms. School is a place for learning and safety, not showing everybody your tail and nipples.

Oh shut up MAGA.

The girls are emulating the women of your party like Bobo.

Fake boobs, big lips, tight clothing etc....

I’m not MAGA. And this isn’t political. People should wear clothes and cover up for school. Nobody wants to see a$$ cheeks and b##bs at school. Save that for the pool.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is always pointing and chanting "hussy" at girls wearing crop tops.

Exposed bellies aren’t okay for school, neither male nor female.

Same holds true for pajamas. The lack of a bare minimum of standards is ridiculous.

i agree with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PJs are very popular in our MS. Back to school day was full of too short bottoms and exposed bellies. Flip-flops are rare, most kids wear socks and Birks/sneakers. [b]Crocs are no longer fashionable.

THEY NEVER WERE!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dress codes target girls. Good luck finding knee length shorts.

Yeah, the entire fashion of our culture would have to change for knee length shorts to be a thing here. Though recently when at a waterpark watching all the boys be able to slide down inflatables without getting hurt in their longer swimsuits while most girls avoided them...I again thought about how unfair it is that female fashion isn't really ever about function.

Agree. We are only now getting usable pockets in a few dresses and pants.

My girls aren’t allowed to wear crop tops or pajamas to school. That’s our family’s rule. But I’m 100% not in favor of stricter dress codes that will just focus on policing girls. No thanks!