teen daughter only wearing baggy clothing?

[Anonymous]

Tell her to wear a giant sweater with those tiny jeans. Or a tiny sweater with giant jeans. Those are both good looks.

[Anonymous]

I am 50+ but remember the summer before I left for college. I was a wreck.

Also, I have teens, we live in NYC, and baggy clothes are in right now up here. But it’s stressful to buy clothes for college - you don’t know what will be “in” at the college/geographic region you are going to, and how you present yourself in terms of clothes may set a tone for the friend group that you end up in. It’s kind of high stakes when you think about it.

I don’t think that (on its own) this is indicative of any major trauma/problem.

Sorry, both being a teenage girl and being the parent of a teenage girl are hard. I probably did something similar the summer before college - and I’m a reasonably well-adjusted and functional member of society now!

[Anonymous]

Tell her you will return the "tight" jeans. Give her the money. Obviously you are donating them but wtf shut her up.
She has body dysmorphia and clothes touching her are tight and make her feel fat or gaining weight. BTDT

[Anonymous]

Quit getting involved. Don't suggest or compliment, as either could upset her.

[Anonymous]

I know I’m not supposed to latch onto the baggy clothes trend for girls and young women—I’m middle-aged. My daughter wears baggy clothes, and I don’t say anything. I just paid for back-to-school outfits that fit this style.

To my eyes, oversized clothes resemble what controlling parents of earlier eras would have insisted their daughters wear. The kind of clothes girls tolerated because “Mom said no” to fitted styles—only to change in the bathroom or in the car the moment they were out of sight.

I can make sense of almost every generation’s teen fashion choices across the last century—except this one. I know I would still have the same take if I was not a parent.

I am baffled that I am having such a strong reaction to my daughter's fashion choices.

[Anonymous]

I would investigate a little further. I was sexually assaulted as a teen and then always tried to hide myself in bigger clothes. If it’s just a fashion trend then so be it.

[Anonymous]

I’m t is very much a fashion trend. Who cares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 18 year daughter spent high school in baggy jeans and huge sweatshirts/sweaters. She's a small person but no one could ever tell as she wears giant things. She's headed to college and we recently went shopping and in the dressing room she tried on jeans that fit and decided to buy them. I think I made the mistake of saying "those look nice." She brought them home and has been screaming )literally screaming) at me ever since that I forced her into buying tiny clothing that she can't breathe in. first, I didn't force the purchase it all--it was her. Second-they aren't tight pants--they're still the super loose style and they're nowhere near being formed to her shape but they're a few sizes smaller than she usually wears.

I think this is all probably normal but the anxious mom in me (stress is high as she's leaving for college) is worried that maybe something happened to her and she is hiding herself as a result. Or it's probably all normal.

Was she ever sexually abused or assaulted?