What do you do to keep your relationship with husband flirty ?

[Anonymous]

Op here
Our teen son and my mum also are with us in the house. So I can’t say exactly wear very sexy clothes around , although he definitely would love that, and it would spice things up. But I can’t do that.
I have been thinking about a new haircut.
I guess I n the d to see what new things we can do in the bedroom that would spice things up more.
We have fallen into a rut and need to come out of it.

[Anonymous]

If your mom is there you can go on dates or a weekend away. I like taking dance classes with my husband we get to touch and work together.

Dressing sexy doesn’t mean like walking around in bikinis but maybe you could wear things that show a bit of cleavage, get some lingerie in the bedroom. My husband loves when I am dressed up and do my hair and makeup even if it just a cute dress that I can wear at church.

I love flirting with my husband, touching him, teasing, having fun with him. Just remember that this is your person that you should have fun with.

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Anonymous wrote:If your mom is there you can go on dates or a weekend away. I like taking dance classes with my husband we get to touch and work together.

Dressing sexy doesn’t mean like walking around in bikinis but maybe you could wear things that show a bit of cleavage, get some lingerie in the bedroom. My husband loves when I am dressed up and do my hair and makeup even if it just a cute dress that I can wear at church.

I love flirting with my husband, touching him, teasing, having fun with him. Just remember that this is your person that you should have fun with.

Love this post, how long have you been married?

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Anonymous wrote:Your husband wants you to desire him. Show him. Be fun and smile. In short, act like a silly, love-struck teenage girl who is having fun.

This is exactly what I want to get into.

Our marriage has had so many ups and downs that its hard to start this with him.

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Anonymous wrote:Probably been a thread here before on this but I cant find any. I am 56 years old and married for 22 years.
Our marriage has gone through many ups and downs, been troubled in recent years, gone though with responsibilities with both sets of parents.
We are trying to give it a stronger try … me more than him.
How do I spark this marriage in every way? Our s- - life is very dim too.
I do see him being vibrant with few other female friends . He enjoys that attention.
I want to put the sparkle and flirtation back … need ideas and inputs - Thanks.

Do you take a long time to have an orgasm? Sometimes it becomes work and i would rather sleep. If she was able to get herself off, it would make things easier.

Lazy lovers are the worst. Your poor wife.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you actually enjoy his company or do you just want to avoid divorce?

This. My sister is a divorce lawyer and she told me she has had more consultation with unhappy women who ultimately decided to stay not because they love their husbands, but because the alternative is often costly than women who actually went ahead with the divorce.

I'll guess than less than 25% of women who are still married after 20 years of marriage enjoy the company of their husbands.

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Anonymous wrote:If I want DH’s attention, I fix him a drink wearing just an apron and heels. If he doesn’t notice, I keep doing other housework until he does. Pretty soon he’s following me around the house.

Sweet Jesus ... that's working on me already

You're so gullible. You're talking to a dude with a lot of wishful thinking because he is watching too much po&&. No woman does that, especially after being married 20 years.

I'm not the original PP, but I've done this multiple times. Granted, it was a lot more frequent earlier in our relationship, and we've only been together 15 years, so the version of this I did over the weekend doesn't count, I guess.

As for the OP, it sounds like you need to figure out how to enjoy spending time with your husband. He lights up in those other interactions because he's having fun. The conversation is good, zesty, whatever. He enjoys the attention. You just have to figure out how to enjoy being around him for real, so that the laughter and sparkle are spontaneous. There is no study manual for "how to be charming to your husband" here.

Yes zesty is the word. He has pretty zesty conversations with other women.

We do need to work on that.

YOU. YOU need to work on that. It sounds like you are not feeling zesty yourself. Fine, get a new haircut or whatever you mentioned that would help you out. But it sounds like the issue here is not that your husband doesn't know how to be zesty.

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Anonymous wrote:If I want DH’s attention, I fix him a drink wearing just an apron and heels. If he doesn’t notice, I keep doing other housework until he does. Pretty soon he’s following me around the house.

Sweet Jesus ... that's working on me already

You're so gullible. You're talking to a dude with a lot of wishful thinking because he is watching too much po&&. No woman does that, especially after being married 20 years.

I'm not the original PP, but I've done this multiple times. Granted, it was a lot more frequent earlier in our relationship, and we've only been together 15 years, so the version of this I did over the weekend doesn't count, I guess.

As for the OP, it sounds like you need to figure out how to enjoy spending time with your husband. He lights up in those other interactions because he's having fun. The conversation is good, zesty, whatever. He enjoys the attention. You just have to figure out how to enjoy being around him for real, so that the laughter and sparkle are spontaneous. There is no study manual for "how to be charming to your husband" here.

Yes zesty is the word. He has pretty zesty conversations with other women.

We do need to work on that.

YOU. YOU need to work on that. It sounds like you are not feeling zesty yourself. Fine, get a new haircut or whatever you mentioned that would help you out. But it sounds like the issue here is not that your husband doesn't know how to be zesty.

A new haircut? He don’t give a sh*t about a new haircut.

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Anonymous wrote:If I want DH’s attention, I fix him a drink wearing just an apron and heels. If he doesn’t notice, I keep doing other housework until he does. Pretty soon he’s following me around the house.

Sweet Jesus ... that's working on me already

You're so gullible. You're talking to a dude with a lot of wishful thinking because he is watching too much po&&. No woman does that, especially after being married 20 years.

I'm not the original PP, but I've done this multiple times. Granted, it was a lot more frequent earlier in our relationship, and we've only been together 15 years, so the version of this I did over the weekend doesn't count, I guess.

As for the OP, it sounds like you need to figure out how to enjoy spending time with your husband. He lights up in those other interactions because he's having fun. The conversation is good, zesty, whatever. He enjoys the attention. You just have to figure out how to enjoy being around him for real, so that the laughter and sparkle are spontaneous. There is no study manual for "how to be charming to your husband" here.

Yes zesty is the word. He has pretty zesty conversations with other women.

We do need to work on that.

YOU. YOU need to work on that. It sounds like you are not feeling zesty yourself. Fine, get a new haircut or whatever you mentioned that would help you out. But it sounds like the issue here is not that your husband doesn't know how to be zesty.

A new haircut? He don’t give a sh*t about a new haircut.

NP. I think the idea is that OP needs to find a way to feel better so she acts zesty.

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I let him try and pick up girls in bikinis at the beach

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Have you tried chores?

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How about start with a staycation. You can wear something sexy out on the town, then go back to the hotel room, and have a lazy morning in bed.

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Anonymous wrote:If I want DH’s attention, I fix him a drink wearing just an apron and heels. If he doesn’t notice, I keep doing other housework until he does. Pretty soon he’s following me around the house.

Sweet Jesus ... that's working on me already

You're so gullible. You're talking to a dude with a lot of wishful thinking because he is watching too much po&&. No woman does that, especially after being married 20 years.

I'm not the original PP, but I've done this multiple times. Granted, it was a lot more frequent earlier in our relationship, and we've only been together 15 years, so the version of this I did over the weekend doesn't count, I guess.

As for the OP, it sounds like you need to figure out how to enjoy spending time with your husband. He lights up in those other interactions because he's having fun. The conversation is good, zesty, whatever. He enjoys the attention. You just have to figure out how to enjoy being around him for real, so that the laughter and sparkle are spontaneous. There is no study manual for "how to be charming to your husband" here.

Yes zesty is the word. He has pretty zesty conversations with other women.

We do need to work on that.

YOU. YOU need to work on that. It sounds like you are not feeling zesty yourself. Fine, get a new haircut or whatever you mentioned that would help you out. But it sounds like the issue here is not that your husband doesn't know how to be zesty.

A new haircut? He don’t give a sh*t about a new haircut.

Cut it super short. That will help.

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Be appreciative, affectionate and compliment him.

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Anonymous wrote:If I want DH’s attention, I fix him a drink wearing just an apron and heels. If he doesn’t notice, I keep doing other housework until he does. Pretty soon he’s following me around the house.

Sweet Jesus ... that's working on me already

You're so gullible. You're talking to a dude with a lot of wishful thinking because he is watching too much po&&. No woman does that, especially after being married 20 years.

I'm not the original PP, but I've done this multiple times. Granted, it was a lot more frequent earlier in our relationship, and we've only been together 15 years, so the version of this I did over the weekend doesn't count, I guess.

As for the OP, it sounds like you need to figure out how to enjoy spending time with your husband. He lights up in those other interactions because he's having fun. The conversation is good, zesty, whatever. He enjoys the attention. You just have to figure out how to enjoy being around him for real, so that the laughter and sparkle are spontaneous. There is no study manual for "how to be charming to your husband" here.

Yes zesty is the word. He has pretty zesty conversations with other women.

We do need to work on that.

See, this is the bigger issue. You don’t turn him on the same way, for whatever reason. Maybe have a conversation or get couples counseling to figure out why. He’s capable, he’s just can’t be bothered to put in the effort for his own wife. Simply prancing in lingerie is unlikely to solve this.