Babysitter was in our bedroom

[Anonymous]

Op here. Thanks all. The 9 year old was asleep before we left and I’d just said goodnight to the 11 year old / shut their door and she was exhausted, so I doubt he saw the kids all night. We are actually on a campus / staying in a dorm suite (yes, there is a bathroom in the main space). We were out at an event for the parents that ran 9-11 at a different campus building. I wouldn’t leave the kids alone sleeping because (a) they aren’t comfortable with that and (b) something like an electrical fire can happen so quickly.

It’s not our first time at the “camp” so we’ve probably used a sitter 6 times before. They’ve never given us a male sitter before. I think what I’ll say to the person assigning sitters (since it’s true) is that my girls strongly prefer a female sitter - we were planning to use the wire sitters for adult events tonight and tomorrow so this is relevant. That way, hopefully we don’t get the same person, but I also think it’s a reasonable thing for an 11 year old girl to not want a male sitter in the space.

If in terms of what I worried about, it just felt odd - it was my husband who walked in and saw him and then he told me that it made him uncomfortable and I agree. There aren’t safes - I don’t have cash with me but my wallet is still in the bedroom. While curiosity about the space or - given that he knew we were about to walk in - returning a charger seem the most likely situations to me - the unappealing possibilities include that he lay down on our bed to read, that he looked at my underwear, that he looked in my wallet to see if there was money… all unlikely, but things that crossed my mind.


Because all the counselors are vetted and because we’ve used sitters here about 6 times in the past (

[Anonymous]

Op here - sorry about the typos. On my phone and an add popped up making it hard to see parts of the screen for a moment.

[Anonymous]

You seem like a lot. Yikes.

[Anonymous]

A female sitter could do all those things as well.

[Anonymous]

Probably was checking out your stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This wouldn't even register with me as something to be concerned about.

Plus 1

[Anonymous]

Are you at Tyler place? If so tell Chad. He’ll show concern. Probably lean into the kid for ya.

[Anonymous]

Is this a religious camp situation?

[Anonymous]

I am a sitter & I have gone into parent’s bedrooms on occasion to either grab the baby monitor or a cellphone charger but I ALWAYS get permission first.

Because I know it can look suspicious if I just went in w/o the parents knowing.

I think your sitter likely went in to use the charger.
The fact that nothing appeared to be missing or was moved makes this the likely reason.
If this sitter had gone in for some other reason I highly doubt that they would be standing right in the doorway when they were expecting your return home.

I would just let it go.

[Anonymous]

The male sitter with two sleeping girls would bother me. The bedroom thing wouldn't. My guess is that he was just curious and peeking around. I did that a lot when I was babysitting in my teens. If nothing was taken or obviously touched, then I wouldn't give it a second's thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s weird to get all butt hurt about a sitter apparently entering YOUR bedroom when you’re talking about a tiny, TWO-bedroom lodging suite on vacation.

WTF are you worried about him finding???

Back in the 80s, FWIW, kids and their friends sometimes played in parents’ bedrooms. (Waterbeds were still hanging around in some, we used the big garden tub in others, or it was just the place for the extra TV in the house)

It’s highly possible that your kids were in there earlier, since they only had a 2-br place to hang out in all night, and he was checking that “the place” was picked up and he had his stuff.

Anyway, I would have no expectation of privacy whatsoever for “my” bedroom in this scenario.

All of this.
OMG my parents had a water bed 🤣😩

[Anonymous]

Weird. On the other hand, I basically assume our babysitters enter our room and go through our stuff. Who knows.

[Anonymous]

Or heard a noise and went to investigate. So many reasonable explanations.

[Anonymous]

He was definitely interested in your underwear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not let a male I did not know babysit my kids. Safer to leave the 11 year old in charge

I am surprised it took until the second page for some loon to say something like this.

Loon.