Babysitter was in our bedroom
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Anonymous
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We are on vacation at a “family camp”. The counselors are generally great, are all screened etc so Some of these college kids earn extra money by being available to babysit in the evenings and, when there are events and a lot of families need sitters, there’s a person whose job is to match sitters to families. Long story short, we’d never met our sitter before. We’re staying in a two-bedroom suite with a living room.
We told the sitter tonight we’d be home at 11. We got back at about 11:02 and the sitter was in the doorway to our room - either entering it or coming out. Nothing is missing and nothing seems out of place but it felt odd. My best guess for an innocent explanation is he’d forgotten his phone charger and had found the charger in our room and used it, and was getting his phone because we were walking in the door. But who knows. Would you stay silent? Find the sitter and ask what happened? Tell the coordinator that you don’t want that sitter for any other evenings? Or talk to the camp director? What would you say to the sitter if you started there? |
Anonymous
| Pp here. If it matters, kids are 9 and 11 and were asleep before sitter arrived. |
Anonymous
| Is there a bathroom in the living space? |
Anonymous
| Maybe she was just checking out the style/decor of the house. I wouldn’t say anything. She was probably just wandering around trying to stay awake. |
Anonymous
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Find the sitter and ask them directly.
And don't use them again if you feel their answer is not ok ... Maybe it's just curiosity, I remember taking a look at some rooms when babysitting, it doesn't mean I stole something. It's natural curiosity. This is something I did when I was a sitter, I wouldn't do it as a grown up now and I agree it's not ok at all. Maybe he just wanted to take a look at how the suite was laid out, maybe for his own family to come and stay at the camp ? |
Anonymous
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This wouldn't bother me. It's not like you were at home and your bedroom had anything personal in it.
But also I wouldn't use a sitter at all for sleeping 9 and 11 year olds when I was nearby. |
Anonymous
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It’s weird to get all butt hurt about a sitter apparently entering YOUR bedroom when you’re talking about a tiny, TWO-bedroom lodging suite on vacation.
WTF are you worried about him finding??? Back in the 80s, FWIW, kids and their friends sometimes played in parents’ bedrooms. (Waterbeds were still hanging around in some, we used the big garden tub in others, or it was just the place for the extra TV in the house) It’s highly possible that your kids were in there earlier, since they only had a 2-br place to hang out in all night, and he was checking that “the place” was picked up and he had his stuff. Anyway, I would have no expectation of privacy whatsoever for “my” bedroom in this scenario. |
Anonymous
| I would do nothing and don’t think this would register as something to even be concerned about. It’s essentially a hotel room, not your private home. And I would not be surprised if my 9/11 year old used our bedroom to play or hang out in if they needed extra space as well in this scenario. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Hide your dildo better next time. |
Anonymous
+2. Presumably you didn't have any valuables in there - this is like if you'd hired a sitter to come to your hotel room. It's not "your bedroom." |
Anonymous
| This wouldn't even register with me as something to be concerned about. |
Anonymous
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What are you going to say to the director? "The sitter was standing in the doorway of our bedroom!!!! "
You'll get yourself labeled as the crazy family. |
Anonymous
| If I was the camp director and you came to me about this, I would remove your family from the list of families my staff could babysit. |
Anonymous
| Touching your undies. Burn them |