Anyone else's parents/in-laws drink like fish?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boomer here with boomer spouse. Four adult kids all in their 30s and 40s with similarly aged spouses. They all drink much more than we do now and ever have, especially at family gatherings and vacations. But here’s the thing: we don’t judge their entire generation because of it. In fact, we don’t judge it at all. Who gives a shit? People who judge whole generations and people who drink just suck.

You sound sanctimonious and awful. There’s a reason nobody can stand you people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re judging people just trying to have fun on their vacation? Maybe spend the evening self-reflecting and tomorrow you can join them. Be sure to leave the stick in the bedroom.

You can’t have fun without drinking alcohol? Alcohol is required for fun? Hmmm. -NP

Alcohol has been associated with fun in most cultures for thousands of years. Don’t act like it is weird.

But now we know so much more about its negative side… like how it causes cancer!

Cave men beat their children and married their sisters, and lived to be 31 - “been doing it for thousands of years” isn’t much of an argument.

There is also strong evidence for its health benefits and its social benefits. People who drink in moderation tend to be significantly healthier and happier than non-drinkers.

No. That’s a myth. There’s no health upside to drinking. It causes cancer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re judging people just trying to have fun on their vacation? Maybe spend the evening self-reflecting and tomorrow you can join them. Be sure to leave the stick in the bedroom.

You can’t have fun without drinking alcohol? Alcohol is required for fun? Hmmm. -NP

Alcohol has been associated with fun in most cultures for thousands of years. Don’t act like it is weird.

But now we know so much more about its negative side… like how it causes cancer!

Cave men beat their children and married their sisters, and lived to be 31 - “been doing it for thousands of years” isn’t much of an argument.

There is also strong evidence for its health benefits and its social benefits. People who drink in moderation tend to be significantly healthier and happier than non-drinkers.

There was never any “strong” evidence. There was a series of studies funded by the alcohol industry that suggested it could be healthy for your heart or whatever… those studies have mostly been debunked. Before Trump came in, the govt was moving towards warning labels like cigarettes have: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/01/03/health/alcohol-surgeon-general-warning.html

I know it’s fun and a lot of people are addicted but it’s getting harder and harder to pretend any of this is a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Partners parents are in their 70-80s and drink a ton. I don’t know how they do it because I’m only in my early 40s and max out at 2 drinks! They are not exactly pleasant drunks either….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Partners parents are in their 70-80s and drink a ton. I don’t know how they do it because I’m only in my early 40s and max out at 2 drinks! They are not exactly pleasant drunks either….

I said that about a friend to another mutual friend “how does he do it? I just can’t keep up and he does that every night!” And mutual friend turned to me with a mildly astonished look and said “well he’s an alcoholic” and it’s absolutely true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boomer here with boomer spouse. Four adult kids all in their 30s and 40s with similarly aged spouses. They all drink much more than we do now and ever have, especially at family gatherings and vacations. But here’s the thing: we don’t judge their entire generation because of it. In fact, we don’t judge it at all. Who gives a shit? People who judge whole generations and people who drink just suck.

You sound sanctimonious and awful. There’s a reason nobody can stand you people.

I don’t give a shit what you think

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boomer here with boomer spouse. Four adult kids all in their 30s and 40s with similarly aged spouses. They all drink much more than we do now and ever have, especially at family gatherings and vacations. But here’s the thing: we don’t judge their entire generation because of it. In fact, we don’t judge it at all. Who gives a shit? People who judge whole generations and people who drink just suck.

You sound sanctimonious and awful. There’s a reason nobody can stand you people.

I don’t give a shit what you think

“Why does everyone hate me and my generation? Could it be we’re horrible and loathsome to everyone? Ah I don’t give a shit what they think!”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boomer here with boomer spouse. Four adult kids all in their 30s and 40s with similarly aged spouses. They all drink much more than we do now and ever have, especially at family gatherings and vacations. But here’s the thing: we don’t judge their entire generation because of it. In fact, we don’t judge it at all. Who gives a shit? People who judge whole generations and people who drink just suck.

You sound sanctimonious and awful. There’s a reason nobody can stand you people.

I don’t give a shit what you think

“Why does everyone hate me and my generation? Could it be we’re horrible and loathsome to everyone? Ah I don’t give a shit what they think!”

Stop hijacking the thread with your boomer comments.

[Anonymous]

As long as they aren't ugly drunks, observing your parents get inebriated with their friends and tell stories can be entertaining.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boomer here with boomer spouse. Four adult kids all in their 30s and 40s with similarly aged spouses. They all drink much more than we do now and ever have, especially at family gatherings and vacations. But here’s the thing: we don’t judge their entire generation because of it. In fact, we don’t judge it at all. Who gives a shit? People who judge whole generations and people who drink just suck.

You sound sanctimonious and awful. There’s a reason nobody can stand you people.

Actually we can’t stand you. You’re judgy and entitled. Millennial amiright?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re judging people just trying to have fun on their vacation? Maybe spend the evening self-reflecting and tomorrow you can join them. Be sure to leave the stick in the bedroom.

You can’t have fun without drinking alcohol? Alcohol is required for fun? Hmmm. -NP

Alcohol has been associated with fun in most cultures for thousands of years. Don’t act like it is weird.

But now we know so much more about its negative side… like how it causes cancer!

Cave men beat their children and married their sisters, and lived to be 31 - “been doing it for thousands of years” isn’t much of an argument.

There is also strong evidence for its health benefits and its social benefits. People who drink in moderation tend to be significantly healthier and happier than non-drinkers.

There was never any “strong” evidence. There was a series of studies funded by the alcohol industry that suggested it could be healthy for your heart or whatever… those studies have mostly been debunked. Before Trump came in, the govt was moving towards warning labels like cigarettes have: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/01/03/health/alcohol-surgeon-general-warning.html

I know it’s fun and a lot of people are addicted but it’s getting harder and harder to pretend any of this is a good idea.

Wrong. There are clear health and social benefits. There are also damages to health from alcohol. In recent years many researchers have decided that the negative consequences outweigh the benefits, but few serious researchers argue that some benefits are not real.
For example:
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2767693
In this cohort study of 19 887 participants from the Health and Retirement Study, with a mean follow-up of 9.1 years, when compared with never drinking, low to moderate drinking was associated with significantly better trajectories of higher cognition scores for mental status, word recall, and vocabulary and with lower rates of decline in each of these cognition domains.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re judging people just trying to have fun on their vacation? Maybe spend the evening self-reflecting and tomorrow you can join them. Be sure to leave the stick in the bedroom.

You can’t have fun without drinking alcohol? Alcohol is required for fun? Hmmm. -NP

Alcohol has been associated with fun in most cultures for thousands of years. Don’t act like it is weird.

But now we know so much more about its negative side… like how it causes cancer!

Cave men beat their children and married their sisters, and lived to be 31 - “been doing it for thousands of years” isn’t much of an argument.

There is also strong evidence for its health benefits and its social benefits. People who drink in moderation tend to be significantly healthier and happier than non-drinkers.

There was never any “strong” evidence. There was a series of studies funded by the alcohol industry that suggested it could be healthy for your heart or whatever… those studies have mostly been debunked. Before Trump came in, the govt was moving towards warning labels like cigarettes have: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/01/03/health/alcohol-surgeon-general-warning.html

I know it’s fun and a lot of people are addicted but it’s getting harder and harder to pretend any of this is a good idea.

Wrong. There are clear health and social benefits. There are also damages to health from alcohol. In recent years many researchers have decided that the negative consequences outweigh the benefits, but few serious researchers argue that some benefits are not real.
For example:
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2767693
In this cohort study of 19 887 participants from the Health and Retirement Study, with a mean follow-up of 9.1 years, when compared with never drinking, low to moderate drinking was associated with significantly better trajectories of higher cognition scores for mental status, word recall, and vocabulary and with lower rates of decline in each of these cognition domains.

The recent war on alcohol, driven largely by the cannabis industry, drove people to these judgy, uninformed stances on alcohol. It seems reality is slowly starting to sink back in. If I'm lucky enough to hit my late 70s, have grandchildren, and friends to spend time with, you bet I'm going to have fun. I may even have a cigarette with my drink here and there. I can never really understand why old people spend so much time and bandwidth worrying about "long-term" health effects of things. Like, you don't have a long-term, just enjoy the time you have left. And to the judgy millenials--tell them to seek therapy and move on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re judging people just trying to have fun on their vacation? Maybe spend the evening self-reflecting and tomorrow you can join them. Be sure to leave the stick in the bedroom.

You can’t have fun without drinking alcohol? Alcohol is required for fun? Hmmm. -NP

Alcohol has been associated with fun in most cultures for thousands of years. Don’t act like it is weird.

But now we know so much more about its negative side… like how it causes cancer!

Cave men beat their children and married their sisters, and lived to be 31 - “been doing it for thousands of years” isn’t much of an argument.

There is also strong evidence for its health benefits and its social benefits. People who drink in moderation tend to be significantly healthier and happier than non-drinkers.

There was never any “strong” evidence. There was a series of studies funded by the alcohol industry that suggested it could be healthy for your heart or whatever… those studies have mostly been debunked. Before Trump came in, the govt was moving towards warning labels like cigarettes have: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/01/03/health/alcohol-surgeon-general-warning.html

I know it’s fun and a lot of people are addicted but it’s getting harder and harder to pretend any of this is a good idea.

Wrong. There are clear health and social benefits. There are also damages to health from alcohol. In recent years many researchers have decided that the negative consequences outweigh the benefits, but few serious researchers argue that some benefits are not real.
For example:
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2767693
In this cohort study of 19 887 participants from the Health and Retirement Study, with a mean follow-up of 9.1 years, when compared with never drinking, low to moderate drinking was associated with significantly better trajectories of higher cognition scores for mental status, word recall, and vocabulary and with lower rates of decline in each of these cognition domains.

Nope. Those studies have been debunked.

But also, the point is the risk from cancer is far greater. This is like saying “smoking cigarettes is very good for your social health and really helps the elderly produce quite a bit of phlegm in the mornings! Sure it DEFINITELY causes cancer but think of how wonderfully social everyone stepping outside for a smoke break is!”

Also, we’re not talking about an Italian woman who sips a small glass of Chianti with her dinner, we’re talking about disgusting American boomers slamming Cabo Wabo. There’s no health benefit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’re judging people just trying to have fun on their vacation? Maybe spend the evening self-reflecting and tomorrow you can join them. Be sure to leave the stick in the bedroom.

You can’t have fun without drinking alcohol? Alcohol is required for fun? Hmmm. -NP

Alcohol has been associated with fun in most cultures for thousands of years. Don’t act like it is weird.

But now we know so much more about its negative side… like how it causes cancer!

Cave men beat their children and married their sisters, and lived to be 31 - “been doing it for thousands of years” isn’t much of an argument.

There is also strong evidence for its health benefits and its social benefits. People who drink in moderation tend to be significantly healthier and happier than non-drinkers.

There was never any “strong” evidence. There was a series of studies funded by the alcohol industry that suggested it could be healthy for your heart or whatever… those studies have mostly been debunked. Before Trump came in, the govt was moving towards warning labels like cigarettes have: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/01/03/health/alcohol-surgeon-general-warning.html

I know it’s fun and a lot of people are addicted but it’s getting harder and harder to pretend any of this is a good idea.

Wrong. There are clear health and social benefits. There are also damages to health from alcohol. In recent years many researchers have decided that the negative consequences outweigh the benefits, but few serious researchers argue that some benefits are not real.
For example:
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2767693
In this cohort study of 19 887 participants from the Health and Retirement Study, with a mean follow-up of 9.1 years, when compared with never drinking, low to moderate drinking was associated with significantly better trajectories of higher cognition scores for mental status, word recall, and vocabulary and with lower rates of decline in each of these cognition domains.

The recent war on alcohol, driven largely by the cannabis industry, drove people to these judgy, uninformed stances on alcohol. It seems reality is slowly starting to sink back in. If I'm lucky enough to hit my late 70s, have grandchildren, and friends to spend time with, you bet I'm going to have fun. I may even have a cigarette with my drink here and there. I can never really understand why old people spend so much time and bandwidth worrying about "long-term" health effects of things. Like, you don't have a long-term, just enjoy the time you have left. And to the judgy millenials--tell them to seek therapy and move on.

Enjoy your stroke.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boomer here with boomer spouse. Four adult kids all in their 30s and 40s with similarly aged spouses. They all drink much more than we do now and ever have, especially at family gatherings and vacations. But here’s the thing: we don’t judge their entire generation because of it. In fact, we don’t judge it at all. Who gives a shit? People who judge whole generations and people who drink just suck.

You sound sanctimonious and awful. There’s a reason nobody can stand you people.

No she doesn't. Just because you feel called out (rightfully so, apparently) doesn't make her awful. Grow up.