Husband asked me to spend more time with him

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Anonymous wrote:Red flag #1... just so you know this is just the beginning of red flags. Many will say, how did you not see all the red flags when you are dating. Well, they didn't exist. But now he is already complaining that he isn't getting enough attention after the baby was born.

That is Red Flag #1... but you will bend over backward to accommodate him, it won't be enough, he will ask for more and more and more.

You will stupidly have baby #2. The red flags will be on fire.

Welcome to the hell.

Because she's baking desserts for other events. And whatever other trivial BS she deems more important, it doesn't appear to be the baby.

Lord forbid a woman have a life. We have a stage 5 clinger here.

Their baby is ONE MONTH OLD. In that time, they've been in multiple weddings, had family visit, and apparently she has been baking for small events. I would not have been able to do those things one month after having a baby. Maybe her "life" is focused on the wrong stuff. Building a family means moving beyond "being in a wedding" and "having work commitments" being what life is.

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I am speaking as a mother of 3 (one is a newborn) and I've been begging my husband for years to pay more attention to me and our kids.

I'm going to have to side with your husband here.

If the wife and husband fall apart, so does the family.

Wish my husband would listen to me because I'm basically checked out. Don't ignore your husband's needs.

Baby will be fine. He sleeps, eats, sleeps, poops, sleeps, eats, repeat. His needs are so incredibly basic right now (and will be for a while), you don't need to stress about baby.

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Anonymous wrote:Red flag #1... just so you know this is just the beginning of red flags. Many will say, how did you not see all the red flags when you are dating. Well, they didn't exist. But now he is already complaining that he isn't getting enough attention after the baby was born.

That is Red Flag #1... but you will bend over backward to accommodate him, it won't be enough, he will ask for more and more and more.

You will stupidly have baby #2. The red flags will be on fire.

Welcome to the hell.

Because she's baking desserts for other events. And whatever other trivial BS she deems more important, it doesn't appear to be the baby.

Lord forbid a woman have a life. We have a stage 5 clinger here.

Their baby is ONE MONTH OLD. In that time, they've been in multiple weddings, had family visit, and apparently she has been baking for small events. I would not have been able to do those things one month after having a baby. Maybe her "life" is focused on the wrong stuff. Building a family means moving beyond "being in a wedding" and "having work commitments" being what life is.

Well I guess HE should not have been a groomsman, and HE should have told his parents to NOT visit.

[Anonymous]

I wish I did this. I was scared to find babysitters. I should have tried harder. Kids make your couple relationship wither. Even if both of you enjoy parenting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Red flag #1... just so you know this is just the beginning of red flags. Many will say, how did you not see all the red flags when you are dating. Well, they didn't exist. But now he is already complaining that he isn't getting enough attention after the baby was born.

That is Red Flag #1... but you will bend over backward to accommodate him, it won't be enough, he will ask for more and more and more.

You will stupidly have baby #2. The red flags will be on fire.

Welcome to the hell.

Because she's baking desserts for other events. And whatever other trivial BS she deems more important, it doesn't appear to be the baby.

Lord forbid a woman have a life. We have a stage 5 clinger here.

Their baby is ONE MONTH OLD. In that time, they've been in multiple weddings, had family visit, and apparently she has been baking for small events. I would not have been able to do those things one month after having a baby. Maybe her "life" is focused on the wrong stuff. Building a family means moving beyond "being in a wedding" and "having work commitments" being what life is.

Well I guess HE should not have been a groomsman, and HE should have told his parents to NOT visit.

I agree! I also think that HE should plan the dates that HE is asking for. However, SHE sounds offended that he even asked to spend more time with her, and the previous comment implied that him wanting to makes him a stage 5 clinger and that she should live her life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I did this. I was scared to find babysitters. I should have tried harder. Kids make your couple relationship wither. Even if both of you enjoy parenting.

No it doesn't not for everyone. Actually many couples bond more over the raising of their kids... what are you doing are you taking turns raising kids? Are you "coparenting" under the same roof.

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Anonymous wrote:Red flag #1... just so you know this is just the beginning of red flags. Many will say, how did you not see all the red flags when you are dating. Well, they didn't exist. But now he is already complaining that he isn't getting enough attention after the baby was born.

That is Red Flag #1... but you will bend over backward to accommodate him, it won't be enough, he will ask for more and more and more.

You will stupidly have baby #2. The red flags will be on fire.

Welcome to the hell.

Because she's baking desserts for other events. And whatever other trivial BS she deems more important, it doesn't appear to be the baby.

Lord forbid a woman have a life. We have a stage 5 clinger here.

Their baby is ONE MONTH OLD. In that time, they've been in multiple weddings, had family visit, and apparently she has been baking for small events. I would not have been able to do those things one month after having a baby. Maybe her "life" is focused on the wrong stuff. Building a family means moving beyond "being in a wedding" and "having work commitments" being what life is.

Well I guess HE should not have been a groomsman, and HE should have told his parents to NOT visit.

I agree! I also think that HE should plan the dates that HE is asking for. However, SHE sounds offended that he even asked to spend more time with her, and the previous comment implied that him wanting to makes him a stage 5 clinger and that she should live her life.

No she's offended that 2x a month was not reasonable for the 1st few months of the babies life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I did this. I was scared to find babysitters. I should have tried harder. Kids make your couple relationship wither. Even if both of you enjoy parenting.

We absolutely did have a babysitter when ours were younger ..

Now that our kids are young adults & in college and home for the summer they babysit for families w young kids

The story’s our child shares are simply so sweet… and we always advise them to offer to arrive a bit early so the parents can get out of the house in peace… and stay an hour later ..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who is busy with work right now? Who is working when baby is less than 4 weeks old - how did you all divide up maternity/paternity leave or do you not have any?

Baby is 5 weeks now. He took 4 weeks and has been to work for a week. I got bored sitting around all day with a sleepy newborn and started doing my side baking at 3 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait so he has offered to find a babysitter and plan a date once a week for a 1-month-old?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who is busy with work right now? Who is working when baby is less than 4 weeks old - how did you all divide up maternity/paternity leave or do you not have any?

Baby is 5 weeks now. He took 4 weeks and has been to work for a week. I got bored sitting around all day with a sleepy newborn and started doing my side baking at 3 weeks.

You have time for side baking, weddings, but 1 date a week with your husband is too much! Do you like the guy or was he supposed to be a sperm donor?

[Anonymous]

Rather than use your mouth to disagree, you should have been using it for something else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rather than use your mouth to disagree, you should have been using it for something else.

😩

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who is busy with work right now? Who is working when baby is less than 4 weeks old - how did you all divide up maternity/paternity leave or do you not have any?

Baby is 5 weeks now. He took 4 weeks and has been to work for a week. I got bored sitting around all day with a sleepy newborn and started doing my side baking at 3 weeks.

Mr Husband is getting bored w you .. Take the hints he’s dropping.
Find a sitter - you or him or take the baby. Otherwise your marriage will absolutely suffer.
He’s telling you this BTW

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Anonymous wrote:Red flag #1... just so you know this is just the beginning of red flags. Many will say, how did you not see all the red flags when you are dating. Well, they didn't exist. But now he is already complaining that he isn't getting enough attention after the baby was born.

That is Red Flag #1... but you will bend over backward to accommodate him, it won't be enough, he will ask for more and more and more.

You will stupidly have baby #2. The red flags will be on fire.

Welcome to the hell.

Because she's baking desserts for other events. And whatever other trivial BS she deems more important, it doesn't appear to be the baby.

Lord forbid a woman have a life. We have a stage 5 clinger here.

Their baby is ONE MONTH OLD. In that time, they've been in multiple weddings, had family visit, and apparently she has been baking for small events. I would not have been able to do those things one month after having a baby. Maybe her "life" is focused on the wrong stuff. Building a family means moving beyond "being in a wedding" and "having work commitments" being what life is.

Well I guess HE should not have been a groomsman, and HE should have told his parents to NOT visit.

I agree! I also think that HE should plan the dates that HE is asking for. However, SHE sounds offended that he even asked to spend more time with her, and the previous comment implied that him wanting to makes him a stage 5 clinger and that she should live her life.

No she's offended that 2x a month was not reasonable for the 1st few months of the babies life.

Of course it’s not enough time. They’ll be divorced in 2 years at this rate.