Who plans milestone anniversaries?

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Anonymous wrote:Debating this now in our family. Who plans milestone anniversaries and birthdays for parents? It seems like it becomes the kids responsibility but I can’t figure out why. Is there a certain year? Like you pay and plan your 50th but by your 60th your kids do it? Why not spouse? 25th anniversary is on the couple but then 50th anniversary gets paid for by kids?

Obviously I’m asking because I’m feeling a bit crushed by responsibilities recently and sandwiched between parents and my kids. Seems like older people have just boatloads of time and excess money to plan things, at least comparatively.

It's boomer entitlement. I find anniversary parties rather tacky to begin with though....

You know what's tackier than an anniversary party- a REGISTRY for an anniversary party. I kid you not!! I couldn't beleive when my cousins included a registry link on the invite for my aunt/uncle's party.

Most people that age don't want anything from a registry. They are trying to get rid of stuff.

There should be a reverse registry, where the couple posts stuff they want to give away

[Anonymous]

My parents are having their 50th. They originally planned a family reunion type gathering in a moderately priced resort that had sentimental meaning. They changed the plan to a smaller gathering (just kids and grandkids) in an expensive location. They paid for flights and lodging but all planning for the actual time there is on me and my sister.
When it was my grandparents 50th we just had a house party, but my grandmother hated travel.