You are in the minority. Most kids do not have sleepover each week. |
If it works for your family then what’s the problem? If it doesn’t then you revisit it. |
My only advice is to also encourage your kids to have sleepovers or visit at your ex's house. It's important she doesn't feel left out even she doesn't say anything. |
Actually maybe we did not have the exact same schedule: ours was Mom M/Tu Dad W/Th alternating F/S/Sun The "handing off" would happen at school- so Mom would always drop off kid at school on Wednesday morning and Dad would pick up on that day; whoever had the kid for the weekend would pick up from school on Friday afternoon and drop off at school on Monday morning, and mom would always pick up from school on Monday. Kid didn't need to tote much stuff between houses when they were young so it was easy for them to take what they needed with them to school. As they got older, there was more and more stuff. Once we switched to the week on/week off schedule, we would do the handoff on Sunday afternoon so that all the stuff could be dropped off along with the kid. |
If it works for all of you, yes, don't ask here. |
They want to get rid of their kids. My kids rarely sleep over. With sports, activities and school, no reasonably time for that. Its not rare for Dad's to be the active parent. |
OP here. Thanks so much for sharing your experience. We thought about the week on/week off but it would be really a logistical challenge for my ex's schedule to take them to/from school every day. And kids would need to stay for after school etc. |
yeah it worked when your kid was 7. your kid once older asked to change it I think op will run into the same problem for the same reason. also you and your ex live closer together. |
OP here..thank you. I just wanted to hear other people's experience with this type of schedule. But as you said we will try it and see how it goes. |
You are welcome. Looking back on our experience (kid is now 19): I think that we were lucky in that both my ex and I were willing to be flexible with each other and succeeded in conveying to our kid that we were trying our best to do things in a way that would work as well as possible for all of us. If the parents can give each other grace and consideration (I know that that isn't always possible for people with unreasonable exes), it can make things easier. We all agreed that if doing things a certain way was really bad for one of us, we would make every effort to help it get better and/or to change things. Along the way my ex and I had to tweak our work schedules a few times. When things like sports were added to the mix, we found ways to trade rides and after-practice meals with other families. I think that our kid felt like they were listened to when they were unhappy about specific aspects of the schedule, and in return they were usually willing to give things a try when we asked for changes. They are now a college student and are very relaxed about moving between mom and dad's house and are genuinely happy to have both places be their home. |
Since you both seem willing to be flexible and have the best interest of the kids at heart, try it and see. I think it seems very consistent for weekdays and then alternating weekends. |
This is a standard 2-2-3 schedule. |
These kids are older so its not relevant. |
We do 2-2-5-5 similar to another PP.
Mom: mon-weds school/camp drop off Dad: weds pick up-friday drop off Alternating friday-sun each week My kids are younger but it's been almost a year and everyone is thriving to the extent possible. I assume when the kids are older they will prefer week on/off and we'll cross that bridge when we get there. Their dad lives 2 blocks away. So we just walk or ride bikes back and forth. |
This is an excellent schedule. They have two of the same weekdays with each parent every week and they alternate long weekends. |