We’re an odd couple

[Anonymous]

When you meet his side of the family they will actl like you are the poor one just because you are Black. A black woman from wealth oh wow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you meet his side of the family they will actl like you are the poor one just because you are Black. A black woman from wealth oh wow

OP here. I’ve already met his family. Everyone was very kind and welcoming. We do activities together regularly because they are local. However we did notice when he told his mom he thinks we will marry, she did not seem excited. But I don’t want to speculate as to why.

[Anonymous]

Stop. Girl no. Your family has worked too damn hard for you to engage in this nonsense. You've had your fun time to put him back where you found him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One of that matters except politics because politics is morals. If he’s more conservative than you, RUN. Run like hell. If you’re the more conservative one, you’ll be fine.

Ridiculous. Utterly ridiculous.

Why? Conservative men have misogynistic views. How could any woman partner with that?

[Anonymous]

I would give them a heads up about the neck tattoo unless he plans to cover it in some way when meeting. Anticipating that could help people manage potentially accidental embarrasing physical reactions.

[Anonymous]

Politics is a tough one right now- more so than the other differences. My best friend and her husband got divorced during Trumps first term. This is a hard time to not be aligned politically with your spouse/partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am not embarrassed by my boyfriend, but my family is definitely judgmental and will be caught off guard by the man I've chosen.

I guess I will just show up with no heads up and see how it goes. Fingers crossed.

This is about you, not your family. Dump your family if you need to.

[Anonymous]

congrats OP. You win Most Creative Post of the Day Award.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:congrats OP. You win Most Creative Post of the Day Award.

This isn’t kind.

[Anonymous]

White "nonconformist" man with a neck tattoo? Run, friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend and I are total opposites. I’m short and he’s tall. I’m black he’s white. I’m conventionally attractive he’s not. Our politics are different. I’m white collar he’s blue collar. I’m traditional he’s nonconformist. I’m conservative looking and he has a huge neck tattoo. I’m from money he isn’t.

Despite all our differences we really love each other and want to get married. He is going to meet my family for the first time. I’m nervous. Anyone have advice for how to approach this? Do I give my family a heads up about our differences?

Best troll post of the day.

[Anonymous]

You may think love can overcome these differences, and it can, but you are going to have to work harder in the marriage to prevent these differences becoming excuses for divorce.

Seriously, marriage takes work. You must make provision for a large buffer to allow a person’s flaws and peccadilloes to balloon into your personal space. Alcohol is not a good buffer although some try.

Ask yourself this: do you want to look at his hairy, white butt for the rest of your life? If yes, roll up your sleeves and prepare to do some marital lifting. If not, there is no shame to be honest in saying “we are too different.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You may think love can overcome these differences, and it can, but you are going to have to work harder in the marriage to prevent these differences becoming excuses for divorce.

Seriously, marriage takes work. You must make provision for a large buffer to allow a person’s flaws and peccadilloes to balloon into your personal space. Alcohol is not a good buffer although some try.

Ask yourself this: do you want to look at his hairy, white butt for the rest of your life? If yes, roll up your sleeves and prepare to do some marital lifting. If not, there is no shame to be honest in saying “we are too different.”

OP here. I personally do not find our differences to be a problem for me. Days to day we get a long great. While we have a lot of differences we also have a ton in common. it’s just that by glancing at us, outsiders would wonder what the heck we are doing together.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you'd like to read about this couple that I know. The wife is quite impressive. She runs a charity and is on a board of directors for a large local university.

https://patch.com/michigan/royaloak/frank-houston-and-danielle-atkinson

https://www.motheringjustice.org/team/danielle-atkinson

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend and I are total opposites. I’m short and he’s tall. I’m black he’s white. I’m conventionally attractive he’s not. Our politics are different. I’m white collar he’s blue collar. I’m traditional he’s nonconformist. I’m conservative looking and he has a huge neck tattoo. I’m from money he isn’t.

Despite all our differences we really love each other and want to get married. He is going to meet my family for the first time. I’m nervous. Anyone have advice for how to approach this? Do I give my family a heads up about our differences?

All workable except the politics part. That means your core values are different. So...no.