DH is a womanizer

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not trying to be snarky OP but you are nuts for staying w/your husband! 😱

In nicer terms, you are wasting your life.
The more you invest in this man - the more you are throwing your good years down the drain.

How is OP wasting her life? It depends on what else he brings to the table. if he’s great with the kids, she’s attached to her in-laws, he provides financial stability, outside of the cheating they make good memories together then I can understand why OP may stay. It’s all in how you deal with your reality. It doesn’t have to be a huge deal if you can put boundaries around it and get other needs met. it’s completely reasonable for someone to not be able to deal with this as well. Each person gets to decide what matters most to them.

A cheating lying spouse voids ALL of what you've mentioned.

It doesn’t have to. You can just accept that your partner isn’t monogamous and then there’s no reason to lie or cheat. It’s only cheating if it’s not allowed.

[Anonymous]

Get frequent STD tests both of you. Tell him you know he is unfaithful so it's a responsibility. Condoms are not enough.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My friend has stayed with her cheating husband. She's known he's cheated on her since they were dating, even the early stages. Now they have 2 young kids and he provides a lifestyle she wouldn't be able to have on her own. Her self esteem has also taken a major hit. But, they do love each other and they do have a good time together. She's somehow managed to just accept it and pretend it doesn't happen anymore. I still think it'll blow up at some point, but no one would ever guess that this is what their marriage is actually like. They look happy together, affectionate, every bit like a typical loving couple.

What about the risk of STDs?

The sex is provided by the floozies. No more actual sex between the couple of they stay married at least that way for my mom. Though she never cheated she turned a blind eye to my dad's who was always looking.

[Anonymous]

The problem comes when he decides he wants a divorce. I get open marriages. In the past these things worked because divorce was taboo, people were quiet about their extra-relationships, there was no social media/internet, and there were no DNA tests to prove paternity. Way harder in this day and age to have an open relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You certainly have good reasons to open up the marriage. He's not the only one who can have a little fun on the side.

Haha so true. I always tell guys to be careful because of you are a man and you think you are a womanizer wait until you see the interests your wife can generate from other men. I know if we ever open our marriage Ill go crazy cause my wife will most likely have 10 men ready to smash her for every woman I can get. That's just how it works if it's purely sex we will never be able to compete with women because they are the ones who say yes/no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem comes when he decides he wants a divorce. I get open marriages. In the past these things worked because divorce was taboo, people were quiet about their extra-relationships, there was no social media/internet, and there were no DNA tests to prove paternity. Way harder in this day and age to have an open relationship.

I don't see how that's a problem? If they are to eventually divorce and he makes more money then her, the longer the marriage last, the better it is for her.

[Anonymous]

He clearly likes p*ssy. Are you giving him enough?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He clearly likes p*ssy. Are you giving him enough?

Yes. I never say no, and often initiate. I think he likes variety and the chase.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not about you wanting to stay with him. He could leave you at any moment for a younger, hotter woman.

Younger hotter can also be a pain to deal with on a daily basis. Better to just hit it occasionally if DW puts up w/it. And then cut the AP loose if gets too problematic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He clearly likes p*ssy. Are you giving him enough?

Yes. I never say no, and often initiate. I think he likes variety and the chase.

I wish I were married to you. A woman ready to give it anytime I want wow. I told my wife you can wake me up at 2 am and I'll be ready to f**k you. But she is a once a week at most person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He clearly likes p*ssy. Are you giving him enough?

Yes. I never say no, and often initiate. I think he likes variety and the chase.

I wish I were married to you. A woman ready to give it anytime I want wow. I told my wife you can wake me up at 2 am and I'll be ready to f**k you. But she is a once a week at most person.

OP here. I tend to take “to have and to hold” literally lol.