When did you decide where you’ll be buried, tour cemeteries and buy a plot?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going into an oven, then into a jar if the jar place insists, then ubered to my kids, and then under a tree.
Kids can go on with their lives asap. I want to time, energy or materials wasted on any of it.
I'm also giving away all my money bit by bit if possible, so there are no wills, real estate or accounts left to be handled.
We had an early death in the family. The paperwork has been a nightmare. I don't even want the money.

You aren't going to die with 0. You either die with money or you die broke and a liability to others. Not having a will is cruel thing to do to the people you leave behind. Orderliness is a gift.

OTOH, you won't be here, so it's not your problem.

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Anonymous wrote:We couldn’t handle a bunch of other major life decisions, but when the Catholic cemetery (we’re Catholic but yes this is still random) by our house and favorite restaurant had a plot sale, we bought two. We were 35. Our plots have great views!

The rest of our life is pretty messy but we like the idea of walking for cocktails and fancy appetizers should one of us die unexpectedly, and at least one part of our life is set. We expect to move around a lot once our only child is grown so we like the idea that they’ll always have a bit of “home” even if we don’t live here.

Serious question, why does it matter if it has great views?

I think the part about a nice place to visit if one dies first... but are you there for the views or the loved one? Also, what if the restaurant closes?

I’m there for the views. The loved one is hopefully in heaven so I’m just going to be hanging out with their gravestone.

I like that it has great protected views because they’re similar to the views from our neighborhood but views where I live are rapidly disappearing due to construction. So it’s nice to think that DC could stand at our grave one day and still see the same landmarks and natural features they saw from their childhood house. The restaurant could totally close, but there’s a big commercial strip nearby so there would always be some kind of option. I like the idea of being able to walk somewhere after a funeral for a quick meal or drink because I had a lot of deaths in my family of origin and my life through my 20s was seemingly spent driving an hour in bad traffic to a cemetery, driving in long processions, and then driving back to a distant, awful restaurant chosen at the last minute because the banquet room was open.

It’s a tiny gift to my family that undoes some of the stuff I went through as a child and young adult.

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Anonymous wrote:I will be cremated and my cremains will be scattered at sea.

Illegal.

Not illegal. My pastor dad has had a few services with remains up in Maine in the ocean.