When did you decide where you’ll be buried, tour cemeteries and buy a plot?

[Anonymous]

Our church has a columbarium where my parents are inurned. I go to the church like never, but I still bought a niche in the same columbarium for me to make it easier on my kid when the time comes.

[Anonymous]

I'll be in Arlington, in the ground.

[Anonymous]

My urn will be joining family at Calgary Cemetery in Queens, NY

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People, are you serious? WTF will you care once you're dead?

Dead serious, forgive the pun.

It saves a lot of hassle to have it set before someone dies. When my aunt and dad died, it was a pain to choose the plots and then think about one for my (still living) mom and all that, especially in the winter in bad weather after cfoss-country flights.

I don’t want my kid to have to deal with that. They can just hand the cemetery packet to the funeral director.

Also, for the PP with plots across the country, carrying ashes on a flight is the easiest way to go if you’re ok with cremation. I used to work for airlines and they all have different policies. You’ll need to read them in advance to decide check vs. carryon. TSA also has a helpful website about flying with ashes. Avoid shipping a body- its a huge hassle.

This! You’ll even find some cemeteries limit sho can be buried based on homeownership I. Some towns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll be cremated.

My in-laws have cemetery plots they purchased a million years ago in the city they lived for most of their lives. Of course, they got old and needed the help of their adult children so they relocated clear across the country from the plots. No clue how this will work when they pass away. I mean, do we have a funeral in CA and then fly the bodies back to their east coast town where the cemetery is? Nobody knows.

Yes. This is my MiL’s stated wish. Funeral in Florida where she currently lives, fly her body to Michigan for another funeral and bury her body in the Michigan cemetery. At least my FIL is considerate enough to want to be cremated and if he goes first, his ashes will hang out in Florida until MiL passes and then we’ll fly both of them for one service and burial in Michigan (none of the kids live in either place FWIW).

[Anonymous]

We’ll be cremated where we die and adult kids can get the ashes.

No shipping bodies around for $75k.
No paying for a cemetery plot forever that I one lives near.
Have a big brunch celebration of life.
The end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We couldn’t handle a bunch of other major life decisions, but when the Catholic cemetery (we’re Catholic but yes this is still random) by our house and favorite restaurant had a plot sale, we bought two. We were 35. Our plots have great views!

The rest of our life is pretty messy but we like the idea of walking for cocktails and fancy appetizers should one of us die unexpectedly, and at least one part of our life is set. We expect to move around a lot once our only child is grown so we like the idea that they’ll always have a bit of “home” even if we don’t live here.

I don’t get this at all.

[Anonymous]

I'm going into an oven, then into a jar if the jar place insists, then ubered to my kids, and then under a tree.
Kids can go on with their lives asap. I want to time, energy or materials wasted on any of it.
I'm also giving away all my money bit by bit if possible, so there are no wills, real estate or accounts left to be handled.
We had an early death in the family. The paperwork has been a nightmare. I don't even want the money.

[Anonymous]

Cremation. Cemeteries are for shtetls where 7 generations never leave town.

[Anonymous]

Hey 7:20. I can’t find any indication that shipping bodies is $75,000. Neither domestically, nor internationally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would sooner be loaded into a cannon and blasted across the Gettysburg battlefield than buried in a conventional cemetery, so no: I have not done this and will not be doing it.

Donating my remains to the Maryland anatomy board if the circumstances are right. If they're not right, my preference is for the body disposal method with the lowest environmental footprint. I think that's this place:

https://www.serenityridgemd.com

Love this!

[Anonymous]

We have a family cemetery that dates back to the 1820s, so I’ll probably be buried there.

My in-laws have already bought plots and erected a stone with their names and birth dates on it. (It’s actually a triple stone - the two of them, plus my sil). My parents have not thought ahead to that degree!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm going into an oven, then into a jar if the jar place insists, then ubered to my kids, and then under a tree.
Kids can go on with their lives asap. I want to time, energy or materials wasted on any of it.
I'm also giving away all my money bit by bit if possible, so there are no wills, real estate or accounts left to be handled.
We had an early death in the family. The paperwork has been a nightmare. I don't even want the money.

You aren't going to die with 0. You either die with money or you die broke and a liability to others. Not having a will is cruel thing to do to the people you leave behind. Orderliness is a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would sooner be loaded into a cannon and blasted across the Gettysburg battlefield than buried in a conventional cemetery, so no: I have not done this and will not be doing it.

Donating my remains to the Maryland anatomy board if the circumstances are right. If they're not right, my preference is for the body disposal method with the lowest environmental footprint. I think that's this place:

https://www.serenityridgemd.com

How do you set up donation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We couldn’t handle a bunch of other major life decisions, but when the Catholic cemetery (we’re Catholic but yes this is still random) by our house and favorite restaurant had a plot sale, we bought two. We were 35. Our plots have great views!

The rest of our life is pretty messy but we like the idea of walking for cocktails and fancy appetizers should one of us die unexpectedly, and at least one part of our life is set. We expect to move around a lot once our only child is grown so we like the idea that they’ll always have a bit of “home” even if we don’t live here.

Serious question, why does it matter if it has great views?

I think the part about a nice place to visit if one dies first... but are you there for the views or the loved one? Also, what if the restaurant closes?