When did you decide where you’ll be buried, tour cemeteries and buy a plot?

[Anonymous]

I just started life planning I suppose it’s called after handling the passing of my father.

No one ever talks about when they went to pick their own burial spot. I plan to do this soon, I’ve called a few cemeteries and all seem to want you to come in person to see the location and meet with someone.

When did you? How old were you?

[Anonymous]

I would sooner be loaded into a cannon and blasted across the Gettysburg battlefield than buried in a conventional cemetery, so no: I have not done this and will not be doing it.

Donating my remains to the Maryland anatomy board if the circumstances are right. If they're not right, my preference is for the body disposal method with the lowest environmental footprint. I think that's this place:

https://www.serenityridgemd.com

[Anonymous]

My parents picked a cemetery next to a park we used to take long walks in when I was a kid.

I think I'd rather have my ashes scattered somewhere green.

[Anonymous]

OP,

I lived a peripatetic childhood in various countries and now live in the US. I have no idea on which continent I'm going to live my last days, let alone where I want my mortal remains to lie! Maybe I should just let my kids pick something cheap and practical. I do not want anything expensive. I won't be there to notice it.

[Anonymous]

We couldn’t handle a bunch of other major life decisions, but when the Catholic cemetery (we’re Catholic but yes this is still random) by our house and favorite restaurant had a plot sale, we bought two. We were 35. Our plots have great views!

The rest of our life is pretty messy but we like the idea of walking for cocktails and fancy appetizers should one of us die unexpectedly, and at least one part of our life is set. We expect to move around a lot once our only child is grown so we like the idea that they’ll always have a bit of “home” even if we don’t live here.

[Anonymous]

My family has had a huge family plot since like, the 1930's? So I'll be buried there. Nobody in our family tours cemeteries. I think the specific plots are decided when the person dies. Like, I don't know if I'll go near my parents or whatever, but I'll be dead so I don't care. Nobody will come visit me anyway.

[Anonymous]

My family has a plot. Some of the burials were double stacked. There’s a plot for me if I want it. I don’t know how it gets handled if I want to be cremated, but if there’s room for a casket, there’s room for an urn.

[Anonymous]

I'd rather be buried under a tree somewhere, which would require some land somewhere where it's allowed. Cemetaries are so sad and awful.

[Anonymous]

I’ll be cremated.

My in-laws have cemetery plots they purchased a million years ago in the city they lived for most of their lives. Of course, they got old and needed the help of their adult children so they relocated clear across the country from the plots. No clue how this will work when they pass away. I mean, do we have a funeral in CA and then fly the bodies back to their east coast town where the cemetery is? Nobody knows.

[Anonymous]

I will be cremated and my cremains will be scattered at sea.

[Anonymous]

People, are you serious? WTF will you care once you're dead?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will be cremated and my cremains will be scattered at sea.

Illegal.

[Anonymous]

Military cemetery. The adult kids have the instructions and the paperwork on how to make the arrangements when the time comes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will be cremated and my cremains will be scattered at sea.

Illegal.

It’s legal. There are regulations though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People, are you serious? WTF will you care once you're dead?

Dead serious, forgive the pun.

It saves a lot of hassle to have it set before someone dies. When my aunt and dad died, it was a pain to choose the plots and then think about one for my (still living) mom and all that, especially in the winter in bad weather after cfoss-country flights.

I don’t want my kid to have to deal with that. They can just hand the cemetery packet to the funeral director.

Also, for the PP with plots across the country, carrying ashes on a flight is the easiest way to go if you’re ok with cremation. I used to work for airlines and they all have different policies. You’ll need to read them in advance to decide check vs. carryon. TSA also has a helpful website about flying with ashes. Avoid shipping a body- its a huge hassle.