What makes responders on these boards say things like, "I'm sorry your kid didn't get in."

[Anonymous]

OP, the petty pizzing contest posters on this very thread should tell you all you need to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to be kidding if you think parents of rejected kids aren’t bitter and aren’t gonna make purposefully negative comments about a college simply because they didn’t get in.

+1 That's the issue. The kinds of comments being responded to tend to be unnecessarily vicious, suggesting bitterness rather than any kind of rational or fair analysis.

+2
It's pretty clear cut. If someone makes an unnecessarily rude/mean/hostile comment about a school for no actual reason, then they should expect an equal reaction. I have no problem when an ahole is met with an in-kind response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to be kidding if you think parents of rejected kids aren’t bitter and aren’t gonna make purposefully negative comments about a college simply because they didn’t get in.

+1 That's the issue. The kinds of comments being responded to tend to be unnecessarily vicious, suggesting bitterness rather than any kind of rational or fair analysis.

+2
It's pretty clear cut. If someone makes an unnecessarily rude/mean/hostile comment about a school for no actual reason, then they should expect an equal reaction. I have no problem when an ahole is met with an in-kind response.

Wow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to be kidding if you think parents of rejected kids aren’t bitter and aren’t gonna make purposefully negative comments about a college simply because they didn’t get in.

That’s fine. The question is about the person responding. They don’t know this for sure, so why would they post it? That is what the OP here is trying to find out.

I think it’s just people being mean, hoping that a response like that may get a triggered response.

NP. I guess we look at this completely differently. IMO, if someone makes a rude, unfounded slam against a particular school (even one I'm not affiliated with in any way), they totally deserve a snarky response in return. *shrug*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to be kidding if you think parents of rejected kids aren’t bitter and aren’t gonna make purposefully negative comments about a college simply because they didn’t get in.

+1 That's the issue. The kinds of comments being responded to tend to be unnecessarily vicious, suggesting bitterness rather than any kind of rational or fair analysis.

+2
It's pretty clear cut. If someone makes an unnecessarily rude/mean/hostile comment about a school for no actual reason, then they should expect an equal reaction. I have no problem when an ahole is met with an in-kind response.

Wow

Wow, what? You seem to think it's ok for one person to essentially troll - making inappropriate, stupid, and unnecessary comments about X school; but that it's NOT ok for someone to respond to them the same way?

[Anonymous]

Trolling

[Anonymous]

We're black. Our kids all scored within the medians on the schools where they were admitted and are attending. We were dead silent about where the kids were going to college after our first because he got into an ivy and graduated and the amount of hatred and passive aggression we received from other families was so, so gross. I really took a massive step back from the community and parent organizations because there was this sort of toxicity that came out. My youngest is attending a wonderful SLAC. My middle child attended a wonderful 7 sister's school. We are speaking on it. Full stop. I don't need the negativity and the kids don't either.

We've been called aloof and snobs. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're black. Our kids all scored within the medians on the schools where they were admitted and are attending. We were dead silent about where the kids were going to college after our first because he got into an ivy and graduated and the amount of hatred and passive aggression we received from other families was so, so gross. I really took a massive step back from the community and parent organizations because there was this sort of toxicity that came out. My youngest is attending a wonderful SLAC. My middle child attended a wonderful 7 sister's school. We are speaking on it. Full stop. I don't need the negativity and the kids don't either.

We've been called aloof and snobs. Oh well.

Did you post on the wrong thread? I’m curious which one you meant to post on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. We are adults who are trying to help our own kids and possibly the other kids, too?

Goes something like this (actual posts):

OP: What school would you not want your child to go to even if admitted.

Answer: Vanderbilt. Never believed a school from the south would be good. Plus they just bought a campus in New York City??? Seems sketch

RESPONDER: Sorry your kid didn't get in.

I have a lot more trouble with the nasty jerk in the Answer comment than the person who posted "Sorry your kid didn't get in." I am truly disturbed by people who completely hate on a school. Why be nasty towards a school where people's children have chosen to go, for whatever reason? I'm not saying every post here should be glowing and positive and that is not really helpful, but to be truly hateful towards a school, particularly with the childish anti-Southern attitude, is awful.

The Responder post isn't very adult either but I get it. Snark deserves snark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. We are adults who are trying to help our own kids and possibly the other kids, too?

Goes something like this (actual posts):

OP: What school would you not want your child to go to even if admitted.

Answer: Vanderbilt. Never believed a school from the south would be good. Plus they just bought a campus in New York City??? Seems sketch

RESPONDER: Sorry your kid didn't get in.

And why would someone share bigoted opinions like, "Never believed a school from the south would be good."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. We are adults who are trying to help our own kids and possibly the other kids, too?

Goes something like this (actual posts):

OP: What school would you not want your child to go to even if admitted.

Answer: Vanderbilt. Never believed a school from the south would be good. Plus they just bought a campus in New York City??? Seems sketch

RESPONDER: Sorry your kid didn't get in.

First time poster here. Although I find some of the info on here quite helpful, the general snark really sucks and ruins the experience. It is the obnoxious trollers who keep me from commenting on anything. Have you noticed these snark troller responses are usually the first couple? Clearly, they have nothing better to do than pounce, and get some kind of perverse gratification from it. They act like they own the site. And, I have noticed if any poster expresses an opinion that these trolls don't like, theyre automatically branded as MAGA. Ad hominem attacks are their fave! It's lame and they are not adults. Thanks for mentioning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're black. Our kids all scored within the medians on the schools where they were admitted and are attending. We were dead silent about where the kids were going to college after our first because he got into an ivy and graduated and the amount of hatred and passive aggression we received from other families was so, so gross. I really took a massive step back from the community and parent organizations because there was this sort of toxicity that came out. My youngest is attending a wonderful SLAC. My middle child attended a wonderful 7 sister's school. We are speaking on it. Full stop. I don't need the negativity and the kids don't either.

We've been called aloof and snobs. Oh well.

Blame the schools.
They admit a buch of low score black kid.
This is why they shouldn’t do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. We are adults who are trying to help our own kids and possibly the other kids, too?

Goes something like this (actual posts):

OP: What school would you not want your child to go to even if admitted.

Answer: Vanderbilt. Never believed a school from the south would be good. Plus they just bought a campus in New York City??? Seems sketch

RESPONDER: Sorry your kid didn't get in.

I have a lot more trouble with the nasty jerk in the Answer comment than the person who posted "Sorry your kid didn't get in." I am truly disturbed by people who completely hate on a school. Why be nasty towards a school where people's children have chosen to go, for whatever reason? I'm not saying every post here should be glowing and positive and that is not really helpful, but to be truly hateful towards a school, particularly with the childish anti-Southern attitude, is awful.

The Responder post isn't very adult either but I get it. Snark deserves snark.

+1
Yep. Don't complain about nasty rebuttals if you're throwing out the nasty first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. We are adults who are trying to help our own kids and possibly the other kids, too?

Goes something like this (actual posts):

OP: What school would you not want your child to go to even if admitted.

Answer: Vanderbilt. Never believed a school from the south would be good. Plus they just bought a campus in New York City??? Seems sketch

RESPONDER: Sorry your kid didn't get in.

Mainly because those who denigrate other schools have a gripe / grievance, with a rejection or waitlist likely as the culprit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. We are adults who are trying to help our own kids and possibly the other kids, too?

Goes something like this (actual posts):

OP: What school would you not want your child to go to even if admitted.

Answer: Vanderbilt. Never believed a school from the south would be good. Plus they just bought a campus in New York City??? Seems sketch

RESPONDER: Sorry your kid didn't get in.

I have a lot more trouble with the nasty jerk in the Answer comment than the person who posted "Sorry your kid didn't get in." I am truly disturbed by people who completely hate on a school. Why be nasty towards a school where people's children have chosen to go, for whatever reason? I'm not saying every post here should be glowing and positive and that is not really helpful, but to be truly hateful towards a school, particularly with the childish anti-Southern attitude, is awful.

The Responder post isn't very adult either but I get it. Snark deserves snark.

+1
Yep. Don't complain about nasty rebuttals if you're throwing out the nasty first.

Amen. Wrong people are getting blamed here. Welcome to America, 2025. Up is down and down is up.