What makes responders on these boards say things like, "I'm sorry your kid didn't get in."

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Anonymous wrote:I've never uttered that sentiment in any form. But I suspect it's often a reaction to another poster's bizarrely strong opinion on a particular college. Again, I think it's a dumb thing to say to people. That said, I've sometimes wondered why some posters hold such zealous, almost emotional opinions on certain schools.

Holding an opinion about an institution which is zealous or not well founded is not the same as a direct insult to someone's kid. Just b/c someone says something someone doesn't like about a school their kid is attending or will attend doesn't mean it is okay to essentially say your kid must not have even gotten in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never uttered that sentiment in any form. But I suspect it's often a reaction to another poster's bizarrely strong opinion on a particular college. Again, I think it's a dumb thing to say to people. That said, I've sometimes wondered why some posters hold such zealous, almost emotional opinions on certain schools.

Same. Not something I've ever said, but I'm mystified by the weird hostility certain schools attract.

There are definitely places that aren't my cup of tea, but I can't imagine caring so much that you do anything more than keep your mouth shut in that instance.

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Anonymous wrote:I've never uttered that sentiment in any form. But I suspect it's often a reaction to another poster's bizarrely strong opinion on a particular college. Again, I think it's a dumb thing to say to people. That said, I've sometimes wondered why some posters hold such zealous, almost emotional opinions on certain schools.

Holding an opinion about an institution which is zealous or not well founded is not the same as a direct insult to someone's kid. Just b/c someone says something someone doesn't like about a school their kid is attending or will attend doesn't mean it is okay to essentially say your kid must not have even gotten in there.

Who is arguing moral equivalency here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are mean teenagers.

+1. I think people underestimate how many kids post here. They give themselves away quite often. I’m not saying every single one that makes this comment is a kid but I would assume a lot are.

[Anonymous]

No, it’s adults, too. Juvenile adults.

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Anonymous wrote:I've never uttered that sentiment in any form. But I suspect it's often a reaction to another poster's bizarrely strong opinion on a particular college. Again, I think it's a dumb thing to say to people. That said, I've sometimes wondered why some posters hold such zealous, almost emotional opinions on certain schools.

Holding an opinion about an institution which is zealous or not well founded is not the same as a direct insult to someone's kid. Just b/c someone says something someone doesn't like about a school their kid is attending or will attend doesn't mean it is okay to essentially say your kid must not have even gotten in there.

Who is arguing moral equivalency here?

The person who says, "I've never uttered that sentiment in any form. But I suspect it's often a reaction to another poster's bizarrely strong opinion on a particular college. Again, I think it's a dumb thing to say to people. That said, I've sometimes wondered why some posters hold such zealous, almost emotional opinions on certain schools."

Meaning the two are somehow related/intertwined.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, it’s adults, too. Juvenile adults.

Literally said: “I’m not saying every single one that makes this comment is a kid”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. We are adults who are trying to help our own kids and possibly the other kids, too?

Goes something like this (actual posts):

OP: What school would you not want your child to go to even if admitted.

Answer: Vanderbilt. Never believed a school from the south would be good. Plus they just bought a campus in New York City??? Seems sketch

RESPONDER: Sorry your kid didn't get in.

The answer about Vanderbilt is just as obnoxious and jerky as the response to it, if not more. Schools from the south can't be good? What elitist nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are they same people that say sorry you didn’t get a bid?

Seems like the frat god poster started it with those ridiculous didn't get a bid posts and now others have co-opted the phrase to use in defense of their pet schools when someone posts something they deem insufficiently flattering.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question. We are adults who are trying to help our own kids and possibly the other kids, too?

Goes something like this (actual posts):

OP: What school would you not want your child to go to even if admitted.

Answer: Vanderbilt. Never believed a school from the south would be good. Plus they just bought a campus in New York City??? Seems sketch

RESPONDER: Sorry your kid didn't get in.

The answer about Vanderbilt is just as obnoxious and jerky as the response to it, if not more. Schools from the south can't be good? What elitist nonsense.

Obnoxious? Sure. But one disses a school, the other a kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question. We are adults who are trying to help our own kids and possibly the other kids, too?

Goes something like this (actual posts):

OP: What school would you not want your child to go to even if admitted.

Answer: Vanderbilt. Never believed a school from the south would be good. Plus they just bought a campus in New York City??? Seems sketch

RESPONDER: Sorry your kid didn't get in.

The answer about Vanderbilt is just as obnoxious and jerky as the response to it, if not more. Schools from the south can't be good? What elitist nonsense.

Obnoxious? Sure. But one disses a school, the other a kid.

Tomayto, tomahto. Plenty of other posters' kids go to the schools being dissed, which means their kids are effectively being dissed as well.

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Anonymous wrote:I've never uttered that sentiment in any form. But I suspect it's often a reaction to another poster's bizarrely strong opinion on a particular college. Again, I think it's a dumb thing to say to people. That said, I've sometimes wondered why some posters hold such zealous, almost emotional opinions on certain schools.

Holding an opinion about an institution which is zealous or not well founded is not the same as a direct insult to someone's kid. Just b/c someone says something someone doesn't like about a school their kid is attending or will attend doesn't mean it is okay to essentially say your kid must not have even gotten in there.

Who is arguing moral equivalency here?

The person who says, "I've never uttered that sentiment in any form. But I suspect it's often a reaction to another poster's bizarrely strong opinion on a particular college. Again, I think it's a dumb thing to say to people. That said, I've sometimes wondered why some posters hold such zealous, almost emotional opinions on certain schools."

Meaning the two are somehow related/intertwined.

I'm the one who wrote that. OP asked for an explanation, and I offered one. I thought I was pretty clear that I thought "sorry your kid didn't get in" responses are silly: "I think it's a dumb thing to say to people." In any event, nowhere did I ever say that they were the same thing or that the first thing justified the second. I think you're reading something into my post that isn't there.

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Anonymous wrote:I've never uttered that sentiment in any form. But I suspect it's often a reaction to another poster's bizarrely strong opinion on a particular college. Again, I think it's a dumb thing to say to people. That said, I've sometimes wondered why some posters hold such zealous, almost emotional opinions on certain schools.

Holding an opinion about an institution which is zealous or not well founded is not the same as a direct insult to someone's kid. Just b/c someone says something someone doesn't like about a school their kid is attending or will attend doesn't mean it is okay to essentially say your kid must not have even gotten in there.

Who is arguing moral equivalency here?

The person who says, "I've never uttered that sentiment in any form. But I suspect it's often a reaction to another poster's bizarrely strong opinion on a particular college. Again, I think it's a dumb thing to say to people. That said, I've sometimes wondered why some posters hold such zealous, almost emotional opinions on certain schools."

Meaning the two are somehow related/intertwined.

I'm the one who wrote that. OP asked for an explanation, and I offered one. I thought I was pretty clear that I thought "sorry your kid didn't get in" responses are silly: "I think it's a dumb thing to say to people." In any event, nowhere did I ever say that they were the same thing or that the first thing justified the second. I think you're reading something into my post that isn't there.

Not sure why you would post about when parents talk poorly about a school (more about that) than about the orig. question unless you saw a relationship bw the two.

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Anonymous wrote:I've never uttered that sentiment in any form. But I suspect it's often a reaction to another poster's bizarrely strong opinion on a particular college. Again, I think it's a dumb thing to say to people. That said, I've sometimes wondered why some posters hold such zealous, almost emotional opinions on certain schools.

Holding an opinion about an institution which is zealous or not well founded is not the same as a direct insult to someone's kid. Just b/c someone says something someone doesn't like about a school their kid is attending or will attend doesn't mean it is okay to essentially say your kid must not have even gotten in there.

Who is arguing moral equivalency here?

The person who says, "I've never uttered that sentiment in any form. But I suspect it's often a reaction to another poster's bizarrely strong opinion on a particular college. Again, I think it's a dumb thing to say to people. That said, I've sometimes wondered why some posters hold such zealous, almost emotional opinions on certain schools."

Meaning the two are somehow related/intertwined.

I'm the one who wrote that. OP asked for an explanation, and I offered one. I thought I was pretty clear that I thought "sorry your kid didn't get in" responses are silly: "I think it's a dumb thing to say to people." In any event, nowhere did I ever say that they were the same thing or that the first thing justified the second. I think you're reading something into my post that isn't there.

Not sure why you would post about when parents talk poorly about a school (more about that) than about the orig. question unless you saw a relationship bw the two.

OP asked for an explanation and I offered one. If my answer didn't have any "relationship" to OP's question, it would be . . . a typical DCUM post. Anyhow, I'm done with whatever this is. Be well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to be kidding if you think parents of rejected kids aren’t bitter and aren’t gonna make purposefully negative comments about a college simply because they didn’t get in.

That’s fine. The question is about the person responding. They don’t know this for sure, so why would they post it? That is what the OP here is trying to find out.

I think it’s just people being mean, hoping that a response like that may get a triggered response.