Do both partners iniate sex in your marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW only did when she wanted to get pregnant. Nowadays, she just refuses sex at all.

This guy is married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DW only did when she wanted to get pregnant. Nowadays, she just refuses sex at all.

You might be my husband. I'd initiate more if I wasn't so tired from working all day and coming home to work all night at home with the kids. Maybe you can make more money (or any money right now) and I could quit my job and have time for that crap. Having sex got me into this mess. No way I'm having an oopsie baby.

Not sure what’s more revealing - intimacy with her husband is “that crap” or that she views her kids as “this mess.”

What a keeper.

[Anonymous]

Yes. We are both high driven individuals and love sex. It helps that I’m highly orgasmic and he is great in bed. I find sex a great stress reliever and want it at least every other day. Sometimes he initiates, sometimes I do. I will doyen just lean over and grab him package or just start giving him a blowjob. Other times I will spread my legs and in my night shirt or start playing with myself while he walks out of the shower. He usually just asks or starts touching my breasts. I almost never tell him no so it works for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If so, how do they do it? Also, what do you do to prioritize your intimate life and keep it on track?

That's usually a personality thing. Dominant people tend to initiate, and sometimes shot down by other dominants. Submissives tend to want to wait for someone else to initiate, and often get frustrated.

[Anonymous]

I’d say it’s pretty even but I believe the sex is always better when I initiate because my desire level is incredibly high and he knows it. I get very physical with extended foreplay and that leads to 2-3 positions before we finish. Becoming recent empty nesters has taken it to a new level.