When did your adult child start booking med appointments?

[Anonymous]

Don't make an age contest out of something so silly OP. You could have made 20 appointments in the time you've spent posting here.

[Anonymous]

Mine started making appointments at around 16 after the second time I had to reschedule an appointment because she decided she was unavailable at the selected time.
I don't mind helping, but I am not a private secretary, so I turned the job over to her.

[Anonymous]

I’m literally in the thick of this. Kid2 has been home for two weeks.. I’ve made five appts for this child.

Annual Physical
Lab appt
Eye Exam
Dental Appt and
A hair appt

Husband too
Oil change for her car

Every appt I/we showed her exactly what to do and how much to pay for the next time.
Advised her these are annual appts… and she should be able to handle moving forward.

At the end of the day .. We’re teaching them how to adult .. They will eventually get it all.

[Anonymous]

My DD just turned 18. She wasn't feeling well yesterday and asked about making an appointment. I wasn't home, so I told her to go to the urgent care in town. She did it without issue and was able to get an antibiotic.

She also went to her regular doctor alone to update her vaccinations. She forgot the form needed for college, but we can drop that off at any time.

Now, my oldest DD is 20 and she is not as willing to do those things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a big deal, just help her make the appointment. This will not cripple in life, I promise.

I did help (explained what to do, gave her everything she needed) The minute clinic I recommended is fine as a walk-in. She did not like the provider. Then I was right here when she tried pediatrician. Now she doesn't want to try Walgreens. It just felt like this was a good opportunity for her to try and handle things. I said so and she goes "but I'm a kid, it's normal I need help"...I did help!

You spoiled her. You always swooped in and fixed it anytime she didn't like something anytime she pouted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am curious what was wrong with the lady (?) at the Minute Clinic? Did she mean the receptionist?

Guessing she didn't cater to her pouting and rude behavior and expected her to follow the rules like everyone else.

[Anonymous]

At 18.

I provided a handful of dates that I could be available if my prescience was desired. DH did the same. But otherwise, we stepped back.

They’ve done fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dd turned 18 and she says she has strep. She's a bit of a hypochondriac and I actually doubt she does. I thought it'd be a good opportunity for her to make her first appointment but she had no success, left the minute clinic bc she didn't like the lady, said no to tomorrow at pediatrician. Now she's mad at me bc I have not found her an appointment for today. I asked what she'll do in college and she said she'd call me. At 18 I made my own appointments.

Summer before freshman year of college. My oldest had turned 18 a month prior, my middle child was a few months shy of turning 19, and my youngest was a month away from 19. Hand off some scheduling at the end of junior year while providing back stopping but hand off full accountability prior to college. Exact age is less important than proximity to having more responsibility.

[Anonymous]

Late 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 18.

I provided a handful of dates that I could be available if my prescience was desired. DH did the same. But otherwise, we stepped back.

They’ve done fine.

Your prescience! How brilliant!

[Anonymous]

It's fine to do a little coddling for a sick college kid -- if mine wanted me to make the appointment, I'd do it.

But if they got to the appointment and then flounced off? I'd say they seem to be feeling better and they can take it from here.

[Anonymous]

There's a legendary thread (I think in teens) a few years back that said if you were making your kids Dr appts after age 13 you were basically stunting your kids. I don't know if was a few sock puppets, but it was unreal.

College for us. But, if they were home for the summer and sick I'd probably do that, but it hasn't happened yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine started at 14/15.

That’s about when we started having them make the call. They knew their schedule better than we did and which classes they could or wanted to miss (not many!). By the time they could drive, they did everything. In college, they thanked us for making them do it themselves.

Nothing wrong with helping out in a pinch but I’m more inclined to teach/encourage them to self-advocate. Medical stuff can get wonky for a “minor” - as a parent we’re obligated to pay for them but the med professionals won’t discuss much without HIPAA waivers. Classic case of rock-and-hard place. I’m not a fan. Thankfully, ours are comfortable enough with full disclosures.

[Anonymous]

My son made his own in high school. He knew what worked with his schedule.

[Anonymous]

35 - oh wait thats DH not adult kid