When did your adult child start booking med appointments?

[Anonymous]

Kaiser Permanente required our kid to get her own log-in at age 14 or 15, I think. So we took that as a cue to start having her more involved. She booked appointments online (consulting with us bc she'd need a ride) and she called the 800 number for special circumstances (with a parent standing by.)

[Anonymous]

Like 14 maybe? Seems like a parenting fail to have an 18 year old so incapable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like 14 maybe? Seems like a parenting fail to have an 18 year old so incapable

incapable and pouting about? hell no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are dealing with a couple of issues here. If she wants you to make an appt and then goes, doesn't leave, and refuses the times you find, she can handle it herself. If she's busy in class and you book and she goes and follows through, that seems ok. She will have to handle in college.

She's a senior and had an exam this am and now she's been done for a couple hours.

Dear Lord, lay off for a minute. She needs to decompress. If she was in terrible pain, I guarantee she'd hustle.

My son is 20 and has autism and ADHD. I still make some appointments for him if he's busy, because we're on the same insurance, same doctor. He makes his vaccines appointments, as they're near his campus. It's no big deal. In a pinch, I know he can deal with it himself. He will study abroad next fall, and I know he'll be fine.

In general, I found this out to be true for chores and certain life skills: you don't need to start early. I taught my son how to do laundry right before he went to college, and he had no trouble at all. There is practically no learning curve to such things.

I feel your anger is mostly an expression of your anxiety, but you don't need to worry about this, really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are dealing with a couple of issues here. If she wants you to make an appt and then goes, doesn't leave, and refuses the times you find, she can handle it herself. If she's busy in class and you book and she goes and follows through, that seems ok. She will have to handle in college.

She's a senior and had an exam this am and now she's been done for a couple hours.

Dear Lord, lay off for a minute. She needs to decompress. If she was in terrible pain, I guarantee she'd hustle.

My son is 20 and has autism and ADHD. I still make some appointments for him if he's busy, because we're on the same insurance, same doctor. He makes his vaccines appointments, as they're near his campus. It's no big deal. In a pinch, I know he can deal with it himself. He will study abroad next fall, and I know he'll be fine.

In general, I found this out to be true for chores and certain life skills: you don't need to start early. I taught my son how to do laundry right before he went to college, and he had no trouble at all. There is practically no learning curve to such things.

I feel your anger is mostly an expression of your anxiety, but you don't need to worry about this, really.

I’m more frustrated and sad than anxious or angry bc this transition is full of conflict tbh. She is the one who insisted she needed to go today and brought it up. I think tomorrow would be just fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are dealing with a couple of issues here. If she wants you to make an appt and then goes, doesn't leave, and refuses the times you find, she can handle it herself. If she's busy in class and you book and she goes and follows through, that seems ok. She will have to handle in college.

She's a senior and had an exam this am and now she's been done for a couple hours.

Dear Lord, lay off for a minute. She needs to decompress. If she was in terrible pain, I guarantee she'd hustle.

My son is 20 and has autism and ADHD. I still make some appointments for him if he's busy, because we're on the same insurance, same doctor. He makes his vaccines appointments, as they're near his campus. It's no big deal. In a pinch, I know he can deal with it himself. He will study abroad next fall, and I know he'll be fine.

In general, I found this out to be true for chores and certain life skills: you don't need to start early. I taught my son how to do laundry right before he went to college, and he had no trouble at all. There is practically no learning curve to such things.

I feel your anger is mostly an expression of your anxiety, but you don't need to worry about this, really.

I’m more frustrated and sad than anxious or angry bc this transition is full of conflict tbh. She is the one who insisted she needed to go today and brought it up. I think tomorrow would be just fine.

Try not to let it get to you. She should have just done the minute clinic appointment. A strep test is pretty straightforward. Or she could have gone to an urgent care clinic. Sounds like you handled it just fine. So what if she is mad. In a couple of days, this will all be forgotten

[Anonymous]

My kids absolutely can and do when they're away at college. Even at home they will book urgent care appointments themselves. If it's a specialist or someone that involves finding a new Dr, I will help if they ask me to. I don't mind.

I rarely go to the Doctor with them-only if they ask me to. One has a chronic medical condition and she's a pro at going alone.

I still do all the insurance stuff because no one wants to deal with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd tell her she is old enough to make her own doctors appointments and I won't be making this one for her.

This!

By senior year I was making my own doctor, orthodontist, and allergist appointments and also driving myself to them.

[Anonymous]

I started making my own ortho appointments when I was 12. My own allergy appointments when I was 17. My own dental appointments? Hmm. High school, I think. Pediatrician I don't remember.

She needs to learn how to handle this. And she should have said yes to the pediatrician appointment tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Mine is 21. I still make the appointment at home for her. When she’s at college and needs care she does it on her own (after some coaching from me).

[Anonymous]

My daughter is 18, and I still schedule her appointments. She went to a new doctor 3 weeks ago and I went with her after she asked me to.

She's independent and at this moment is at an appointment to get fingerprinted for a job by herself, but just because she's 18, if it makes her more comfortable for me to go, then I go.

[Anonymous]

I am curious what was wrong with the lady (?) at the Minute Clinic? Did she mean the receptionist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am curious what was wrong with the lady (?) at the Minute Clinic? Did she mean the receptionist?

+1. It’s fine to not like the receptionist/nurse/doctor/whatever, but then she needs to take responsibility for finding a medical practice she does like and getting herself established as a patient.

[Anonymous]

She needs to make her own appt. Come on.

[Anonymous]

My sons started making their own appointments at 18.