When did your adult child start booking med appointments?

[Anonymous]

My dd turned 18 and she says she has strep. She's a bit of a hypochondriac and I actually doubt she does. I thought it'd be a good opportunity for her to make her first appointment but she had no success, left the minute clinic bc she didn't like the lady, said no to tomorrow at pediatrician. Now she's mad at me bc I have not found her an appointment for today. I asked what she'll do in college and she said she'd call me. At 18 I made my own appointments.

[Anonymous]

You are dealing with a couple of issues here. If she wants you to make an appt and then goes, doesn't leave, and refuses the times you find, she can handle it herself. If she's busy in class and you book and she goes and follows through, that seems ok. She will have to handle in college.

[Anonymous]

It's not a big deal, just help her make the appointment. This will not cripple in life, I promise.

[Anonymous]

My son is 17 and just graduated high school. He made all of his appointments upon graduating physical, dentist, urgent care was needed too). I made sure to tell him to have a card to pay, his health insurance card and his id. He transported himself. He filled out all the paperwork. He retrieved his medicine from the pharmacist. As a parent, we need to be sure that we are helping our children become functional adults that are capable of caring for themselves. I find her being mad at you is very disrespectful, selfish and rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is 17 and just graduated high school. He made all of his appointments upon graduating physical, dentist, urgent care was needed too). I made sure to tell him to have a card to pay, his health insurance card and his id. He transported himself. He filled out all the paperwork. He retrieved his medicine from the pharmacist. As a parent, we need to be sure that we are helping our children become functional adults that are capable of caring for themselves. I find her being mad at you is very disrespectful, selfish and rude.

I gave her the insurance and HSA card and explained everything. She is very good about driving places but the minute she got to the minute clinic she called me frantic about it, saying she didn't like the lady. So I said fine, you can call pediatrician. She did and they had nothing today. Now she is pouting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not a big deal, just help her make the appointment. This will not cripple in life, I promise.

I did help (explained what to do, gave her everything she needed) The minute clinic I recommended is fine as a walk-in. She did not like the provider. Then I was right here when she tried pediatrician. Now she doesn't want to try Walgreens. It just felt like this was a good opportunity for her to try and handle things. I said so and she goes "but I'm a kid, it's normal I need help"...I did help!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are dealing with a couple of issues here. If she wants you to make an appt and then goes, doesn't leave, and refuses the times you find, she can handle it herself. If she's busy in class and you book and she goes and follows through, that seems ok. She will have to handle in college.

She's a senior and had an exam this am and now she's been done for a couple hours.

[Anonymous]

I'd call together.

I'm sympathetic as we got a reminder on our home phone this morning for our college daughter about an appointment tomorrow. She's in Europe for the semester, so I assume she won't make it. I called the office to cancel rather than letting them charge her. She apparently made the appointment a year ago at the last appointment.

[Anonymous]

I'd tell her she is old enough to make her own doctors appointments and I won't be making this one for her.

[Anonymous]

Mine started at 14/15.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd call together.

I'm sympathetic as we got a reminder on our home phone this morning for our college daughter about an appointment tomorrow. She's in Europe for the semester, so I assume she won't make it. I called the office to cancel rather than letting them charge her. She apparently made the appointment a year ago at the last appointment.

I would definitely help in that case (especially bc that would be me paying!) and if she were calling me from school sick as well. She's really barely sick. Likely a little run down from exam and the exam room atmosphere. But fine, I don't mind paying a copay for her to try and see how appointments go on her own. I thought it'd be good. Instead it turned into yet another "I can't do it" type situation which is frustrating for both of us.

[Anonymous]

18/19, I had to first help my daughter find the health clinic information for her college. Then she was able to call and book herself.

When she needed a specialist (at 19) I booked for her, and she handled the appointment on her own. It's a transition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:18/19, I had to first help my daughter find the health clinic information for her college. Then she was able to call and book herself.

When she needed a specialist (at 19) I booked for her, and she handled the appointment on her own. It's a transition.

I did tell her where to go. I just feel awful about most interactions with her lately. This is a very difficult age. I'm finding that she's not independent at all in some ways, and these independent experiments are frustrating. Yesterday we had another issue with her new Kindle. I had her deal with Amazon customer service. She was so pissed at it all but was able to solve it eventually. Maybe it's all very normal, but I preferred doing things for her and for everything to run smoothly and with no fights!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son is 17 and just graduated high school. He made all of his appointments upon graduating physical, dentist, urgent care was needed too). I made sure to tell him to have a card to pay, his health insurance card and his id. He transported himself. He filled out all the paperwork. He retrieved his medicine from the pharmacist. As a parent, we need to be sure that we are helping our children become functional adults that are capable of caring for themselves. I find her being mad at you is very disrespectful, selfish and rude.

My kid's doctor turns away anyone 18 and younger. They can't legally make medical decisions for themselves until 18.

Once kid turned 18, medical practice no longer allowed us access to the account. Part of this began at age 16...

My kid started making appts at 18/19. It helps that making appointments does not involve talking on the phone. When kid had strep last week, I drove her to the doctor. She also wanted me to come into the appt with her. I assume this is because she felt so sick. That was fine. I had the time and am glad to give a sick person a ride and provide support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son is 17 and just graduated high school. He made all of his appointments upon graduating physical, dentist, urgent care was needed too). I made sure to tell him to have a card to pay, his health insurance card and his id. He transported himself. He filled out all the paperwork. He retrieved his medicine from the pharmacist. As a parent, we need to be sure that we are helping our children become functional adults that are capable of caring for themselves. I find her being mad at you is very disrespectful, selfish and rude.

My kid's doctor turns away anyone 18 and younger. They can't legally make medical decisions for themselves until 18.

Once kid turned 18, medical practice no longer allowed us access to the account. Part of this began at age 16...

My kid started making appts at 18/19. It helps that making appointments does not involve talking on the phone. When kid had strep last week, I drove her to the doctor. She also wanted me to come into the appt with her. I assume this is because she felt so sick. That was fine. I had the time and am glad to give a sick person a ride and provide support.

Op here and to be clear if she seemed sick it would be very different! She has driven to school, went to get a bday gift for a friend…she’s out and about and not lethargic and looks fine.