Drinking before college

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious for everyone keeping their kids dry....what exactly do you expect will happen when they are exposed to unlimited alcohol during the first few nights they are at college and for the entire freshman and sophomore years before they turn legal?

Maybe not drink if they weren’t allowed and/or taught to drink at home. Everyone advocating for kids having drinks at home is merely teaching them to acquire the taste. You do realize any drinking before 21 will train their brains to respond more positively to alcohol, right?

[Anonymous]

In our state, people under 21 may legally drink alcohol if they are in a private residence and under the supervision of their parents/guardians. We have included DC in drinking wine with us at meals from time to time; we would never give him drinks before a party.

We knew that he would probably drink at graduation parties, so our rule was that he could attend as long as a parent would be picking him up at night. He ended up completely safe.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not on providing alcohol to minors. I was wild in college, but no longer drink much as an adult. One glass of wine annoyingly gives me a hangover, so not worth it. My oldest doesn’t drink at all, youngest is more rebellious so we’ll see in college.

Oldest is an EMT in college and it’s been interesting hearing stories. Majority of calls are kids vomiting and scared. I guess it’s worst in in Fall as freshman figure out their tolerance levels. Glad they call, better safe than sorry, but in my day it was called “puke and rally.” Not making fun, it’s serious, just didn’t expect so many new drinkers calling for emergency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious for everyone keeping their kids dry....what exactly do you expect will happen when they are exposed to unlimited alcohol during the first few nights they are at college and for the entire freshman and sophomore years before they turn legal?

Maybe not drink if they weren’t allowed and/or taught to drink at home. Everyone advocating for kids having drinks at home is merely teaching them to acquire the taste. You do realize any drinking before 21 will train their brains to respond more positively to alcohol, right?

THIS EXACTLY!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don't serve alcohol to minors but know parents who do. Also it seems common here in the DMV for older teens to have fake IDs and go to bars with their parents knowledge. These are kids from UMC and MC families.

Significant group from DC privates too. I just don’t get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious for everyone keeping their kids dry....what exactly do you expect will happen when they are exposed to unlimited alcohol during the first few nights they are at college and for the entire freshman and sophomore years before they turn legal?

The research is clear: The younger kids are when they start drinking, the higher their risk will be for developing alcohol use disorder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious for everyone keeping their kids dry....what exactly do you expect will happen when they are exposed to unlimited alcohol during the first few nights they are at college and for the entire freshman and sophomore years before they turn legal?

The research is clear: The younger kids are when they start drinking, the higher their risk will be for developing alcohol use disorder.

This. Already answered with EMT kid. We rarely ever have a drink, maybe 5 times a year a glass of something. So, kid wasn’t exposed much or interested. Their group of friends are very healthy, loves gym, focused on med school goals. Family lives in UK, believe they’ve said their studies have shown they have more alcohol abuse as adults even though the logic was don’t make it forbidden fruit.

[Anonymous]

We never served alcohol.

We knew they had fake ids and we didn’t confiscate them.

We knew they drank at other people’s houses so we provided unlimited Uber.

We discussed what to do in certain dangerous situations… cops arriving, someone is throwing up, etc. don’t drink and swim.

I’d say if you have a kid that won’t drink lean into that but don’t put your head in the sand.

Don’t forget about drugs… kids think they can get high and drive, educate them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious for everyone keeping their kids dry....what exactly do you expect will happen when they are exposed to unlimited alcohol during the first few nights they are at college and for the entire freshman and sophomore years before they turn legal?

The research is clear: The younger kids are when they start drinking, the higher their risk will be for developing alcohol use disorder.

You don’t need use disorder to over drink and die.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We never served alcohol.

We knew they had fake ids and we didn’t confiscate them.

We knew they drank at other people’s houses so we provided unlimited Uber.

We discussed what to do in certain dangerous situations… cops arriving, someone is throwing up, etc. don’t drink and swim.

I’d say if you have a kid that won’t drink lean into that but don’t put your head in the sand.

Don’t forget about drugs… kids think they can get high and drive, educate them.

This is us too and most of our friends and kids’ friends’ parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We never served alcohol.

We knew they had fake ids and we didn’t confiscate them.

We knew they drank at other people’s houses so we provided unlimited Uber.

We discussed what to do in certain dangerous situations… cops arriving, someone is throwing up, etc. don’t drink and swim.

I’d say if you have a kid that won’t drink lean into that but don’t put your head in the sand.

Don’t forget about drugs… kids think they can get high and drive, educate them.

This is us too and most of our friends and kids’ friends’ parents

Why are you ok with fake IDs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most parents don’t necessarily “let” them kids drink but the kids are drinking anyway. DS and his friends drink. He knows we don’t approve but also that we’re not going to punish him as long as he doesn’t drink in excess and never drives or rides with someone who has had a drink.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious for everyone keeping their kids dry....what exactly do you expect will happen when they are exposed to unlimited alcohol during the first few nights they are at college and for the entire freshman and sophomore years before they turn legal?

Gee, maybe… continue not to drink illegally? Worked for me & all my siblings. And my now-DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious for everyone keeping their kids dry....what exactly do you expect will happen when they are exposed to unlimited alcohol during the first few nights they are at college and for the entire freshman and sophomore years before they turn legal?

Maybe not drink if they weren’t allowed and/or taught to drink at home. Everyone advocating for kids having drinks at home is merely teaching them to acquire the taste. You do realize any drinking before 21 will train their brains to respond more positively to alcohol, right?

THIS EXACTLY!!!

You two are delusional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In our state, people under 21 may legally drink alcohol if they are in a private residence and under the supervision of their parents/guardians. We have included DC in drinking wine with us at meals from time to time; we would never give him drinks before a party.

Possibly true someplace. Definitely not true in VA.

Parents in VA who allowed alcohol to under-21s sometimes are prosecuted - and in at least some cases jail time has resulted.