Have you known a woman who develops a literal nonstop-stop talking trait in mid life?

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Anonymous wrote:Oh man, I’m kind of like this in menopause. Well, not THAT bad but I have an almost compulsive need to verbalize the things that are causing me stress. I’m only like that at home with my family, so I can control it but I’m sure it annoys the F out of them. I likely do have undiagnosed ADD.

I’m really trying to work on it. I’m very aware of it, unlike your relative and thankfully, I’m also a good listener and can be quiet for long stretches - this is very intermittent, during periods of high stress.

Ufff. I am in the same shoes. I am horrified at how much I talk nowadays. Yes, I am also a good listener but the need to verbalize everything invokes shame for me after it is over.

Me too. I hate it when I can see my kid's eyes glaze over, and somehow still HAVE TO finish my thought.

Solidarity.

NP. It’s so interesting to me that some of you do this while being fully aware of it. Have you tried to force yourself to stop part way through a monologue? If so, how did that make you feel? And if you are alone, do you talk to yourself?

I think it becomes a second nature to them, and they might have moments of realization, but then immediately lapse back into the talking.

It's definitely a sign of neurological changes.

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Anonymous wrote:My mother was this way; had to constantly yammer on and was never content to sit quietly or enjoy time with family without constant banter.

I used to drive her to her hometown every summer (a 4 hour car ride) and one time I was so excited to listen to a new CD (that’s how long ago this was) on the trip but did my own experiment; I never got to hear one line of lyrics much less a song without her talking.

Absolutely maddening.

Was diagnosed with moderate cognitive decline first then experienced manic episodes towards the end of her life. Refused to take meds.

She developed bipolar at the end of her life? Or she always had it but was finally diagnosed?

PP above and there’s a genetic component as her mother had why was then known as manic depression. In my mom’s case, she would exhibit manic symptoms near the end of her life; refused meds and diagnosis so I guess technically undiagnosed.

She was always very chatty but got progressively more so.

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Some medications can cause ribs as a side effect. And people sometimes get manic if their thyroid is out of whack.

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My mom does this, and as others have said. I suspect it's ADHD and anxiety. What is hilarious though, is that one of her best friends does it too, and she is always complaining how her friend talks too much much and she can't get a word in edgewise. My siblings and I just bite our tongues.

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That behaviour is not normal. Sounds like she is having some kind of mental crisis.

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She's manic.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh man, I’m kind of like this in menopause. Well, not THAT bad but I have an almost compulsive need to verbalize the things that are causing me stress. I’m only like that at home with my family, so I can control it but I’m sure it annoys the F out of them. I likely do have undiagnosed ADD.

I’m really trying to work on it. I’m very aware of it, unlike your relative and thankfully, I’m also a good listener and can be quiet for long stretches - this is very intermittent, during periods of high stress.

Ufff. I am in the same shoes. I am horrified at how much I talk nowadays. Yes, I am also a good listener but the need to verbalize everything invokes shame for me after it is over.

No one respects talkative people. Mainly because they overshare, come across as vapid, arrogant, shallow, judgemental, low-intelligence, know-it-all or gossipy.

I am supposed to walk for an hour every day for my health. I find I find it easy if I am on the phone talking to people. But, I am aware that no one needs to be subjected to my talking endlessly for an hour. For the sake of my self-respect and to preserve my friendships, I am absolutely contemplating having some kind of chatGPT or AI conversation companion every day. I know it sounds a little sad, but right now I cannot think of a better and cheaper solution than this. The only problem I have is the fear that AI could exploit the conversation data.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh man, I’m kind of like this in menopause. Well, not THAT bad but I have an almost compulsive need to verbalize the things that are causing me stress. I’m only like that at home with my family, so I can control it but I’m sure it annoys the F out of them. I likely do have undiagnosed ADD.

I’m really trying to work on it. I’m very aware of it, unlike your relative and thankfully, I’m also a good listener and can be quiet for long stretches - this is very intermittent, during periods of high stress.

Ufff. I am in the same shoes. I am horrified at how much I talk nowadays. Yes, I am also a good listener but the need to verbalize everything invokes shame for me after it is over.

No one respects talkative people. Mainly because they overshare, come across as vapid, arrogant, shallow, judgemental, low-intelligence, know-it-all or gossipy.

I am supposed to walk for an hour every day for my health. I find I find it easy if I am on the phone talking to people. But, I am aware that no one needs to be subjected to my talking endlessly for an hour. For the sake of my self-respect and to preserve my friendships, I am absolutely contemplating having some kind of chatGPT or AI conversation companion every day. I know it sounds a little sad, but right now I cannot think of a better and cheaper solution than this. The only problem I have is the fear that AI could exploit the conversation data.

Do you have social anxiety or something? You have a serious hang up about talking. Is your first paragraph what you keep telling yourself?

A conversation is good, most people appreciate it. My two close friends and I have a weekly zoom gab fest that we look forward to.