Is it rude to not offer all wedding guests a +1?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's nice to send an invitation to someone's long-term romantic partner, but a generic +1? Go ahead if you want to, but a wedding is not just another random social event. It's fine if the couple only wants guests they actually know

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A wedding is an intimate event with close family and friends. Singles don't get a plus one that the bride or groom don't know.

Who wants to go to a social event alone? If bride and groom are young and have a bunch of uncoupled friends I think it’s maybe ok, but no one wants to go to a wedding alone unless they know a bunch of people going alone.

[Anonymous]

Not rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's rude. I still think about my cousin who wouldn't let me bring my fiancee to his wedding.

It’s a major faux pas not to invite a fiancée. I would probably boycott for this reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A wedding is an intimate event with close family and friends. Singles don't get a plus one that the bride or groom don't know.

Who wants to go to a social event alone? If bride and groom are young and have a bunch of uncoupled friends I think it’s maybe ok, but no one wants to go to a wedding alone unless they know a bunch of people going alone.

Agreed. When hosting an event you want to be gracious and make your guests comfortable. I personally would not be thinking about it as “the bride or groom don’t know this person,” I would be thinking about it as “I’m hosting dear family and friends and want them to feel welcome.”

As a side note, my husband is from another state so I hadn’t met all his friends by the time we were engaged/married, and I certainly hadn’t met their fiancés/girlfriends/etc. But the weddings we all mutually attended over a few years (including mine) formed a great basis of acquaintanceship and bonded the group a bit.

[Anonymous]

I really appreciate the option to bring a plus one if everyone else at the wedding is coupled or I don't know many people. A lot of coupled folks don't realize how hard it can be to not feel really awkward going to events solo when you don't know anyone but the bride or groom.

I would never bring some random person, though. I'd bring someone the bride knew and liked.

[Anonymous]

Perpetually single here and recently got invited to a friend’s out of town wedding. Didn’t expect to get a plus one but did and was very grateful to have the option. If you can swing it, do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's rude. I still think about my cousin who wouldn't let me bring my fiancee to his wedding.

I'm against +1 but I would invite any fiance/fiancee. They are not a random +1, but a known person with a name and a long-term commitment. That said, only the host knows how many people they have space for, and how to handle.