Is it rude to not offer all wedding guests a +1?

[Anonymous]

Even if the person is perpetually single? Or is it better just to offer the+1 to spare feelings

[Anonymous]

Offer the +1 unless you don't have the space/funds. The point is to let them bring somebody they know well to sit with and dance with - it doesn't have to be a long term partner.

[Anonymous]

I think you should always offer a +1.

[Anonymous]

It's not rude. Sometimes if people are invited with a +1, they will feel pressure to bring someone. Then they're hauling some rando to a wedding of strangers and it's awkward all around, plus why pay for a stranger to attend your wedding? 20 years later it's "Who's that guy? Oh, some dude Second Cousin Sara was banging before she married her husband four years later."

Only invite a person with a +1 if you know they're in a serious relationship.

[Anonymous]

I see both sides of this kind of because who really wants a bunch of random people you’ve never met at your wedding. But ultimately, you’re schmoozing and visiting all night and the guests are there fending for themselves so they really should have a +1.

[Anonymous]

A wedding is an intimate event with close family and friends. Singles don't get a plus one that the bride or groom don't know.

[Anonymous]

I gave everyone a plus one because I could and I think it’s nice. Some people didn’t use it. When I was single I sometimes did and sometimes didn’t.

If you’re going to have any kind of rule about the significance of the relationship, don’t tell anyone!! That’s so rude. If you’re only inviting “serious” relationships the name is on the invitation. So if anyone asks, you regrettably couldn’t accommodate plus ones. Not “we didn’t give one to Sara because no one thinks that personal trainer will last.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A wedding is an intimate event with close family and friends. Singles don't get a plus one that the bride or groom don't know.

Many, many weddings are not intimate events like you describe.

Like most etiquette questions, I think this goes back to making the guest comfortable. At a truly small event where he'll know at least half the room? Fine to be single. A 200 person party with lots of people who don't know each other? Let your cousin bring a date to talk to.

[Anonymous]

When you can be anything, be kind
Do the +1

[Anonymous]

Always offer the +1. The worst is when you decide when another's relationship is valid enough to merit an invite.

[Anonymous]

unless you are from a family with a "no ring no bring" policy that goes back generations give them a plus 1.
and it's not to "spare their feelings"
it's because its rude not to allow an adult to bring a date to a formal event.

For context, I am also the person walking around to the ppl sitting and not dancing saying "Suzie's dad paid a shit ton for this band and photographer. Get up and have fun." (and i realize that it's not always suzie's dad, and it's not always a band) but my point is the "contract" goes both ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:unless you are from a family with a "no ring no bring" policy that goes back generations give them a plus 1.
and it's not to "spare their feelings"
it's because its rude not to allow an adult to bring a date to a formal event.

For context, I am also the person walking around to the ppl sitting and not dancing saying "Suzie's dad paid a shit ton for this band and photographer. Get up and have fun." (and i realize that it's not always suzie's dad, and it's not always a band) but my point is the "contract" goes both ways.

Not sure a family tradition of having stupid rules excuses the continuance of stupid rules.

[Anonymous]

At the price of weddings today, no way are those not in long-term relationships getting a +1. When is the last time some of you hosted a wedding?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should always offer a +1.

Same here. Unless the wedding is very small and you do the same for all single people not just the one uncle you don’t think will bring someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:unless you are from a family with a "no ring no bring" policy that goes back generations give them a plus 1.
and it's not to "spare their feelings"
it's because its rude not to allow an adult to bring a date to a formal event.

For context, I am also the person walking around to the ppl sitting and not dancing saying "Suzie's dad paid a shit ton for this band and photographer. Get up and have fun." (and i realize that it's not always suzie's dad, and it's not always a band) but my point is the "contract" goes both ways.

No ring no bring is better used for
-family vacations
-very small weddings
-celebrities, even small celebrities, because if you’re pictured at a wedding gets people talking