How do I tell my parents it’s my business if I don’t want kids?

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Anonymous wrote:So if it’s your business, why do you want to tell them?

I know you’ll say, so they stop bugging you.

But think deeper.

Why do you need to tell them if it’s not their business?

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Anonymous wrote:They should know that having kids is a life-changing responsibility and should of me for recognizing that I’m not cut out for it.

They want grandkids and that's their business. Do they have other options?

Not their business. Not when it’s someone else having the child.

If they want grandkids they can adopt them.

Grandma can't make her own grandkids unless OP donates an egg.

Some people think humans are robots, and I don't get it.

That’s the same as saying if OP adopted children, Ops parents would not accept them as grandchildren.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t engage. You don’t need to explain yourself or let them hound you. If they question you just say you’re not interested in talking about it anymore and change the subject. If they won’t stop, end the interaction.

When one of my DDs told me she didn’t want children I did have some questions. I asked her if she would be ok talking about it and she agreed. I wanted to understand her decision and I did not try to convince her to change her mind or belittle her decision. And that was that. I respect her decision and it’s not an issue. I would feel the same way even if she had said no to my initial question. You have the right to make this decision and if your parents don’t get that you will have to be very firm with your boundaries.

Lol your first paragraph is in direct conflict with your second.

It would be if I continually questioned her, or if I indicated that I had pushed her to tell me more about her decision or tried to talk her out of it. I guess you didn’t read. I ASKED her permission to talk about it ONE TIME. During that talk I did NOT try to talk her out of it or belittle her choice (you’ll change your mind when X happens, etc.).

Meh. You’re splitting hairs. The bottom line is you said “you don’t need to explain yourself” but then said you asked your daughter to explain herself.

Stop hounding the PP. I understand her explanation.

Thank you. I'm PP and my DD felt nothing but acceptance.

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Anonymous wrote:They should know that having kids is a life-changing responsibility and should of me for recognizing that I’m not cut out for it.

They want grandkids and that's their business. Do they have other options?

Not their business. Not when it’s someone else having the child.

If they want grandkids they can adopt them.

Grandma can't make her own grandkids unless OP donates an egg.

Some people think humans are robots, and I don't get it.

NP. Learning to accept that you don't always get what you want feels like something that should have happened before you're old enough to have adult kids.

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Anonymous wrote:They should know that having kids is a life-changing responsibility and should of me for recognizing that I’m not cut out for it.

They want grandkids and that's their business. Do they have other options?

Not their business. Not when it’s someone else having the child.

If they want grandkids they can adopt them.

Grandma can't make her own grandkids unless OP donates an egg.

Some people think humans are robots, and I don't get it.

NP. Learning to accept that you don't always get what you want feels like something that should have happened before you're old enough to have adult kids.

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Just like you don’t owe your parents grandchildren, your parents don’t owe you anything in their will. So if you want them to leave you alone, I would tell your parents that you’re fine with being cut out of their will.

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Anonymous wrote:They should know that having kids is a life-changing responsibility and should of me for recognizing that I’m not cut out for it.

They want grandkids and that's their business. Do they have other options?

Not their business. Not when it’s someone else having the child.

If they want grandkids they can adopt them.

Grandma can't make her own grandkids unless OP donates an egg.

Some people think humans are robots, and I don't get it.

That’s the same as saying if OP adopted children, Ops parents would not accept them as grandchildren.

Wtf?!

How do you adopt grandkids?? This person (not OP) seems like a loon.

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Anonymous wrote:Just like you don’t owe your parents grandchildren, your parents don’t owe you anything in their will. So if you want them to leave you alone, I would tell your parents that you’re fine with being cut out of their will.

Are you saying that OP owes her parents grandchildren and inheritance is payment for that? That's messed up. I'm pretty pro on people distributing their estates as they see fit which may not always mean an even decision, but suggesting that parents should punish children for choosing not to be parents is gross.